Fashion victims

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I don't really get the concept of fashion and I've never understood the why or how certain things fit together or why some things don't go together (or why I should be concerned with whether or not someone approves of my choice in attire). In my mind I have to wear something and many times function or personal taste in a color or pattern prevails. Growing up I did get teased a lot for dressing "weird" and although I made attempts to make note of what was "normal" I just didn't quite get it right. In high school I started wearing all black because at least then the colors matched. Now I just do what I want. But who decides this arbitrary and vague thing and how do people have a sense of what it is even though it is ever changing? Why does it matter so much to many people?

Do you dress "normal", have a specific style, or like me, do you just not get it quite right? As an example, people in the past have pointed out to me that I can't wear two different patterns or that certain shoes shouldn't be worn with certain types of clothes.

Howdy. I'm QVC queen. All my clothes come from QVC. Logo, Susan Graver, Attitudes, Joan Rivers. I'm girly. Everything must match from the purse to the shoes to the jewelry to the bath and body and perfume of Philosophy (and their anti-wrinkle cream too! I only have one wrinkle - BOO!) Yes, I know, sounds crazy, but I'm NT so what can I say? At least I don't read the latest fashion magazines so I have that going for me.

I'm the same as the OP. I don't get it.

I realize that depending on how you are dressed, people treat you very differently. I recently noticed that I get treated badly when I'm dressed in a certain way. People are very quick to judge you based on superficial appearance.

I guess the ultimate goal of fashion is to look as attractive as possible for the most part. Many people subconsciously think attractive = superior. Those that can judge what appeals to the majority are the winners in that game. That's why there are even fashion specialists. It's another social thing. The strange thing is that when some weird clothes are worn by popular/attractive people, that style suddenly becomes fashionable.

It takes a looong time to find/buy shirts that I like, because I can rarely figure out how stuff is supposed to be worn... I always find myself impressed with the people who can take random pieces of clothes and accessories into the dressing room and come out looking astonishing.

I've tried to copy how I see other people wearing stuff, but it never seems to really be me-ish, so I started just "making" my own clothes. Sew up the sides/sleeves/collar to make them fit the way I want, and then maybe stencil on a design. Stylish? No idea. Comfy, easy peasy, and clean? Totally. My jeans are all the same, too. I decided that I needed more than two pairs and bought five more all at once. hehe

I like dark colors, tough materials, more pockets than I need when I put something on and zipper hoodies.

I did just buy a bowler hat though. A nice old lady suggested I find a proper habberdashery for my next one.

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A few possible reasons I could think of:
-There's an element of aesthetics to fashion, some people have an eye for it, and like the current trends.
-The community of fashion fans; some more people might enjoy that, similar to sports fanatics or people who like to talk about life with Asperger's Syndrome.
-But the most obvious is as a means of fitting in with the group.
It's like a work uniform that shows that you are part of the staff. Your casual clothing shows that you are part of society. As you leave school, there's more room for error though.

In my mind it's just a waste of money to keep up with the current trends.
At home I put on clothes because they keep me warm.
For public settings I mostly try to look presentable.
I don't have many rules except for matching colors (still remember from art class about colors that look good together) in a way that each piece of clothing has at least one color that's also on another piece of clothing.
But I'm convinced that the right clothes (not fasion) can make a huge difference in presence.

nurseangela you look great in your clothes by the way.
I'm shocked that it's all from QVC.

I wear the same style for years and I never thought about why but now I'm thinking why…I know I have rather good taste of styling clothes that people would ask me how to cody their outfits. But the last thing I want to be bothered is picking different styles on a daily basis. If I were a man I would wear like Steven Jobs did. His closet was filled with the same clothes and for me, that's the ideal way of wearing stuffs.
Mine is not that extreme like Jobs' as I don't want people think I never change clothes but I have a lot same styles in different color and texture. For instance I wear for years backpack + dark/black Jeans + converse shoes + hoody + t-shirt. And my closet filled with those kinds.
I'm thinking some of you just don't want to be bothered by extra work of picking up different styles like me, and that could be one of answers to OP's question.

I found that Christine Stuart wears what I wear for years.

I wondered about this recently when I realised the majority of my clothes are black or dark blue, and it looks odd wearing either all black or all blue, and wearing a combination of both looks like I'm doing it deliberately.
I've stuck to a very simple formula - neat-casual, clean, nonspecific. Basically plain coloured buttoned down collared shirts, dark jeans, black belts and brown boots. This is appropriate for most circumstances.
I feel silly if I'm wearing something that fits in to a current trend. It's happened a few times where the odd thing I like became fashionable (waistcoats at one stage) and I felt stupid wearing them, like I was trying to be trendy.
I think your body and how comfortable you are with it influences fashion too - I don't feel confident wearing anything too snug around the midsection, thanks to the fact that I don't exercise enough.

I dress fairly normal I guess. As neat as I need to, and as comfy as I can get away with.

The way I see it, there are fashion trends that change quickly, those seem to me like a pointless and frankly somewhat disgusting power game, usually revolving around either "which herd do you belong to" or "how rich are you". I don't even want to waste any time trying to participate in that. Brand names prominently displayed on clothing are the worst, if I'm going to be a walking advertisement for some company they'll have to give me the shirt for free and then pay me for the privilege! It's different with my employer though - I actually like walking around with their logo on my T-shirt, especially at work or on the way to/from there.

Oops I digressed - anyway, besides there fast-changing trends I think there are also "slow trends" (e.g. in professional attire as opposed to, say, youth fashions - things that last decades rather than years) where the payoff for learning to fit in is higher and lasts longer, so these can be worthwhile.
And finally, I think there are a few things about clothing that appeal directly to unchanging human (or in some cases perhaps only NT's) instincts, especially sex appeal.

For me, learning what little I know about this stuff required some experimentation. To gauge how some "new" dress style made people react to me, I mostly relied on people I had not met before and who had no expectations of what I look or "am" like. I guess I'm doing OK in that field - as far as I can remember, none of the comments I've gotten about me being "weird" have been about fashion, certainly in the last decade or so.

I prefer to wear vintage, unisex 60s Mod fashions with a few frills here and there.