please can anyone help me understand?

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hello, sorry if this is a bit muddled but hopefully it will make enough sense.
i have been in my job for 4.5 years. everything was OK up until i had some severe mental health problems a couple of years ago which ended up with me being diagnosed with ASD (things had been 'wrong' my whole life but the wheels totally fell off.) i was really pleased and liberated by my diagnosis and tried to inform my employers about it but straight away there was a lot of negativity to me about it including one colleague who made my life a living hell by spreading it around that i had made up/faking it to get special treatment (like they know anything about the real me)....
..cut to a couple of years later.. the guy who was bullying me left and it died down a little, & recently after an asessment i was provided a support worker paid for by the government to help me overcome some of my workplace asd challenges. the other day one of the guys who works in my team had a chat with my support worker while i was on lunch break and the colleague said *TO* my support worker that i'm (a very nasty name about me) and also that i'm faking ASD.

1. why would he say this to my support worker????? the person is there to support me with my asd in the workplace. he told me what had been said and is going to report it but why did this person say it to him?
2. what gives someone the right to say something like this at all... my diagnosis isn't open to negotiation, if my colleagues are told this is what i have, that is what i have (obviously my employer has my diagnostic report etc)
3. i seem high functioning because i have learned how to cope but it is an exhausting facade.... but this is why people think i'm faking it.. why on earth would i.. when my life outside of work is something nobody knows nothing about other than my parents and is severely impaired and limited in so many ways i never speak about at work.
4. is my support worker breaching my trust by having these convos behind my back with my colleagues? why was he having a conversation like that with this guy that he felt able to say such a comment about me?
5. is any of this discrimination? i don't feel at all safe or supported in my work place because nobody BELIEVES i have asd.. how can I expect them to support me if I need asd-related support (which isn't often but sometimes a time out or help making a phone call).
6. why are these people so nasty about me? i've never done anything to hurt them and they are always nice to my face.
7. all of this is making me so ill, actually suidical because i am so confused and upset.. i had to go to the dr who has increased my anti depressant and anti anxiety but i truly feel so unwell i can't face going into work, i can't trust anyone, but i always take things on face value and trust everyone, and this ends up happening............
please can anyone with asd or asd awareness please help me make some sense of what is going on and why? if there are mind games and agendas behind all of this i don't understand that kind of thing and am just in a huge mess makin myself iller and iller thinking about the situation. i am due back at work on monday but don't think i can face to stand beside this guy.