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I had an aspie best friend in high school, I would have dropped out if it wasnt for him.

IRL Aspie friendships are worth making some effort to create,

I do the same thing. I get ignored a lot. Sometimes I guess I don't really add much to the conversation, but it still hurts a bit.

I think what you are experiencing is normal. Most people act out of insecurity from time to time.

If you post in a thread, you were part of it.

If you need others to confirm that you were part of something, then you have a problem.

Instead of worrying about whether your presence and contributions are considered and appreciated, try taking a chance and interacting with another aspie. PM somebody. Address somebody directly in the thread.

Standing with your mouth open in order to catch flies is ineffective for a number of reasons...try being a little more direct...and accept failure as the condition before success...

PMing people can be an intimidating but if they have similar interests there is a good chance they'd enjoy talking to you.

I enjoy having you around and reading your posts.

I hope I am not responsible for making anyone feel this way. For some reason, in this forum, I make a topic and then I kind of forget about it. I'm not doing it consciously, but somehow it seems like this is a safe place to lose interest. In other forums, I make more of an attempt to have a back and forth conversation, particularly on topics that I have created.

I am just coming to terms with the thought of being an Aspie and am actually going for testing tomorrow. Maybe sometimes it just seems like too much to think about and that's why I kind of disappear.

I am going to try to stop doing that here.

I hope that you start to get a better experience out of this website.

OP, you do matter and you do count. I think that if you created a thread "Do you often feel ignored on WP" and included a poll with options of Nearly always/ Often / Almost never, the Often would probably attract the most votes by far.

It also depends where and when you post, some forums have relatively little traffic so not many people see new posts there. The time difference in the Southern Hemisphere means we are more likely to post when the majority of posters are going to bed, and the posts can get overlooked because new ones swamp them when the Northern Hemisphere people log on.

I seem to remember that the threads you start are really long. I have trouble reading more than 2-3 short paragraphs because my attention span is terrible so I generally avoid long threads.

Also, I have problems building a picture of people who share the same avatar with other members, as you do, as I'm constantly mistaking them with other members.

I do notice you and read your stuff sometimes.