Keeping Obsessions Secret

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Is it normal that I am an Aspie and that when I obsess over something, I talk about it much less than other topics to avoid people knowing, including not revealing them on here. It's like I'm so anxious and paranoid what people will think of me.

Also, is it a bad think if engaging in the obsession calms me, but I feel guilty that people do not know I am thinking about it and how much and that sometimes makes me upset?

I don't know if it's common, but it's the same for me. I keep all my special interests fairly "under wraps" (less so online than off) because I feel like people will make fun of me. And I know what you mean about the guilt -- I let myself think about my interests when I do things I don't care for, but I feel like someone's going to find out and get me in trouble for not putting my full attention on the boring task.

Anxiety sure is fun.

Anything that a person feels bad about that doesn't realistically hurt others is sad for them.
There's enough horrible things in life as there is, it's heartbreaking to me when that amount is unfairly added to.
You deserve to feel wonderful about anything you think or do that doesn't significantly mess up someone else's life.

I used to talk about my interests more, until a friend made me aware of that. So I mostly downplay my interests now.
I also get the guilt thing by being distracted during tasks, or that it might make come across as more distant than I am.

Sometimes, I do keep my obsessions to myself because I know that once I start talking about them, I talk until I've exhausted every factoid to my audience. I've yet to learn how to chat about my interests modestly.

I've been downplaying my interests since I was 11 and I stopped talking about them when I was 15. Well, to my parents anyways.

There are certain ones that I'm much more likely to talk about than others. Birds is a pretty interesting topic to a lot of people, but people in general don't want to hear about the history of Sonic. My husband doesn't even know about the Sonic obsession...

I started to quit talking about mine when I was 17 and it was very hard but it got easier and easier as I kept at it. Now I keep them to myself and am no longer able to go on and on about it. I just keep it to myself now. If I do talk about it, I am also talking about other things too and I only do it to certain people.

As a child I didn't really talk about mine because I wasn't allowed to and also kids made fun of the way I spoke and didn't like me so I never talked to them. I only talked about mine to certain people like my friends and my psychologist. Plus having obsessions I felt ashamed about made it very easy to not talk about it.

I can't really keep them secret.

I became known as the weatherman at work, because there was always a nexrad map somewhere on my screen and I told people about every major storm slightly before they heard about it from other channels. Now my enthusiasm for neurology and microbiology (and lately molecular biology) has been showing (people think t's much weirder to be into science than weather, for whatever reason.)

after my diagnoses, i tried not to talk about it, mostly because i want to make a good impression on people, so i don't say anything about it (in fact don't socialize very much at all) but when i find someone with the same interest it bursts open like a water fall, and i talk non stop. before my diagnoses i had no idea i wasn't suppose to talk about it, so i would talk about it to an extent.

They tear me apart from the inside and no one can do anything.

I have made a mistake of losing friends because of an obsession, and I have learnt from it. So now I know not to let people know that I have an obsession with a bus company. People use buses a lot in small talk so sometimes I can get away with sneaking a little light conversation about a bus service when it's convenient.

I used to talk about my obsessions a lot, but people laughed at me, so I stopped. I have some friends with the same interests as me. But whenever one of my obsessesions comes up in conversation I end up holding myself back, so that I don't weird people out too much.

The Weird thing is how sometimes it's perfectly okay to talk about them, and other times, for no reason, people get mad at me. So I just think about them myself, it's safer.

I think its normal to have obsessions.
Its good to not overdo it on any one subject when talking about things. It will push people away.
People here don't care in the least that you have obsessions. Doesn't everyone here?
In the real world, its probably a good idea not to reveal obsessions to others as a rule. But you may meet people you can trust with that knowledge. Like if they tell you about theirs, etc.

I don't tend to speak about my obsessions. I am a member of a forum related to one of them and people on there are obsessed with it to but I don't think to the same extent but it doesn't really matter as it's not very obvious which is good.

I usually keep quiet, as well. I am frequently told that I have nothing but "useless trivia" in my head. Well, it isn't useless to me. The acquisition of facts is comforting for me. Those closest to me don't seem to "get" this. I think my wife has useless religious dogma cluttering her mind, but I don't tell her that.