Do i have Aspergers?

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Hey everyone! My name is Charlotte and i am 23 years old. I was diagnosed with social phobia, separation anxiety and elective muteism when i was about 12-15ish. I have an appointment to see a specialist next week to see if i have aspergers. I am not too sure if i actually have it. If i say a bit about myself could any of you guys maybe tell me if i might be or not?

I only talk to my immediate family. Anyone else i have real problems with. even aunts and uncles. I physically can't say anything. I get very nervous with all social situations. I can't walk out the house on my own. When i am with my family i can chat and talk fine. It's just with everyone else i have problems. Talking on the internet is fairly easy for my though for some reason. Although it can take me a long while to decide what to write and then i have check it a load of times before i actually post it. Real time chats are hard for me as i find the conversation moves too fast for me to keep up.

I find it very hard to make decisions, even small ones like what to have for dinner. I hate change. I like my routine. We recently got a new car which i refuse to go in. I hate it. I like the old one. Our toaster broke and i had to have the same on as before. If my mum said spontaneously "lets got out" I would panic and "shut down". When i get upset i "shut down". I cry silently and sit or stand still and stiff. I won't say or do anything until i have calmed down. I drink out of the same cup i have had for years. I won't let anyone clean or even touch it. I always have to wear long sleeves when i go out. I used to only wear one top but i have gradually got a better selection with a little help.

I am sure i have forgotten a few things, but what do you guys think?

I am by no means an expert and from the information you gave it is missing some aspie traits. Usually aspies have a topic, subject, or interest that they are abnormally (by NT definition) obsessed over. Plus I don't see any references to stimming but you might not know what it is and many who do it don't know they are doing it (sounds strange I know). At any rate, it is best left to the professionals to diagnose since that is what it sounds like will happen for you.

Edit: And forgot to say hello and welcome to the forum. How rude of me...

Oh, i knew i forgot something. I love dragons, although i guess not over the top. And all animals

As for stimming, i do rock back and forth occasionally when i am upset. I also tend to repeatedly touch my thumb and first finger together when i am upset as well. I shake my hands fast quite a lot, either when i am happy or sad. I also have a weird habit of making a ring with my thumb and finger and looking out of it. I don't know why though. I think there's a few other things i do but i can't remember right now.

Thanks for the welcome KB8CWB ^_^

You are quite welcome! And even if you end up NOT having it, you are still most welcome here. From what I have seen we are quite diverse and not all aspies or on the ASD.

Welcome!

Do you have sensory issues?

Hmmm, not really. I hate the noise of hoovers and sewing machines, but general loud noises don't bother me too much. I do like to touch things, rub my hand over things, poke things.

Welcome to WP

You could be on the spectrum, but I couldn't say for certain.

I just realised what you said for yourself, that I see in me - every time my parents want me to spontaneously go out, it's a very difficult task. I just can't prepare myself for it. I manage OK, but I don't like it.

I like appointments and specific times because it's not spontaneous.

Hi Wind. It's great to find similarities between people. Makes me feel almost "normal" Appointments are fine for me as well and as long as i know what time we are leaving i am happy. My parents annoy me when i ask what time we are leaving, and they just say"when we are ready". How am i supposed to know when that is! They are like "Why are you ready so early, we aren't going yet" or suddenly say "Right, lets go" They do it on purpose sometimes!

Wow, are you sure you're not a secret sibling? Sounds exactly the same as my parents.

I hope you find an answer soon.

I have to have everything all planned out. I get uber annoyed if someone changes it such as moving up the time. I also don't like people showing up unannounced or calling and wanting to meet up or come over right away. I am so bad I normally don't answer my phone and let it go to voice mail. Depending upon who it is and what they want I may call them back right away or not. It stresses me out and I am the type the house has to be perfect and all planned before someone comes over. If there is a plan and it is followed, I can find it enjoyable. But even so afterwards I have to have down time to recharge as ANY social situation exhausts me.

Haha, a secret sibling! In all fairness though, finding out i have a secret sibling would seriously freak me out!

I need to take down time after social situations too! I like to just go to my room, listen to music and play on my laptop or xbox until i am chilled.

Most of your symptoms are better explained by social phobia. Seeking professional diagnosis is probably more useful than asking us, though Hope it goes well.