does anyone have that feeling of just leaving?

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Lately I've been feeling like not working anymore. But i know i will go crazy not working. I think its because i feel like work is getting to hard. I do have aspergers and just got recently promoted to an assistant manager . Dont get me wrong i love my job but i feel like i shouldn't be there. ..any one else have this problem?

But you SHOULD be there. You're rising up in the world!

Congratulations!

Asperger's is not a condition which prevents people from being viable.

Thank you. Yes i know I should be there but lately I just feel like im getting to overwhelmed ...and i wouldn't want to have a meltdown at work ya know. I try to fit in quiet time for myself as often as I can but i have been needing way more quiet time..

I can't see your location, but if you are in America don't discount the possibility of approaching HR for a minor accommodation under the ADA. You can get something small that won't set you apart too much from your co-workers, but might help reduce your stress level greatly. For example, at my work I am allowed to wear headphones to listen to white noise. I am also able to shut the door sometimes and/or turn off the lights to reduce stressors. I also have the option to take a day off when needed (typically Wednesday).

While these tactics may not be viable in all offices, you might be able to find (or be allocated) a quiet space to the which you are allowed to retreat when needed.

Giving it up is always an option, but with the current job market you may want to try these alternatives first. And if you are actually in Kenya, perhaps there is a similar program there that allows you some accommodations so that you can compete fairly with your fellow NTs.

I am feeling that very feeling right now. Last year for 6 months I didn't work because I couldn't handle it. I have to be very careful currently to not become overwhelmed with things. When I was off I debated disability but am glad that I didn't. When I was home all alone I didn't have any money to do anything and was bored out of my head. So for me it works better for me to work than to be off.

I left, although I took a few years to decide on a leaving date. I made sure I was reasonably financially secure first of course, as far as there is such a thing as financial security. It's still quite a plunge to take. I think the younger you are, the less likelihood of post-traumatic stress - if you've spent years feeling anxious about your job, that feeling might not go away just because you've escaped the environment. Trouble is, the younger you are, the more money you'll need to bridge the gap till the next income stream (which could be as late as pension age), and the less money you'll have had time to accumulate.

I don't want to knock quitting, because I don't miss my job, and quitting has reduced my stress levels and given me a lot more control over my own life, but there is an element of fugue about this thread, and fugue is usually a risky thing. I'd advise you to be very careful.

Yes I have that feeling most of the time. I like my job but just hate all the corporate BS that goes with it. It was more laidback when I first started. I stick it out hoping one day things will go back like they used to be.

Yeah thanks everyone. I have been flirting with the idea of telling my boss about my aspergers. Just not sure on how that would work since i am in an management position. I really do like working. But at the same time I feel drained,especially since i work around lots of people.

To your question my answer was yes. Got to a point where the daily grind to work via freeways, traffic jams, noisy trucks, road accidents, speed and traffic light cameras and emergency vehicles, didn't justify the enjoyment I was getting out of the job. Fortunately I was financially secure to the point where I could leave my job. Five years later I still have trouble getting into a motor vehicle.

Wow that seems really noisey. I dont blame ya and i thought my job was loud and chaotic.

I feel that way all the time. I a really social job.

You know what? Just walk up to your boss and sing this.

Yes the journey to / from work is important too. Mine was a walk, footpaths and crossings were illegally blocked by motorists, and there was noise and pollution. I don't miss that walk.

I had a meltdown at work this morning. I kind of aggravated the boss, and I got a disciplinary for it. I don't understand it, because I've been on antidepressants for nearly a year and I haven't had a meltdown since before I went on them and I've been in more control of my actions and emotions, and I've been much better to live with at home. Also I feel more confident in myself because I have a boyfriend and have more social confidence and I'm not lonely any more at all. And yet I had a meltdown at work! Things are getting on top of me at work, they keep getting on to me and making me feel like I'm a bad worker when I try my best, and they keep giving me the grotty jobs and expecting me to just put up with it, and I just got all upset this morning. I stomped about, kicked stuff, and swore at my supervisor. I nearly got the sack, but the supervisor dealt with it in an understanding way and we sat and had a talk, but I'm still not happy, and I'm scared I might get frustrated again and lose my job. I do want to leave but I can't until I have another job to start, and I can't find anything for me at the moment.