Can't seem to find any meaning in all this?

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01 Apr 2014, 5:29 pm

I don't know if I'm the only one, but for the past few months I've been hard-pressed to find any sort of meaning to this thing called "life". Like, you live, go to work/school, then what? I live in an isolated part of town and my family I'm not very close with so it feels very strange and uncomfortable being here. And the things I used to derive a lot of pleasure out of (school, videogames) I find hard to now. I don't feel depressed or anything, just wiser. I've just been searching for a career path and really want to go back to school but there aren't any programs available anytime soon. Anyone feel similarly?



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01 Apr 2014, 5:41 pm

Oh, there's no "meaning." It's just a role-playing game.




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01 Apr 2014, 5:52 pm

The Meaning of Life is what you make of it, plus some input from your environment.



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01 Apr 2014, 5:57 pm

Obstinate wrote:
I don't know if I'm the only one, but for the past few months I've been hard-pressed to find any sort of meaning to this thing called "life". Like, you live, go to work/school, then what? I live in an isolated part of town and my family I'm not very close with so it feels very strange and uncomfortable being here. And the things I used to derive a lot of pleasure out of (school, videogames)


Hmmmm, the meaning of life, eh? You like to jump right in with the tough questions, don't you??

My guess is to do good deeds and to try to avoid hurting others.


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01 Apr 2014, 6:03 pm

LIfe has no intrinsic meaning, it just is.

Meaning is an essentially human construct, like the language which it originally refers to.
Thus, the only meaning in our lives is that with which we imbue it.

Philosophy was orginally construed as a search for meaning and truth, but modern philosophers content themselves with realizing that because of the fungibility of language meaning itself is an elusive term and in that sense at least everything is relative to its context.

I think the existentialists had it right, to some extent at least, when they described the feeling of being thrown into and by the world constantly as a central feature of our existence.
We''re basically just tossed into situation after situation, muddling our way through without ever really understanding how or knowing why.

Don't worry too much about meaning.
Doing is far more important in life than deciphering understanding from it.

Remember:
Before enlightenment, chop wood & carry water.
After enlightenment, chop wood & carry water.



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01 Apr 2014, 6:28 pm

Hmm...I guess it's also difficult because I realize I don't have any particular skills that make me employable in any field. I was in school for a few years and couldn't tolerate the environment and am thinking of going back to community but am unsure if it's even worth it. Am a security guard now and I like the work but since I was hospitalized for a manic episode it's kind of a dead end for me :(. I just feel like I'm destined for failure in life and there aren't too many options. I'm pretty much a non-verbal aspie when it comes to work and can't drive, which is a death sentence in LA. I don't know I just feel a lot of existential dread.



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01 Apr 2014, 6:37 pm

Well the meaning of life the universe and everything is forty-two xD

But seriously the harder you work at the things you don't like about your life the problems will mostly fade away . Even though when I am not so happy I feel the same way . But I guess everyone would.


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01 Apr 2014, 6:48 pm

At least you have a job.

What are your primary interests?



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01 Apr 2014, 6:54 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
At least you have a job.

What are your primary interests?


That is true.

Sad thing is, I don't even know. I could write a laundry list of things that've been forced upon me and I don't like but I can't write more than a few things that I like. I like music, I play the guitar some, videogames, fixing computers, tinkering with smartphones, public transport, and learning about urban history is really it. I feel undeveloped as a person.



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01 Apr 2014, 7:30 pm

You are young. Move out of LA, try everything, keep doing the things that make you feel happy, quit doing the things that make you feel miserable.



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01 Apr 2014, 7:37 pm

Computer repair, especially if you're good at it, will be a most lucrative field over the ensuing years. You'd have to go to college for that, though. Perhaps you could go on a part-time basis to start?



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01 Apr 2014, 7:42 pm

I was thinking of going back for an associates or certificate in computer repair to be a support specialist or repair person, or something of that sort. Might even transfer to a four-year. I was just afraid to do CompSci at the top school I was at (I SUCK at math :oops: )

And while LA is kind of a deathsend, I live at home rent-free and while miserable, can't really beat that price-wise. I'm thinking I'll work toward moving out in a year or two.



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01 Apr 2014, 10:16 pm

There is no meaning of life. It just happens. It is action, and reaction. Yet it is everything for you, because it is all you really have. There is nothing for you without awareness. It is what you do that defines you. Knowing who you are, and what you do is what makes you, you. I don't know any mathematical equations, but there are only three constants when it comes to awareness, and your life. The known, the unknown, and the unknowable. The known, are things you already know instinctively. The unknown are the things you can learn. And the unknowable is a chaotic mess that can never be learned, and has no real meaning.

Everyone is different. Know your talents. You can take some aptitude questionnaires and stuff to see what your talents are. That may help. Or just find something you enjoy that can be profitable.

Your current traits aren't making you any money, so you should be focusing on those things after school, or work. Sometimes hobbies, and special interests can make you money, however that should probably not be a priority for you.



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02 Apr 2014, 1:11 pm

What is life but a tale told by an idiot. Full of sound and fury, signifying nothing.


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02 Apr 2014, 5:35 pm

I guess I'm actually not so much worried about meaning but more about long-term what to do job-wise and such. I'm very emotionally undeveloped due to a toxic upbringing, coupled with AS, which severely limits my job opportunities. I don't know what my "passion" is, other than just wanting to work somewhere like an office or something sorting/filing papers or mailing out packages. Basically I just want to do odd jobs where I just have to interact with a person or two for the rest of my life, as sad as that sounds. But I'd also like to date and one day get married (no kids) so I'm kind of freaking out over a five year plan lately.



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02 Apr 2014, 5:57 pm

Obstinate wrote:
I guess I'm actually not so much worried about meaning but more about long-term what to do job-wise and such. I'm very emotionally undeveloped due to a toxic upbringing, coupled with AS, which severely limits my job opportunities. I don't know what my "passion" is, other than just wanting to work somewhere like an office or something sorting/filing papers or mailing out packages. Basically I just want to do odd jobs where I just have to interact with a person or two for the rest of my life, as sad as that sounds. But I'd also like to date and one day get married (no kids) so I'm kind of freaking out over a five year plan lately.


A job, yes, that's an interesting question. From your description, I'd recommend you becoming a used auto salesman.


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