I'd just like to add, never say to your child "I love you but..." It was often said to me and I think it is one of the most unkind things you can say to somebody. At the same time you're saying you love them you are telling them that they're not acceptable to you as they are. It instilled fear in me to be told all the time that I had to change behaviours that I didn't have control over i.e. become somebody I could never be in order to be acceptable.
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Sometimes it's the very people who no one imagines anything of, who do the things no one can imagine.
From The Imitation Game