Is your Father on the Autism spectrum?

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Sorry to go off topic: I've never heard the word "clock" used in that way before. Interesting. Does "clock" mean the person "clicked" with the other person?

Another weird use of the word "clock": punch hard enough to knock out--as in "He sure clocked him!

I believe so. He was born in the fifties, and was one out of nine children, so it's no surprise that he was just seen as the "shy/odd" kid growing up (and was later seen the same way as an adult). As far as I know (he left when I was 10), his work was his life/special interest (he was an accountant at a plant that produced fire trucks for like 20 years or something, and when it closed and he lost his job, his depression started). My mom has also said that he wouldn't talk to anyone but her, so he definitely wasn't a social person.

Actually, most people automatically attribute my quirks and pickiniess about stuff as me being his child. I can't tell you how many times I've heard that. So if I'm on the spectrum, it would only make sense that he is too.

I would say yes, but since he's died from Alzheimer there's no way knowing.
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He was a good father in general, but a difficult person for himself, and we were always wondering why things being alright would then suddenly turn to s**t.
I think he was more relaxed in my childhood , but later on with the economy turning (he was employer, which didn't fit him at all) , there was far more stress involved. No one of us, the children, would take over the firm which was forced upon him by his fathers old age/illness.
My mother would say 'he's a very special person'.

Yes. but he is not diagnosed (my brother is diagnosed, and they are very similar).

The interactions with him are very short and specific to topic the questions that was asked.

He is a good father, but trying to communicate with him and sharing stuff and hearing what he thinks is very hard if its doesn't deal with a topic which interest him. My friends view him as distant and shy who prefers to be on his computer than be around people.

Sometimes it helps because in some points he understands me such as disliking to go to big family events or prefer to keep to myself.

I'm pretty sure my dad's on the spectrum. He's pretty typical.

He's an OK dad to me. Didn't do much with us but didn't abuse us either. I did like him when I was little. He would take me out to parks on weekends to get away from my mom's wrath. He sometimes helped my brother and me with homework. I don't really remember him teaching us much skills or knowledge. He kept to himself most of the time with music, reading, woodwork, electric wiring...etc. Didn't have much to do with him after I was 14 or so.

His conversational skill sucks and didn't talk much. We knew nothing about his jobs, his friends or his past. Although he's an excellent writer. He's very hard to offend and almost never get angry (I'm the same). He's a pretty good scientist with various patents, though of course I know nothing about them. He just doesn't talk or share much, and I'm probably the person he trusts the most in the world.

He has many quirks and sensory issues which made my mom's life pretty difficult. I think I should be glad that mine are not as bad. Overall I'm quite a bit like him, except I'm extroverted and very articulate. He should thank his lucky stars that he's not a woman, though. Typical aspie fit in much easier as a man in a science field, at least during his time. None of his 3 sisters had much education.

My father is as NT as they come.

My mother, on the other hand, I suspect is firmly on the spectrum. I think that side of the family tends to have ASD tendencies. For instance, I have an uncle (on my mothers side) I've never met who was diagnosed as Aspergers last year. This was without any prior knowledge of my diagnosis.

I think having that balance of one NT parent and one ASD parent was a great way to grow up, as it taught me things from both perspectives. It's just a bit different than your stereotypical ASD-father, NT-mother arrangement.

My Dad. He died!

My Grandfather was DEFINITELY on the Spectrum though!

My dad is an average NT, I'm very sure of it. Even my memory is over 13 years outdated, I'm certain.
If any autistic/aspie like traits, it's next to none. No social/mental deviance, he's practically an average extrovert. No food sensitivities, no clumsiness, no self-negligence. And his quirks are far from autistic, and more on NT's ideal adult man quirk. So, nothing. Unless you count mechanical and technical aptitudes, then there's none.

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My dad is NT, but he's kinda quirky/eccentric. He's met my needs so well and is a wonderful father. The other kids think he's pretty cool. Even though he doesn't have asd, he's always been extremely understanding of it.

I believe my father is not autistic. He has always had many friends and even now seems to be making new friends. People seem to find him very approachable. Strangely enough, all or most of his siblings seem(ed) autistic. It seems my father is a carrier of autism genes and passed them on to me and to my sister(s).

1. I find him easy to interact with.
2. I'd say he provided me with what I needed as a child although I spent much more time with my mother. I can't blame him for that.
3. I'd say so although I'm not clear about the definition of a "good father".
4. I didn't have friends close enough to meet my father. So I can't really answer that q.
5. N/A.

I suspect my father is somewhat sociopathic. He is very good at manipulating people, and his job allows him, almost requires him to do so. He cannot form deep bonds with anyone. He has no friends, yet he seems amicable with many people.
What was it like interacting with him? We didn't interact much until a few years ago, before that when I went to visit him (2-3 times a year) he was always at work.
Did he meet your needs as a child? No. He lived in another country.
Was he a 'good' Father? No.
How did your friends view him? None of my friends ever met him. My ex boyfriend (with AS) asked me if he was autistic, though, because he doesn't just collect, he hoards seashells and coins he finds on the beach.

My father is a textbook Aspie case. I mean, the exact stereotype, in every single way.

It's funny that now I've been diagnosed he sort of believes I have it, but is in total denial about having it himself, and so is his wife (my mum).

He did make the most of it tho. Got rich through computers and all that... So I guess he feels that he can't be 'defective' in that kind of way, because he's been so successful.

I often wonder how many undiagnosed aspies there are and it appears to me it really isn't such a small minority after all. We just need to wake up and empower ourselves and we can change the world for the better (because let's face it, nobody can analyse the world's issues in that kind of detached, objective, analytical fashion than an Aspie can).

I've been synchronistically coming across so many aspies recently since my diagnosis, that it beggars belief. I don't know what explains the fact that I'm now an aspie magnet, at least currently. I am absolutely loving it though. Makes me feel so much less isolated to be amongst my own kin.