Do We Love Less, or More?

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I don't think it's anybody's place to say they love "more" or "differently" than anybody else. There is no possible way on earth anybody could know that.

I think it would involve how well the two people click together and how attracted they are to each other to answer that question.

This is pretty interesting... I don't know how to answer it, but I do know I don't love the same way... or at least, I don't think I do. My boyfriend can tell me every single thing he likes about me, why he loves me, how he feels when he's with me, and it's great and all, but when he wants a response I can just say "I love you because I love you". There's not much more to it. I really don't have the slightest clue WHY when it comes to complimentary things, I can think of nice things to say here and there, stumble my way through it at times, but I don't feel quite right, and I say them in the form of a question, lol. As if there is a wrong answer to it.

I was given a paper from my therapist to fill out. One of the questions is why do you feel committed to your S.O.? That one is still blank... the other is what do you see in your S.O.? (as in, I'm assuming, what draws you to this person?) It's still blank as well. I just know it, that's all there is to it.

It's hard for me, too. I don't know have I ever been in love. I have often heard people saying that if you really are in love, you know that yourself. Few times I have felt I'm truly in love with someone, but I'm not sure of it anymore. In some cases, it was more like obsessive crush that suddenly faded away.

So, I don't know do I love anyone or not.

I think I would leave it blank as well. Why do I feel connected to my S.O. Well, I love her. I would find any possible way for her to be happy over my own. I would do without food for a week if it meant she could eat comfortably three meals a day.

I absolutely hate dogs. Hate them. However, we have already planned to get a dog once we settle down. I have told her I didn't like dogs, so it's not like I kept things from her.

I absolutely hate talking on the phone, but the other day I was on the phone with her for an hour and a half talking to her while she is in France (yay Skype). I'm also considering a job answering phones if it lets me spoil her with gifts and resturant outings.

She also makes me feel clean, she's the only other person I've met whose apartment has been cleaner than mine (and since I've been over there more... mine has become somewhat dirtier...). And while I am hung on on cleanliness and things being in order, it's all ok since I have her. Of course now that's she's vacationing in France for a little while I've been cleaning like a madman And insomnia is creeping up on me '~'

But she says "I love you, forever and ever" and I say it back and I know that we both mean it. She also says I'm crazy, and I tell her the same, then we pounce on each other

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I think that when we do truly love, our love would be very intense - reinforced by our obsessive natures.

I also feel that love has to be mutually felt. If it's only one way then it's pretty much obsession. The passion has to be there - else it's just lust.

I grew up with very strong emotions, very strong love & desire to love. Over the last ten years or so, I was betrayed and badly hurt several times by the people I trusted most, and kind of blown off by family when I really needed them (I hate to use the word 'betrayed' in relation to them, because I don't think their intent was cruel). And now I find I've built this horrible, high, strong wall around myself and I'm not allowing myself to feel very much at all. Which, for an Aspie, makes it really extreme - like I didn't have enough social problems already . But I hope to get better. I figure as I have people I can trust, I'll naturally allow myself to feel more. Makes sense, right? Somebody please tell me it does . . . .

I don't think we so much love the individuals themselves, but rather the routine of having them around.

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We don't love in the conventional sense;
We fascinate and obsess.


And in context, if love was like an arrow.... hard-line obsession is like a ballista bolt. Siege weaponry.

There have been a few people through the course of time that I've become like a shadow to.... or a mere thing splatted onto the side of.... my entire existence dedicated by their every move.

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It doesn't seem to last though.
Every thing they then seem to do wrong.... to even slightly disrupt our other ways... gets tallied.... and counts against the obsession one bit at a time.... until we peel off them completely and go our own way again.

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nayashi, this is a most interesting post.. First and foremost how would you define Love? as there are various terms in describing it from person to person.
Myself, I'll simply say, I have once been in a romantic relationship where there was amoral love in that sense as well, there are family members that I had a sense of love for their presence in my life, this is what you might call, love of having the presence and qualities of such people in their life therefore, I feel many autistic people are capable of love regardless of what form it might take so, the next time I come across some NT stating that people in the autistic spectrum are not capable of love, I'll be able to clarify them on this error..