How to not get upset about things?

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I hate getting upset about things, how can i avoid it? tbh im slowly becoming heartless and short tempered im so depressed an overwhelmed, its like everyday i have a great day then somethings gotta happen, tbh i feel as if i do more for others then they do for me sometimes:( how do i not care because now i get upset an hurt an im so used to the feeling, like my mood is so fake now, im havin self esteem problems to an i dont know what to do anymore:(

If you do more for others than others do for you, then you're the better person. Things have a way of "evening out" over a lifetime.

What specifically is upetting you right now?

Sounds like a holiday / break / vacation / mental holiday / quiet time is in order.

Being stressed is not fun and this time of the year can be very stressful. Any chance of making a <get-away> ?

I think if you don't have a lot of good in your life, or you don't feel as though you have much control, then those little things seem like big things. There's only so much one mind can take, but getting rid of excess stress is also easier said than done. Try to give yourself enough down time, get enough sleep, and eat food that's actually nutritious for you to gain an edge. Every little bit counts in hard times.

thanks guys! an weed does help in every situation lol

Don't stop feeling things.
Our society has been becoming more and more offensive, and also psychopathic at the same time as a way of avoiding the emotions. I believe it to be toxic in the long run.

I agree with Olympiadis

let the feelings flow

your grief makes you powerful, my apprentice, don't let others tell you otherwise

Mindfulness techniques help. Learn to notice when you are just a bit irritated and take a little break or walk to fully calm down.
Get a blood test. Low B12 and mg can cause mood problems. Low iron can cause lethargy and irritability.

My life has driven me from a loving family (Aspie) man to one whose whole family has disowned him (it feels) but as a result of all of the turmoil that's happened in our family, something good has come out of it. I finally realized in life, I don't need ANYBODY to 'complete' me. That the marriage and 2 kids is just one version of living and not the be all and end all of how to survive this rolling crap ball of hell to death, emotionally or physically

Life is useless. The most you can hope for is to leave some legacy to mankind. Have children, donate lots of money to a sincere charity, leave a medical centre in your name in some 3rd world country if you have the money. Whatever! Just don't let your life be in vain. Make it count for something. That's what counts. The legacy you leave!

Live your life how you want. Just don't hurt anyone else, emotionally or physically. Most people just want to get from one end of this life to the other with as few a complications as possible. That's not a bad idea. Be kind to one another.

How to not get upset about things? Remember that other humans are just as clueless as you are about living this life. No one is given a handbook on how to live this life. Keep in mind, these people are like little children. So, whatever happens in your life is going to be shaped by their behavior towards you.

There's my point again. Live your life however you want. People don't really matter. People are like the garnish on your salad. It might look pretty on the surface but when you dig deep, all you'll find is salad.

you are genetically programmed to be upset when bad things happen

And what you consider bad is primarily based on what you've learned and the choices you make.