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17 Nov 2015, 2:28 pm

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Actually Catlover5 has a grudge against me for some reason and is trying to chase me away. But I'm not backing off.
Why are you joining his side when it has become clear he is a manipulative bully?

Because you are being a bully.

I thought I made that perfectly clear.

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That's because you are one. You are using your sensitivity as an excuse for telling people what to post and how to post.

^^^This is exactly what I said before. You came to this forum on over-sensitivity and then berate someone for being overly sensitive. That is one of those definitions of bullying.


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17 Nov 2015, 2:28 pm

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I'm insensitive and often offend people without knowing it. What offends most people doesn't offend me. I'm a bit of a wrecking ball. :oops:


Cockroach, take a minute and listen to yourself.



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17 Nov 2015, 2:29 pm

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That's because you are one. You are using your sensitivity as an excuse for telling people what to post and how to post.

I'm not telling you what you can and can't post. I'm saying that I, along with other people, have a problem with the amount of negativity you're spreading over the forum. I even gave you advice about how you can let your anger out without annoying other people and you're using what I'm saying against me.



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17 Nov 2015, 2:32 pm

Cockroach96 wrote:
I'm insensitive and often offend people without knowing it. What offends most people doesn't offend me. I'm a bit of a wrecking ball. :oops:

The odd thing to me is here, you have been told exactly that. This is not a case of 'not knowing'.


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17 Nov 2015, 2:36 pm

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I'm not telling you what you can and can't post. I'm saying that I, along with other people, have a problem with the amount of negativity you're spreading over the forum. I even gave you advice about how you can let your anger out without annoying other people and you're using what I'm saying against me.
I already know about the rant thread, I've used it.

But why do you force me to be positive? Nobody has to bend to your views. And, like I said, stop victimizing yourself.


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17 Nov 2015, 2:38 pm

I'm sensitive to some things and insensitive to other. I've been called "oversensitive" and "heart of ice". All those people that said it were right, that's what I am. For that people I don't spare my time.
The people that really cares for me (and the ones I really care for) are those who understand what ambiguous can I be, maybe hearing the drip of the faucet and not hearing they're shouting me from the other block.



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17 Nov 2015, 2:39 pm

Cockroach96 wrote:
Catlover5 wrote:
I'm not telling you what you can and can't post. I'm saying that I, along with other people, have a problem with the amount of negativity you're spreading over the forum. I even gave you advice about how you can let your anger out without annoying other people and you're using what I'm saying against me.
I already know about the rant thread, I've used it.

But why do you force me to be positive? Nobody has to bend to your views. And, like I said, stop victimizing yourself.

I'm not "forcing" you to do anything. Feel free to keep on spreading the negativity, just don't expect that that will earn you much respect or support from people on here. Just saying.



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17 Nov 2015, 2:40 pm

Finally, we've come to an agreement.


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17 Nov 2015, 2:46 pm

I'm sorry to read that you're fighting, Catlove5 and Cockroach96. I read all the post before and I think it's precisely because your sensitivity/insensitivity that you're upset with each other. I know sometimes is hard to get along, I use to experience my own limits in that subject everyday, but I also know for sure that messing around what the other said doesn't give any space to think clearly. When things like this occurs to me I take a deep breath and try to put some distance, until I feel able to handle what is making me upset. I hope maybe this work for both of you too and if it's not sorry for interfere.



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17 Nov 2015, 2:47 pm

You're a smart guy, Cockroach. There's no point in presenting the cynical position. It's not based on experience; I believe it's based on things you've heard from other people--things which are not based on reality, but on ideology.

Like many people your age, you're trying to find your identity. At this point, you've decided to play Devil's Advocate. Many people your age do that--so they can seem like they are streetwise/tough, etc.

You have lots of gifts. You know at least two languages fluently. I wonder how many people in Romania speak/write English as well as you do.

You're not a dumb guy, by any means. You'll get better socially with practice. I was rather similar to you at age 19.



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17 Nov 2015, 2:54 pm

Cockroach96 wrote:
[quote="Catlover5"But why do you force me to be positive? Nobody has to bend to your views. And, like I said, stop victimizing yourself.

Because this isn't the proper thread for you to troll in.

You are trying to avoid any responsibility to what you say or do.

At this point it would seem you are using your condition to excuse your behaviour.


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17 Nov 2015, 2:57 pm

The fight is over. Me and Catlover5 have come to an agreement.


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17 Nov 2015, 3:16 pm

Cockroach96 wrote:
The fight is over. Me and Catlover5 have come to an agreement.

What agreement? In private or here?


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17 Nov 2015, 3:17 pm

Here.
Let's just forget it and move on.


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17 Nov 2015, 3:21 pm

No one has ever called me over sensitive in my life. The closest I have ever been told was "Stop taking things so damn personally." It's the same as being told you're being too sensitive aka over sensitive.


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18 Nov 2015, 8:15 pm

I hate being told to calm down... I've been told I'm too sensitive. And I often thought that made me...a horrible person. Any time someone said something about things I feel I had trouble with, I felt like less of a person.

I also despise people saying, "Lighten up." I hate to say that I can't help it, but situations where I'm "too serious" or "too intense" occur too often. I do try to slow down before I react or try to interpret before I respond.