Do you have trouble expressing yourself correctly?

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The stronger my emotions are, the less I am able to express them.

LOL....when you disagree with something I say, you certainly express yourself quite well!

I guess I can be a little blunt. Lol

The stronger my emotions are, the less I am able to express them.[/quote]



Same here. I can be quite blunt too, but especially so if I'm emotional.

When I feel emotional, I tend to have trouble expressing my emotions articulately.

I tend to talk...and write...in "breath-like" phrases.

For me, it's like language goes to it's most basic form. I try to use the most succinct language because I'm not capable of accessing words when I'm upset.

If I am mildly annoyed I can communicate my thoughts more accurately (less jumbled), although I can be quite blunt, and have a negative impact on the receiver.

Absolutely. Whenever I try to explain things to people, often they won't understand what I'm saying at all, or they'll take it to have a different meaning than what I intended.

I've thought about going non-verbal, but I've realized it's not really a choice I can make because of a past experience. I used to hardly ever talk -- sometimes, I'd go so long without talking that the skin on my lips would stick together. Then, the only person I ever did talk to took it personally that I didn't talk to her a lot and wrote a letter to herself "from me" saying I was going to burn the school down. And everyone believed it because, at the time, "it's always that quiet ones" was the best explanation anyone had come up with about mass murderers.
So, now I think I'm scared NOT to talk...

I too suffer these issues, which is why i'm a major introvert. Thankfully many years ago after being officially diagnosed I took several efforts to improve myself. Among them I've purchased several books on this subject which help, however trying to be aware of all i've read put it in practice and have a conversation (especially with those individuals who are negative towards me) is quite challenging. However will keep trying & keep trying & keep trying...

I definitely have trouble with this.

One thing my counselor taught me which is extremely helpful is to name my emotions. She gave me a list of names of emotions- everything from anger to despondency to jubilation, and so forth, so that I could look at the list and that would help me figure out which one of them applied to the way I was feeling. Just the act of giving a feeling a name makes it more tangible and makes it a known entity to deal with.

Obviously you can't use a laundry list of names of emotions when you're in the heat of emotion, but you can do that when you go to (as we all do inevitably) sort them out later. For me, the more I sort things out after the fact when I have a meltdown, the easier it is for me to avoid future meltdowns, and to know the emotion and react to it before I'm drowning in it, if that makes any sense.

It's also helpful to journal or blog on a regular basis even if that's all you're doing- naming emotions, describing the way a situation made you feel, etc. That will help you communicate more effectively, especially in writing.