Anybody here ever have problems with grooming themselves?

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I don't really concider it to be a problem

umm...i was REALLY bad when I was a kid..I just didn't know any better....I have always been rather oblivious..


now I know better but am probably not as meticulous as is socially acceptable.

well i dont wear deoderant. becaus e i cant stand having the feeling of something under my arms, i supose if im feeling a little depressed i go without a bath every now and then

It's definitely an issue.

I hate showering, just because it's annoying to get started. Once I get in, I like it okay, but I have trouble getting the motivation to get in. It's worse now because I have to wear my headgear at night, so I can't shower anytime near bedtime because it would leave really weird marks in my wet hair. Hmm.... today is Tuesday, and my last shower was Saturday morning. I would have taken one today before going out if I went out, but I didn't, so no shower.

I only shave my legs once every month or two, because it's annoying and pointless. I always wear jeans, so nobody can see if my legs are hairy or not. I usually only shave them if I'm going to be wearing a skirt, or if the hair gets so long that it gets caught on my pants and causes sensory issues.

I do put on deodorant every day, brush twice a day (at least), and floss almost every day. Slacking on my tooth care isn't really an option with the braces.

I get my hair cut maybe twice a year, just to get rid of split ends. I cut my bangs myself when they get so long that they interfere with my sight.

I hardly ever wear makeup or use lotion or nail polish or anything like that. Way too annoying.

My mother is always telling me that I look so much better if I put on makeup (thanks, makes me feel great...), and that I should really get a nicer hairstyle, and all kinds of other criticisms about my appearance. But the most that I can stand to do with my hair is comb it out and let it air dry, so an actual style (requiring a hairdryer, curling iron, hairspray, or any combination thereof) is definitely out. She also thinks that I should accessorize more, and change my jewelry to match my outfit. Yeah, right. I wear the same watch, necklace, and ring all the time, unless I'm really getting dressed up for something special. She's lucky if I remember to clean my ring and necklace once every month or so (she thinks it should be done every day!).

So I guess some stuff I don't quite keep up to the standards of most people, but some things I do. And some things I think are just fine, but my mother nags me about.

I actually can french braid my own hair, but it always feels lopsided, lol, so I wind up taking it out shortly after doing it-well, when my hair was long I mean-or hairs would be hanging off of the bottom, one felt looser than the other, etc.. I can't french braid other people's hair though.

Yep-as soon as I turn off the shower I start to feel like I'm beginning the process of getting dirty/needing a shower again. It's worse in summer's heat/humidity-I take multiple showers in one day & still rapidly feel unclean again (from sweating). The shower & curtain are rarely clean enough, the soap has unevenly worn sides, my towels feel all rough (and I'm too cheap to buy pricey soft ones). Being in the shower is okay, but I procrastinate getting in & I really dread getting out.

I trim my own hair & bangs. Shave my legs when it occurs to me, more so in summer of course. I wear lip gloss/balm, sometimes even a bit of lipstick & that's it. Wish it weren't such a chore to look pretty, it's too much hassle & worry. Have lotsa' zits on my face but don't use anything to conceal them, and know that would just clog my pores worse.
Beyond a certain point, there's only so much I can do, considering the ways in which my body is decaying. Am not willing to put my energy into "games I can't win". Looking good is stressful as well as looking not-so-good, so I try to achieve a state of seeming unremarkable.

I find that I hate getting my hair wet. It is just a nuisance...Also...I would not mind having my hair bobbed short, except that would mean I'd have to mess with it even more.
I also cut my own bangs....badly....and I like to wear my hair in two braids...often tied in a knot on top of my head.

Also..I don't shave anything...fortunately Flakey has worse hygene than me and he is the first guy I ever met who actively encouraged his girlfriends to stop shaving..(i was already a non-shaver of several years when I met him ...but in the past I was always ragged on by signifigant others for my awful hygene

I haven't let someone cut my hair in 12 years. I cut it once in a while if I feel like it.
I have no brushes or combs.
Hair is ridiculous. Why spend time on it. just wash it and forget it. let it be. I don't even get why it's there.

Flakey is the same way with his hair.
He may comb it once every several months..i guess much to the chagrin of his previous girlfriends.

I once had to cut my hair because the hairbrush got caught in it... I DO wash it, though. And of course I shower every day (several times a day in summer).

I have problems with looking after myself because of sensory issues. The feel of water on my skin can be too much for me - and particularly on my scalp which makes washing my hair difficult.

I shower everyday because, paradoxically I am a bit of a hygeine / cleanliness freak!

The only way I get round it is by having various rituals to carry out my toilette - and yes I do have a diagnosis of OCD!

This is interesting for me because I have a Spectrumite character named Kipo who's vastly afraid of water because of how it feels on her skin. It's important to me because I still have to wrap my head around how it feels; so some real-life experience and descriptions would be nice!

Hi KBABZ, to try to elaborate on this a little (if it will be of help to you), water feels very 'heavy' on my skin. Putting my hand under a running tap - even if it is just a trickle - can hurt because it is like someone is dropping pebbles on to my skin.

I am also very sensitive to temperature so it can be very difficult to find a water temperature that is comfortable for me, and, of course, temperature can change if someone turns on a tap in another part of the building, or if the hot water runs out etc.

In the shower, although I find these preferable to baths, it can feel like lots of needles prickling my skin. This is particularly bad on my scalp as skin there is hyper-sensitive to both the 'needles prickling' feeling and the temperature. This combined with having to put the shampoo and conditioner on, which may be a different temperature and which are very gloopy in consistency, causes a variety of sensory issues and can be very uncomfortable.

Baths are impossible. I can't deal with bodies of water - and the idea of immersing myself in it is just too much. Way too much sensory overload in terms of most or all of my body being in contact with water. There is also the issue of the water 'moving' as I move, and I can feel it's motion on my skin. And I don't like the way it makes my skin feel when I have been in the bath or shower and it makes my nails soft and my skin soft or wrinkly if I stay for a longer time (which I rarely do).

I hope these examples help.

I've always kept myself clean (though I do have OCD, so...) and presentable. Though I want to spend as little time and thought as possible doing it.

When I was little I always tried avoiding brushing my teeth, because the toothpaste tasted HORRIBLE. My parents had a horrible time with me with that. Luckily my teeth are super good and that didn't give me any problems (I've never had a single dental issue). Of course once I got a little older I started doing it right. (Although I didn't brush right, and caused wear on my enamel because I would try to brush hard and for a full five minute like you were supposedly supposed to.)

I'm kind of horrified by others who don't keep clean...though at the same time I have absolutely zero interest in what they're wearing, etc.

i find looking after my hair to be hard work. i can never quite get the right amount of shampoo to the right amount of rinsing. i ahve found that it is best to wash it only once a week because it is quite long and that a light wax in the ends stops it from frizzing straight out. i cannot get the hang of hair dryers so i either comb straight into one pony tail or section parts of it up until nearly dry and then let it loose to do it's thing which is wavy with an off centre parting.

i shave if i think about it, but luckily i'm not very hairy. i cannot even begin to worry about make up and whatnot.

Ugh. I would HATE having to do the junk woman are "supposed" to do. I can't stand the scent of perfumes most of the time, women having to shave their legs and stuff is just ret*d (started by either some pervert, or some businessman who wanted an excuse to sell more razors...or maybe it was a pervert businessman).

Luckily men don't have as much junk they're "supposed" to do. (Not that women should have to do all that extra garbage...)

Hairy legs feel much better than stubble...so I am told....