I don't think my parents understand me,

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I didn't get joy from talking to them.My mother is that sort of person that never gets frustrated.She knows that I am autistic and have adhd.However, It seems that she is incapable ofnoticing how sh***y my situation is .Last year December ,I started to be more aware tha t I am socially rejected and was stressed due to academic pressure.I was hospitalized for 3 months.The psychiatrist and my mum concealed my autism diagnosis for a couple of months.When I realized that I was autistic ,my mum told me that my autistic was "mild" and I should be more open up.Every time I told her how sh***y my social life was ,she reminded me that I was capable to have friend when I was small.Of course I can! Because social relationships in children is simpler .My mother cares about me ,but ever time I talked to her ,I feel more alienated .She believes that there is only one way to view the world ,she is incapable of understanding the world in another angle.I told her I was alone then guess what . She responded that everyone has some degree of autism and she felt she was sort of autistic too.She tried too hard to be more intimate but failed miserably. Sorry for my bad writing .My mother tongue is not English.

I understand I feel my parents don't understand me either even when they talk to my therapist, psychiatrist, and even Autism researchers.

My own dad got mad at me once because I wasn't out at a party or socializing.Complained that I was in my room all the time. I found it ironic since he complains about my youngest sister who is a social butterfly she socializes so much to the point there is always someone in our house that she brought in or she is always outside and coming home late. He said that it isn't normal for someone to be inside all the time and rarely socialize.

My oldest sister is studying to become a speech therapist and spent some time helping people with mental disorders. But before that she always tried to make me socialize even before I got a diagnosis. She's now trying to make me go away from home for college since she feels I'm becoming to clingling to the comfort of home that I'll never socialize since I just go straight home from class.

I can relate to feeling more alienated after socializing. It's sort of the "Hedgehogs Dilemma".

I agree with everyone has autism to some extent. Can you think of anyone who isn't interested in one thing more than another? My dad is far more anti-social than me, my mom is obsessive with work and cleaning, all my friends have certain interests/ obsessions.

Being violent is not part of the diagnosis, though that isn't to say no autistic people are violent. Neither is working, cleaning, or being interested in things. Fairly sure there's a lot more to being autistic than that. I disagree to "everyone is autistic". Sure, people have a couple of traits, but does that make them autistic? No.

My parents didn't understand me either, at least not straight away. They're trying at least. Just whenever I try to share how hard I find something and why, I just get my mother trying to empathise with me and say she understands but then says the opposite of what I was trying to say sometimes. Hopefully your parents also will try to understand you, but it isn't going to be overnight or anything.