Being Closed-Minded and Judgemental

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I've changed my vote now me and I've clicked on "Tolerant and closed minded".

I've been thinking about it a lot.

I like knowing what I can expect and what I'm going to do, so I try to make up my mind in the first place. That comfort depends on actually understanding what it is I'm doing, though--if I don't adapt, I can only lose. Doesn't mean I have to like it, but I don't know everything.

I was an awkward child and didn't exactly grow up to be charismatic, but I do trust my gut with people. Any time I've told myself I was judging too quickly or too harshly, I turned out to be right anyway and just got burned. I don't intend to change that, fair or not.

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I selected judgmental and open-minded because I think I still have a long way to go as far as improving as a person.

I'm probably more close-minded and judgmental nowadays, mainly due to be harassed in the past and recent events in my personal life.

Judgmental and open-minded for me.

I'm content with this.

I put tolerant and open minded I guess because I usually don't hold myself to absolutes and will adapt to new information.
This is learned behavior though, I used to be incredibly close minded and judgmental.

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Everyone is judgmental in some way to some degree, it's the human condition. It's when we judge from the personal perspective of "I am always right/perfect and anyone who disagrees with me is automatically wrong because truth only ever comes in one colour - mine" that judgmentalism becomes its most toxic and equates to dogmatic bigotry. We all make plenty of (usually benign) judgments every day, only we call it "choosing" or "discriminating" or "having a feeling" and other terms that distance the process from the J word.

I am not entirely certain. I keep changing my mind/vote. I am guessing that I am judgmental and open-minded.

I'd have to say all of the above.

In some ways I tend to be too open-minded and suggestible. Like I can hear a lot of different perspectives on a subject and find myself agreeing with all of them and not really sure what I think about it. But when I come to my own conclusion about something, I can be very stubborn about it, especially if it is based on having a bad experience.

I can take in a lot of ideas and opinions sort of neutrally, as just information, without really judging the merits of it one way or another. But when it comes to behaviors and actions, I am very judgmental.

I'm not always swayed by what other people consider to be evidence as I think it can be manipulated, biased, subject to interpretation, or just downright fake. I look more at how things fit into patterns. If the evidence presented seems to be an anomaly, or does not fit a pattern, I am very skeptical of it.

I am not sure what to vote for. I can be judgmental, I can be closed minded. I find lot of other people more judgmental than me. I find myself not having a lot of strong opinions so it doesn't matter what others perspectives are and it doesn't make me think anything different of them. But I find I can easily change my opinion if I learn a new fact or get more information. It's also hard to get me to change my opinion if I have had a personal experience like no one will ever convince me that all special needs kids should be in self contained rooms or convince me that violent kids should stay at home and harm others and that parents should get abused by their kids and that they shouldn't send them off.

It was very interesting when my husband and I were talking and I told him how I think people should be allowed to kill their abusers if they have no way out and parents should be allowed to kill their abusive children because it's no different than a woman killing her abuser and that would be one less abuser in the world. But then my husband told me "But what if they just say they were being abused when they were not, anyone can just say it if we had that law" and I said "Good point." Then I said they would have to prove it then and my husband said "But what if there was no proof because no one ever knew about it and the woman never showed signs." Also a good point. I can see how that new law would backfire if we voted it and had it passed. Then a bunch of people would be getting away with murder, all they would have to do is claim abuse and get their friends and family to convince it too to make it look like they were the victim. So I see some victims are f****d if they are in that situation because they would have to choose between jail and abuse. I decided I would rather go behind bars if I had to protect my children from the abuse.

I think this too. ha, not about you. However, the people who are really close to me think I'm judgemental and close-minded.
However, I think I'm open-minded and tolerant.

I think people in the outside world see me as tolerant and open-minded. However, I'm not sure if that's just because I think I am.

Tyrant would be a correct word about what my family sometimes thinks.

Hmmm. I don't know how to answer the poll as I could be any one of the four different things, at different times and depending upon the circumstances.

I think we're all somewhat judgmental at least once in a while. I think that's part of the human condition. As for me personally...I'm sometimes judgmental. Generally the only times I'm judgmental AND closed-minded are when my emotional buttons have been pushed AND it's an issue I already feel very strongly about it. Other than those times, I could go pretty much any way depending upon the subject at hand.

I fight against being judgmental, though, even when it is an issue I feel strongly about because I always feel there could be more to the story than I'm seeing/interpreting. I mean it goes without saying that we can never truly know another's motivations, how his/her history is making him/her say/do a certain thing, etc. Whether the person is having a good day, a bad day, etc.

On less important (to me) things I'll be VERY easygoing and open-minded.

As for tolerance, again, it really depends upon the situation, and other factors. I can be very intolerant of certain vocal stims my son makes (the hazards of being an autistic parent to an autistic child ) - I don't come down on him for it but I don't really have a tolerance for it at all, I'll either leave the room or will let him know that I'm feeling sensitive to it and then he'll either tone it down or leave the room...etc. But OTOH he may come over to me and twist and twist and twist and twist my hair for 3/4 of an hour and I'll never be bugged by it. Tolerance as in social tolerance, though...? Again...it really varies. Upon the subject matter...upon what I believe in...upon tons of different factors...

So I'm sorry, I could not answer your poll with just one category but those are my thoughts.

I'm somewhere between the 2nd and 3rd category.

Is being judgmental a negative thing because I want to be judgmental and tolerant and open minded.

IMHO as long as you are willing to entertain other possibilities that you find, you are on the right track in life.

I'm probably a lot more tolerant than I gave myself credit for.

I hope I can be open minded as well. I'd hate to think that I'm as rigid in my thinking as some people who I've had experience with lately.