I love hugging. I hate hugging

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Back when I was 6 years old, we had a "the boat is sinking game" in our classroom. Then there came a time that the teacher called out for grouping ourselves only in two. To my surprise, someone grabbed me from in front and hugged me tightly that I can't almost breathe. He was a boy, bigger than me. Then I got overwhelmed when he did that, so I bursted out crying enough for all of them to notice and stop the game. They asked me why and I said because that big boy hugged me so tight. lol.


Now that I'm 19( I'm a girl ), I often hug my little brother which is 7 years old. Whenever I see a cuddly little kid I wanna hug them like they were stuffed toys not children. I wanna hug cute little felines, or puppies. There was a time when me and my crush/friend/ older bro were sitting next to each other and not talking(since we're used to that) But I feel as though I wanna hug him. I find it awkward to hug people especially when they seem aggressive or unpleasant. There are friends who hugs me when we see each other but I find it uncomfortable especially when they just brush my shoulder with their arms and leave an awkward feeling. Also, I get sensitive to touch and some hugs feels like a prick on the skin even when it's unnoticeable for them.

When I hug I am as though a puppy or a kitten. But when people hug me I find it uncomfortable.

Never really had a hug that I can remember. So wouldn't know if I like them or not.

I'm surprised, Angela! You seem like you're the huggable type.

I think you're pretty swell, too, Owl!

I've only felt comfortable hugging three people in my entire life (ex-partner, daughter and my mother when I was little). I'd really hate to be hugged by somebody who was wearing perfume or aftershave, I'd have to hold my breath. I'd also be very self-conscious that I might stink if I haven't had a shower that day and I'd probably screw my face up in the same way as I did when my mother tried to kiss me.

Over the years I have been part of some fellowships wherein a casual hug is a common greeting, so in that setting I am indifferent to it. Romantically, though, I much enjoy both giving and receiving hugs.

I like giving and getting proper hugs, but not the greeting type thats almost an 'air hug'.

If the person hugging me is an accepted individual in my "realm", then i don't mind receiving a hug. If not, though, then i will possibly get very furious.

The only people I liked hugging & getting hugs from were my girlfriends & I love it from them

God. I HATE hugging, most people. I can barely stand physical contact without feeling like I need to scratch my flesh off. But some people I feel extremely comfortable with touching. It has been more than year since I have had a comforting hug I explicitly remember the pressure feeling quite soothing.

I don't really give hugs, but I like to be hugged by my mom, dad and cousin. But from behind with their arms crisscrossed over my chest. I mainly find the pressure reassuring when I'm starting to stress or meltdown. I also like to kind of cuddle against my dad sitting next to him on the couch and he wraps his arm around my chest.

I'm don't like hugging very much. The only person I let hug me is my mom. She knows I don't like it but I tolerate it for her.

I have never hugged my family. Probably that's why I'm not used to the idea/action of hugging. It feels extremely awkward.

I only like hugs if it's from a person that I know really well. Otherwise it irritates me. I don't like hugging my family either, but my family has never been that affectionate.

I like or love hugging only on a case-by-case basis.

I LOVE hugs from people I've come to love -- close friends, or an intimate partner such as a boyfriend or husband.

I don't mind hugs from friends I know in a social circle.

I HATE hugs from a stranger or an acquaintance with whom there really is no established affection to the point where touching me is appropriate. I really do not like that.

So, I have a kind of "hierarchy of hugs" and I don't deem everyone to be an appropriate person for me to hug or for them to try to hug me. It's an invasion of personal space when unwanted or uninvited, but a welcome expression of affection from those who are established as allowed to make that expression.