Parental disapproval towards autistic friends

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My parents have warned me for the past few years that being around my autistic friends is dangerous because they believe they are going to kill me and they are weird. What can I do to convince them that they aren't dangerous?

Tell your parents to f**k off. That always worked for me.

The Squid feels perhaps some online statistics shown to your parents may be a better solution. If not, see above.

More then likely, you parents may think that if you don't hang around other autistic's, then you will outgrow your autism.

It's important to understand that your parents may not have any comprehension of the social depravity you suffer with everyday. To them, socializing is taken for granite. So in this situation, you may need to override(disobey) your parents judgement on this one.

Try talking to your parents about it first. Try to teach them what you can about autism, so they will understand that people with autism aren't crazy psychopaths.

If that doesn't work: it sucks, but it's your life. What's more important, listening to every rule your parents make, or keeping good friends?

Ask your parents if they think that YOU are weird and if YOU are going to kill people.

^ This.

Sorry to hear that your parents think this way, I can't understand why.

Plenty of NTs kill people too. Have they thought of that?

Killers come from ALL demographics!

Since the Adam Lanza murders, there's been this notion that people with Aspergers/Autism are loose cannons.

Adam Lanza had more than just Asperger's.

Do you hang out with "normal" kids as well?

Buy them Attwood's book as a combined Christmas present to them both. (A Complete Guide to..) Inscribe it with "understanding heals, ignorance kills"

Show them one of Alex's videos, this one for example https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LqvambL0ptc . (Alex Plank is the owner of WrongPlanet)

There is also good videos with Temple Grandin.

Tell your parents not to be silly! If not disobey I don't like to advocate that but its stupid! Unless they are really ill informed of AS they are being silly to be honest. It could be cause they want you to be around more NT's to as they would think 'help you' however you should chose your own friends and putting up the ohhh they dangerous thing for AS is really not nice and very stereotypical, as long as your happy with your friends is what matters, your parents maybe doing what they think is best for you but its your choice end of the day.

I suspect this plays a big part in how my parents see autism. Shortly after the Sandy Hook school shootings, my dad was looking around in online forums about this particular topic (Lanza and Aspergers) and to my parents, my autistic friends will probably end up like that or even me (I've gotten into a lot of fights at school) but I am around some neurotypical people. My brother and sister are neurotypical too and I'm more or less on good terms with them too.

Autism isn't inherently violent. Most auties/aspies who are violent have underlying issues that make them violent that have nothing to do with Autism. Your parents need to really learn what Autism is, cause most people who have it will bottle up inside instead of lashing out at the world. It's like Callista wrote in a different topic: by the time most people with Autism snap, they forget that other people exist and if someone gets hurt, it's likely because they got in their face or got too close when they were lashing out. Not because they're attempting to hurt someone. Adam Lanza is to Aspergers what Eric Harris/Dylan Klebold was to Doom: a scapegoat for hurt victims to point fingers at since the perpetrators are no longer around to blame or give answers.

Ask them if they're worried that you might become an engineer or something, as that's a whole lot more probable than autistic influences making you into a mass shooter.

to me that's a really weird thing for the parents of an autistic kid to say or think. i would ask them how they would feel about people thinking that about you. and say if they think that's true of your autistic friends, they must think that about you too. Adam Lanza's Sandy Hook shooting spree had to do with him being a homicidal maniac, trying to outdo another homicidal maniac named Anders Breivik and not Asperger's.