are you well liked

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It depends. Kids usually like me for some reason, but I never liked babysitting much (eventho I did a few times) because I don't have much authority and they can push me around lol. Other than that some people like me, others hate me. I was very lucky at 2 of the places where I worked, I met great NT girls who helped me, but there was also other ones who hated me. One of my issues is that I am pretty much like a child in some ways, and I am also shy, but I can also be very opiniated. Some people hate me because they assume some things about me, sometimes due to misunderstanding of my personality (for example, my shyness is sometimes taken as snobbism, which I am definitely not), and also the fact that I am not into socialising much probably doesn't help.

But I guess its the same for everyone (AS, NT, or anything else), some people like you and some don't, no one can please everyone.

I have a personality akin to Dr. House and I cannot change that.

I'm not a 'rainbows and unicorn farts' type of person...I'm down to earth and I pull no punches...saying whatever I think or feel.

For years I tried to get people to like me, but to no avail...everybody just hated me anyway, so I decided to make people hate me more than they already do and to actually start providing reasons for it, rather than going through my whole life, never having the question answered; 'why does everybody hate me?'

Seriously, the Westbro Baptist Church ain't got nothing on me...and now I am totally proud of my ability to be despised.

Haters will hate....and all that.

This. I'd rather be respected, than liked.

And generally if people like me, it's a superficial kind of like, it doesn't feel like they really like ME. It just feels as if they like something they imagine about me, because they don't really know me at all, they just think I'm a nice person or whatever. It's rare that someone actually likes me enough to want to get to know me.

Also find that people either like me very superficially, or else they turn against me and absolutely despise me, not much in between.

I wish I could be that. I feel like deep down I am Dr. House, trapped in Dr. Cameron's personality and dying to get out.

Yep,some of us non-popular ASD'ers are well liked.

I am generally well liked. However my 'baggage' turns turns people off.

lol I like you both

I'm used to this type of personality, my dad was like that (we did argue a lot tho), and so are many members of his family (uncles/aunts).

I'm not disliked. Whether or not people have much of an opinion of me at all depends on where you go, and whether it's an online forum or an offline environment.

I've also had surprisingly good experiences interacting with customers, but I think it's just because I look and sound harmless. Little old ladies liked me a lot.

No, I'm not well-liked.

I'm mildly liked but there seems to be no connection. I can tell by comparing how they greet me with how they greet others.

I wasn't very well thought of that much through school, but now at work I do feel liked. I know I am a likeable person, and I know some people do probably find me a bit odd and don't say a lot to me, I still feel they don't hate me for it. Maybe they might like me more if they got to know me. I hate it when other Aspies tell me that I can't read body language or tell what others are thinking or feeling, so will never know if somebody likes me or not even if I think I do know. It's hard to explain how I know and how I know I'm right. For one thing I have always been able to know when I should tell a lie to save somebody's feelings or to keep the peace or whatever the reason may be - even when I was a little kid I remember doing it. So I sort of know what to say and what not to say, and if somebody tells me a secret or something they don't want others to know, they don't have to tell me not to tell anyone, I just assume that it's something they don't want others to know so I don't tell anyone. So for one thing people know that I'm not a backstabber or a person that spreads rumors or get people into trouble or say things that hurt other people's feelings, and I am glad I am not that honest. I just instinctively know how to not be 100% honest but can still be reliable and kind at the same time.

When it was my birthday a woman from work (who is quite overweight) wished me a happy birthday, then jokingly wrote ''so when are you going to give me some cake?'' I knew she wasn't literally asking to show up at my door just to get some cake, but I also knew not to sound nasty by replying something like ''you don't need cake, you're overweight enough'' - I just would never, ever put that. So instead I just put ''you're too late, it's all gone now LOL'', and something told me that was good enough to reply. That is just a standard example. So I do know that I am a likeable person, and yes there might be a few people out there who don't like me that much, but I don't think anybody hates me.

The general rule in my entire life so far is that I am not liked, and on very rare occasions there is a onesy or twosey that might like me.

No. I have never been well liked. I am out of sight out of mind. I rarely get invited to anything. I don't get compliments. I don't get promotions. I am required to work ten times as hard for the same amount of respect someone else would get.

Not well liked at all. Like zero friends and even bulk of family dislikes me. Then go so far to say I shut them out of my life. I am like whatever. If they want me know were to find me. Otherwise idgaf and go about my business. I take care of my mum and survive best I can.

While I've certainly had my share of conflicts, arguments, grudges etc I'd say that yes, I am well liked.

I'm liked by coworkers past and present. I keep in touch with many via Facebook and stop and visit them once in a blue moon. There are some that I may go into business with in the future, so maintaining at least acquaintance status relationships with them is a good thing.

I'm liked well enough by two of my cousins & my best friend since high school to be Godfather to their kids. I'm very well liked by my God kids, their siblings, my nephew and other little ones in my life - always have been well liked by kids.

More and more these days I get more social invites than I can make the time to attend. I also get more job offers than I can pursue or am interested in. I used to struggle with finding work at all and now I can't imagine being out of work of some kind or another ever.

And since treating my symptoms so successfully as well as learning a lot of things from books, my temperament is so much more balanced that I get along with everyone in every situation so much better than I ever have in the past. It's just a million little things that all add up to a better life. i.e. going on a river rafting trip last weekend with a bunch of high school buddies and their girlfriends/wives. I had a great time with everyone and some really good conversations. One was with a friend's wife who deleted me on Facebook a couple years ago because she didn't like my very strong political/economic opinion at the time. Although my opinions have evolved since then and are a little more in line with hers, it's my newly increased capacity to navigate social situations intuitively that made all the difference in the world in terms of our interactions. I'm much better liked for it now.

I suppose I'm also well liked by many who have wanted to date me over the past few years or so, but I remain selectively single because I have a crush on my friend and would ideally like for him to like me that way someday. Just stating this because it may seem odd to say I'm well liked yet am not in a relationship. Someday I will be, though, whether with him or someone else, I won't stay single forever. But in the meantime I don't mind staying single as it allows me to focus on work, improving skills, health/fitness, and finances a whole lot better than if I were trying to balance all of that along with pouring time energy & money into a relationship. It'll happen eventually, though. All in due time, I suppose. But for now I'm doing pretty fantastic as a single guy working my way up in the world to where I want, need, and ought to be.

edit: Because it was mentioned in the OP, I suppose I'll state that I'm sexually popular enough.. but as per the mention of my crush above, I'd rather be romantically popular w/ just that one person.

Again this is for ASD'er who have less than 15 partners.
for me:I've had 6 ''partners''(only 2 were sexual ...
rest were kissing and romantic partner.

I could Add 1 more.