does your dad have autism Traits

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My Dad is extremely extraverted and sociable. Not at all autistic, but I and most of my other relatives are convinced that he has ADHD. He's in his seventies, so never diagnosed.

My mother may have some mild autistic traits, but also some very un-autistic traits.

My dad is possibly more of an Aspie than I am. He is in the hospital right now with pancreatic cancer. He has no friends but my mom. He is obsessed with fixing things, figuring out how they work. He worked as a carpenter and cabinet maker for years, then became a truck driver, which he loved, but had to stop because he got sick. When you would ask him where he went, he would tell you every freakin' turn from GA to Texas, including why he didn't take alternate routes. But it feels so good just to be with him, because we don't have to talk. There is like a peace between us, a connection or an understanding, that I have never experienced with anyone else.

I don't think my dad has traits but there is Autism on his side of the family and other mental disorders as well.

I think my dad would be diagnosable, although he has some different traits from me and he seems more mild.

My dad ranges from complex stims to introversion to heeling with me... The only thing he seems to lack is the sensory problems that define us. It's strange to say the least... Especially the complex stims... I couldn't copy them if I tried.

I didn't see it until after I realized I had Asperger's, but my father definitely had some characteristics of ASD: limited social relationships; difficulties in displaying emotion and making emotional attachments (though he did better when I got older); completely socially oblivious; limited but intense interests; poor ability to handle stressors (especially in the workplace); poor temper control (improved as he got older and away from workplace stress); persistent speech impediment; and some motor behaviors that I suspect were survivors of childhood stimming. My paternal grandfather seems to have been similar, though he passed away when I was very young.

I have my suspicions about a couple of my aunts and uncles on both sides of my family, though I would have had to have lived in their households to be sure. In some cases, other psychiatric disorders may come into play or autistic tendencies may have been there but not reaching diagnostic threshhold. Even if the person has passed, I'm leary of asking my cousins questions about their parents that may offend them. There's also evidence of various genetic mutations on both sides of the family. There's no one else in the family tree quite like me, but I'm suspecting I may have gotten just the right combination of genetic mutations on my X chromosomes to have ended up with Goldenhar Syndrome, ASD, and associated comorbids. Without a genetic profile, I can't know for sure, however.

My dad?

Lower than average IQ.

Over-obsessed with football.

Lacks motivation in doing things around the house, has little interest in having a good home.

I don't exactly consider them Aspie traits. My mum and his mum reckons he just has learning difficulties.

Several times, by a couple of family members, I've been told that I'm practically a clone of my dad. We're very alike.

My biological father probably has Narcissistic Personality Disorder. I don't think I got Asperger's and PDD-NOS from him in my opinion. A couple of people on my mother's side of the family seem to have a few traits that are similar to Asperger's.

My parents don't even understand.

I feel like my autistic friends really understand what autism is and a few of my neurotypical friends and my siblings truly understand what social anxiety and OCD are. Unfortunately, no matter how many times I try to tell them, they tell me I'm "dramatizing" it and I need to suck it up.

My dad most certainly has traits. He's reclusive, doesn't talk much unless its about his favorite topics--and then you can't shut him up. In fact he seems shy, until you get him started talking about his special interests--then he loves an audience. He is incredibly clumsy. He has amazing skills in spatial reasoning and logic, and is a self-taught computer repairer, carpenter, mechanic, guitarist and handy-man. He suffers from anxiety, bouts of depression, and has an explosive temper. He's paranoid of others' intentions, though he is extremely gullible. In the past, he's been taken advantage of by his "friends" because he fails to recognize when someone is being insincere. He has major problems with language. I used to think it was because English was not his first language (after 21 years in the U.S. he can barely produce a sentence), but I realize now that he has problems understanding his native language as well. Sometimes its obvious he doesn't understand what I am saying, though he pretends he does. As a teenager and young adult, the majority of his friends were women--probably not being able to deal with male companionship--and judging by the stories, they just used him for his nice car. I think he got picked on a lot as a kid, which caused him to get into a lot of fights. My dad is incredibly intelligent, but did not do well in school. He dropped out of high school and the vocational program his father paid for. His mother was diagnosed as being schizoprhrenic (this was back in the 40s/50s in a second-world country), but I think she likely was an Aspie or Autisitc. She was a quiet person, who would go through periods of mutism and attempted suicide multiple times, until she finally succeeded. He gets so hyper-focused on accounting, playing music, or fixing a computer, that he doesn't hear you. In fact, we all used to think he was a little deaf. He hasn't been diagnosed, and likely never will. I am exactly like him and I'm starting to think I fall somewhere on the spectrum. It would explain so much.

Yeah he is almost exactly like me, although I think my case is more "severe" than his was.

dad is a classic aspie for someone of his age although it takes a specialist or someone on the spectrum or someone who knows what theyre looking for to spot it,he had been informaly diagnosed by old autism specialists of mine.
mum is just....well,mental,her sister who was informaly diagnosed by the specialists to though not with a specific label is quite obviously autistic for someone who is under the high functioning bracket,so whether she woud be under classic autism or aspergers [given we use the ICD manual here] isnt so clear but she has wanted to get assessed formaly as she is seen as the crazy one of the family,she is highly vulnerable and needs a lot of support which her husband gives,asking mum if auntie had significant speech delay woud be like asking her to complete brain surgery,her memory is screwed from the years of alcoholism.

My dad seems pretty NT to me. But he is a little on the eccentric side. I heard someone once say that he was kinda weird, but a very cool kind of weird. He reminds me of a few rock musicians I know of and dresses like one. He is the perfect dad for an autistic kid far as I'm concerned.

My dad had traits and he may have been in the very high functioning end of the spectrum.
He was a valued manager at Philips, so he did well professionally.
He was amiable, social, highly intelligent and gullable, often childlike at the same time, dutyful to the extreme, mathematical, practical, - but very secluded too, not easy to access, a deep thinker, exhibited some stims and behaviors like touching his face in a certain way when tense - and lining up things in front of him, like at the dinner table.
He had a difficult background and carried some traumas from it, so it is not easy to say which is which.

Mom was half aspie and half borderline with all, that goes with it.