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I hate being asked "what's your favorite color" flower, food, book, movie, music, etc. because I don't have clear-cut favorites.

I either like an individual option or I don't. Beyond that, I don't have hierarchies of things I like "more" or "less".

I like "pretty" flowers and don't like "ugly" ones. I like fragrances that smell "good" and don't like ones that "stink."

For example, if I'm shopping and find two blouses I like equally, I'll buy them both rather than stand there trying to choose between two equally acceptable alternatives. If I can't afford them both, I probably won't buy either one.

Reading the menu is not a recreational activity for me. I went out to eat probably because I was hungry, and for breakfast I know I like A, B or C; for lunch I know I like D, E or F; and for dinner I know I like G, H or I.

Going shopping without a list (either in hand or in my head) is stressful for me. I went because I needed food, and I want to get in there and get out before I'm overwhelmed by choices, bad lighting, people and noise.

So that's it from me; now I'm interested to hear from you!

I have the same problem with favorites as well. Like music, for me it is mood dependent and can range from classical to metal. As for stores, I loath going into them and usually will go late at night say to walmart. Otherwise after about 1 or 2 minutes I am getting overloaded and can't remember what I am there for or what I am doing. And you won't catch me dead in a store from the end of October till after the first week in January. It's been getting worse for me since I have been off work too. I dread human contact even more...

I don't think you have to have "favorites..." You can just say something like, "Oh, I like different ones," or, "I like them all," or whichever applies. I give answers like that a lot, and people seem to be okay with it.

It's kind of funny, because my name has the word "pink" in it, so when I was younger and would tell people what my name was, "They'd always say, "Oh, well then, I bet your favorite color is pink!" And I'd think to myself, "I don't know...is it?" I'd never thought about what colors I'd liked prior to folks suggesting that my favorite one was actually pink on account of my name. Some of my clothing articles were pink, and my mom painted my room pink, people gave me things that were pink, so I just thought, "Well, people want and expect me to like the color pink, so I guess I do." And so whenever I would ask what my favorite color was, I'd say, "It's pink!" And I discovered that because of my name, I couldn't go wrong with that answer.

And I really DO like the color pink, don't get me wrong....it's a soothing color to me. I like other colors too, like blue and purple. I tend to gravitate more towards the "warmer" colors. I also like a lot of bright colors at once, which is probably part of why I like animated movies like Rio and Finding Nemo so much, along with My Little Pony.

When I was a kid this was a problem for me and it STILL is a problem for me. Whenever people try to get to know me, they'd ask about my favorite things and id answer "don't have one or I don't know" to everything. I'm always shocked when people have favorites out of thousands of choices. The only clear cut favorites of mine are my favorite color and my favorite number.

I don't have very many favorites either. Only my obsessions are my favorites.

I don't really have favorites either. I either like something or not. I can like or love things very much but to like or love one thing like a color over another as a favorite, I don't really do that. I think I did more when I was little but I love colors so much that it's hard to choose one over the rest. And some things look great in one color and terrible in another.

Favorite color: yes, I don't really have one.

I will say "blue" or "red" because something is expected, but that isn't really true. I like oranges, pruples, greens, yellows... and reds and blues--and mother of pearl and oil slicks.

For other things I don't like to spend a lot of time on decisions, so I tend to get the same things. I often have the same lunch every day. When I go out with people for a meal, I deliberately vary my choice so that my tendency to pick the same things doesn't become an issue. When I was on a diet and people asked about it, they were surprised that I had grilled chicken and salad with no dressing every day for months and this didn't bother me.

For clothes, I would always wear the same few things if my wife did not make other choices for me. Work: slacks and a button-up shirt, home: jeans and a T-shirt.

When I go shopping, I have a target list in mind and have a plan that will get me through the store in the fastest possible time. I never browse or shop for thing outside of my interests. I do like to look at things in art supply stores and hardware stores and electronic stores and I could spend all day looking at cameras and optical systems. This involves imagining things I would do with the tools. I suppose this is similar to what some people do with clothes.

I don't have favourites either. I'm too indecisive.

What a relief...I might not be "normal" but at least I'm not alone!

I think I read somewhere (or saw a discovery channel show) that people who lack emotions (or awareness of them) find making choices and picking favorites to be more difficult.
At least that's my excuse...

Same here, I love loads of different kinds of music but could never pick a favourite band or even a favourite song. How are you supposed to compare Nine Inch Nails with Tool or MC5?
At work once we all tried to list our top 10 films, I was on about 18 when we went home.
It's unusual that aspies enjoy routine and familiarity so much, yet find it hard to single out a favourite - or is this a lot less common than it seems?

Same here. Always have trouble answering those kinds of questions.

I can relate. I'm terrible with decisions in general.

I hate those kinds of questions too. I have likes and preferences but not necessarily favorites. It all depends on the context of the situation and how I feel. For instance the colors I like to decorate with are not the same ones I like to wear, and what colors I prefer to wear depend on what season it is.

Sometimes if I choose something, it's because that's the ONLY thing available in a certain context that I can live with, not because it's my favorite. But I think other people look at it like "wow you must really like that."

When people spontaneously ask me things like, what are your favorite movies, I usually just draw a blank because I can't remember any movies at that moment. I have no idea. If I already had movies on my mind maybe I could talk about a lot of different ones I like and would probably sound a little bit like a film snob, but I still can't really pick a favorite.

A few weeks ago a guy started chatting to me while I was working about music, wanted to know what kind of music I like, who's my favorite band. I honestly didn't have a clue at that moment because I was trying to think about doing my job. But I don't really have a favorite anyway. He just kept pushing me to name one.

What is the point anyway? Do people think they are going to get to know you based on you naming ONE thing you like, out of millions?

To your last line, strangely enough, yes, they do, people form an opinion about you from your favorite band, color, shoe style, you name it! You have to fit into some category, then they can stop "figuring you out" which is tiresome I suppose. I say this last with a little irony/sarcasm, it is true for sure, and just a little ironic. I can't say what my favorite anything is either. I tend to wear a lot of brown and neutral colors, earth tones, but I'm a Taurus, and an Aspie, nature loving, people could categorize me that way but when they learn my current preferred music is Dubstep, they can't "figure me out" anymore because I don't make sense- don't follow 'the norm' .

As social animals, humans need these categories to know who to associate with-- they want to build their team of like-minded people and trust that their opinions are well-received and enforced within that group. As an ASD person myself, these categories are pointless. I had trouble in high school because I would have acquaintences in multiple cliques.

I think it's kind of a relief not to have tons of favorite things because I'd be upset if I couldn't watch it or listen to it whenever I wanted to. It's easier just to have preferences. Also I have things that have to go with other things, can't be say, eaten alone, for example, I have to have Fritos corn chips with my cold tuna salad sandwich. I can't have either by themselves and if I'm having a tuna salad sandwich without chips, it has to be a hot sandwich, grilled or at least the bread toasted. Yes, I know I drive people nuts with this stuff, but it also helps me in my culinary profession because my dishes are well-balanced and texturally interesting (and pleasing to those with sensitivities).

I also have difficulty with making choices - a lot of it depends on how I am feeling at the time. I do not have a favourite food - there could be something that I really like, but some days I might prefer something else. Music, movies, etc. are the same thing. If I am given a choice between two things and one does not provide a clear advantage over the other, I have trouble making a decision.