Are you very aggressive?

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People showing aggression with me is one of the most likely things to cause me to have a meltdown. My dad would often yell at me if I started having a meltdown, like that would somehow make me realize I was out of line and calm me down (which it definitely did not). If someone yells at me in anger, I will yell or even scream back at them, no matter who they are or what the situation is, I really can't help it at all; believe me, I have tried.

Especially if someone gets physical and tries to either restrain me or threatens me, I will immediately lose it. I don't understand why they would think doing this would ever cause me to calm down or back off, which is seemingly their expectation; it makes me want to hurt them, regardless of who they are. A girl threatened to physically hurt me once during my senior year in high school (and she seemed totally serious to me), and I don't remember what I said to her, but I do know that if she had tried I would have gotten extremely vicious and probably really hurt her, and then someone would have hurt me, so I'm very glad she backed off. I really can't control myself in those situations, people being aggressive with me is one thing that I just can't handle at all. Even thinking about times when people hurt me or threatened to sets me on edge. Now I feel like smashing something

I think it is a result of being bullied so frequently in elementary school especially. Kids would hurt me for no reason, and tease me all the time. They thought it was funny how mad I got. Nobody would guess how aggressive I can be because I usually tend to be pretty quiet and passive. But once someone thinks they can threaten me or grab me, I will do anything to get them to back off.

About a month ago my grandpa was getting angry at me for arguing (my grandma was moving my stuff around and not being very careful with it and it was stressing me out) and he grabbed me by my neck, and pushed me into the wall. I was trying so hard not to attack him, let alone be able to not scream at him to get off, but he seemed to use that to justify not letting me go. I am apparently supposed to show more self-control than him, even though he is supposed to be way more mature than me. And then my uncle said that if he had the chance he would have put me in the hospital. I seriously wanted to kill him. Why don't people understand by now, do not threaten me or grab me? It seems like something you shouldn't do to anyone, let alone someone with issues like mine.

I do have an aggressive streak. I grew up around a lot of aggression, so I suppose it is ingrained in me to a certain extent. The only person who wasn't aggressive was my dad, he was very rational, so I'm more inclined to follow that route these days.

My aggression usually get's put to good practice in my job, but I'd say that's a more constructive aggression.

I'm not violent, in fact I can't stand to see violence or be around violent people. They make me feel sick (literally).

I can look after myself if push came to shove, but for the most part I do what I can in order to steer clear of any kind of confrontation.

I work with a lot of extremely aggressive people. They're bullies who seem to get off on scapegoating people for their own pleasure. They leave me alone. But I can't stand to be around many of them. To me they're not normal, I don't get it. It's got to a point where I started taking my breaks and dinner times half an hour earlier or later than them.

The strange thing about that is, you soon see how popular they really are when a lot of other people started doing what I did. We have much more peaceful breaks now.

You're right--it's absolutely disrespectful to threaten or grab anyone, regardless of what may be going on in their mind.

I grew up with a lot of aggression too, but mostly not until I hit middle school. At that point, my dad and I fell out, and I became a target for bullies. Of course I "know better" that there are more constructive ways to handle situations, but knowing better doesn't actually help. It's ingrained, and I have tried so hard to change it, but if I don't let out my frustration by getting mad and yelling (I haven't been physically aggressive in a long time), then I brood. If I yell, even though it hurts the other person, I can usually get over it much faster.

I wish I had some advice to give, but I guess all I have is validation.

My mom told me as a kid that I used to be aggressive to the other kids in kindergarten. I don't really remember that much, if it all from that grade level. D: However, I don't think I've ever been aggressive as of late. I do have angry outbursts where I throw things and knock things down though, but I haven't done that in a while.

I'm not aggressive outward and prefer to withdraw and clam up to avoid conflicts. I fight only when backed into a corner. I internalize my feelings and any build up frustration is only released when I'm by myself. I have learned from the text books that I did indeed engage in what is considered "self-harm behavior" when I was in my teens.

My older brother (also Aspie), on the other hand, was a bully toward us younger siblings and quite physical abusive toward me. He also were in a lot of fights with the other kids in school to such an extend that his teachers wanted to send him to a school for troubled kids (but my parents blocked that attempt). He continued to bully me until I grew bigger than him and was able to better defend myself. In our last fight, when I was 15 and he 19, I pushed him right on the nose and gave him noose bleed. He left me alone after that.

I feel anger. I don't show anger. I've never been "enraged".

I'm definitely pretty aggressive! I have a lot of energy most of the time though! I've just always been like that, when I grew up I was bullied a lot and I've never been good with words so screaming and punching feels better to me!

Last year I had a shutdown and I just say on this bench when a classmate bent down and shouted right in my face and I snapped and just stood up and scream which I guess scared her or something but she took a step foreword and I got scared and hit her first. Things like this has gotten me into a lot of trouble.

Same here. I am completely non-aggressive except when someone is aggressive with me, then If I cannot avoid the situation, I will mimic their behavior, but on a higher level.

What you are describing in other people is psychopathic behaviors. People don't have a "real" reason to behave as they do. They have imaginary reasons. Further, they are being controlled by a mind virus. They are attacking you in order to get a drug that makes them feel good. The drug is in the form of chemicals, like peptides, that get released in their brains. Their imaginations have direct access to this chemical reward pathway, and so they are conditioned to obey the mind virus. Their inflicting their "will" upon you gives them imaginary power, and their brains will use every amount of rationalizing in order to justify what they have done.

Nah. If someone is reprimanding me I shutdown. I look away and only answer in 'yes', 'no', and 'I don't know'. If I REALLY hate someone though then I'll wait a long while and then I strike back. For instance I've fantasized about leaving a prank parking ticket on the windshield of this idiot who I see everyday. They park their tiny sedan across not two, but three parking spots! I can't grasp why someone would do that. It annoys me every time I see it.

i have been extremely agressive in the past to both myself and other people, i have bit people, kicked people, thrown bottles at peoples head, and punched people, mostly its because they were irritating me.

I live in a state notorious for passive-aggressiveness so comparatively I suppose I come off as aggressive when in fact I'm merely direct. As far as being physically agressive I've only ever hit someone in self defense. I do know deep down though that if I felt threatened enough I would attack like a rabid dog.

i know this. i become very enraged whenever i am in school, i cannot seem to block out all the shite i hear, see, and read, and it just gets pent up and burns inside of me, but i keep a very collected facade. if it can be considered self harm, i routinely do skin picking on my right arm and i like smearing the blood that comes out, not always when i'm by myself but when no one is looking. (an exception would be once, 3 years ago when i yanked out a lock of air from my head and i was sent out of class)
i do know people to talk to and i've found myself going to adults almost unconsciously, i can't help but think i'm bugging them.

i have been assessed, interrogated and dealt with, regarding some violent and worrying comments i have made. namely wanting to mow down rows of class"mates" by the dozens and making rudimentary plans to do so. i've dealt with it.

i will only hit in self defense but i do get quite snarky and sarcastic sometimes. i avoid physical conflict mainly due to my presumably awful fighting prowess (i've never tried), clumsiness and weak frame. and, the massive embarrassment and shame if i lose, fights over at school, where i am most likely to get into a brawl are never kept secret and attract idiots like flies to putrid meat.

i have bit people also, mostly out of play but i grew out of that several years ago.

Aggression is a confusing topic, because human cultures sanction some forms of aggression and condemn other forms of aggression. In concrete terms there are three broad categories of aggression:

1. Physical aggression and violence is condemned by many cultures, but there are notable exceptions, specifically government institutions and adults may enjoy a monopoly on exercising socially sanctioned physical power over their subordinates and children.

2. Psychological aggression and violence is increasingly condemned as well, but again there are notable exceptions for those who reside higher in the local social pecking order. So-called authorities may enjoy socially sanctioned means of exerting power in the form of verbal bullying and other forms of psychological violence.

3. Economic aggression and violence is the main "legitimate" form of aggression that is available to everyone in principle, but in practice is reserved for those who have the economic means to exert such powers. Debt based currencies and the global monetary system are ideal tools for propagating economic aggression. Economic aggression is usually referred to as economic growth, and is generally considered as the pinnacle of human civilisation.

Psychological aggression is an easy route for the typical majority to exert power over autistics who may not be able to respond adequately on the spot to verbal and non-verbal bullying.

Conflicts easily arise at all levels of scale (from individuals to multi-national corporations and to entire nation states) if economic aggression is used to provoke a reaction. If the victim does not have economic powers available to defend against the aggressor, the reaction may involve physical violence.

I grew up in a country + city where violence was encouraged. If anyone hit one of my siblings, my dad would tell me to go up to them and hit them back so they would know not to mess with my siblings again (I was one of the older siblings so it was my job). I hated doing it, but I did it anyway to avoid getting into trouble with my dad.

I am one of the least violent people I know. If I could help it I would never hurt anyone, and if I do hurt them I gain no pleasure from it.

When I was a child I was not aggressive but after years of abuse from my brother and kids at school I became aggressive. I would push other kids in middle school just because I thought it was funny. If someone yelled at me I would try to choke them. If adults tried to restrain me I would have a severe meltdown that could last for several days. As an adult I was hospitalized numerous times for my aggression toward others and myself. Now in my 40's I still get very upset when someone yells at me and says degrading things to me. I will yell back at them and then I begin to shutdown.

Generally, I am quite timid. My preschool teacher observed at age 4, ??Rocket will never be overly aggressive?.

That being said, if I feel like I am being threatened (or taken advantage of), I will respond. Not physically. But verbally. But, maybe not to the person threatening (or taking advantage of) me. E.g. If I feel someone is taking advantage of me, I may go to talk to wife (in a quite emotional manner). And, she will help me figure out how to respond accordingly (perhaps even responding on my behalf).