Do you cut people off when you speak?

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Especially when I was younger, I was impulsive in that sense. If I wanted to say something, I said it. Not much filter in me at all! And if I interrupted somebody, I'd feel bad afterwards, but didn't care at the moment. I've always had a mixture of extroversion and introversion.

I've gotten much better in this regard, as I learned about people.

I do it when I'm talking on the phone to my grandmother.

I generally stay quiet so by the time I get to speak the conversation is usually onto the next topic. When I am around people I'm comfortable with, I interupt before they can move on and only realise I interrupted after the fact. Then I feel bad because I don't like being interrupted and I try really hard not to do it.

I do it all the time without meaning to or awareness of it. The worst is with my parents because then they start talking about me as if I'm not in the room, not sitting right there.

Mom: You just interrupted your father!
Dad: She does that all the time. She's awful.
Mom: I know, she's so rude.

Believe me, if I could magically get better at this I would.

I do this a lot by accident. I'll start saying something just as someone else starts to a second before, and I'll feel bad about it. Sometimes I'll even stop myself and let the other person talk first, just because when I start talking but someone else starts as well, they just carry on and I can't find the right time to say what I was going to say, if I still remember it.

No, but most of the time when I rarely get a word into a conversation it's generally cut off or interrupted by another person. Which makes me say screw it and give up on conveying my thoughts.

I still messed up on one on one sometimes. Either I only talk or I only listen.

In group conversations, I'm still too clueless when to or when not to say a thing. And so I tend to fade away in the background or ditch them. I cant get their attention whenever I'm talking unless I end up rising my voice and interupting them.

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yeah, i interrupt all the time, sometimes im able to stop myself and remind myself that other people are talking, when i forget i apologize to the person i cut off and let them finish what they were saying. If i didnt notice that i cut someone off my sister or dad will tell me and ill apologize.

Yes. It's probably my worst trait. Drives my wife nuts. Since I've become aware of why I do it, I have tried my best to bite my tongue. It's still a very real "work in progress".

Yea. It happens for me to sometimes cut through a convo when i've got something in mind and i don't feel like waiting to say it.

I have trouble knowing when it's my turn to speak and I tend to be at least a half step behind the beat of a conversation so sometimes I do it unintentionally.

Other times I do it on purpose though because it's the only way I can get a word in edgewise. Especially if someone else keeps cutting me off, I will finally interrupt them on purpose.

Most of the time it's other people cutting me off when I speak.

My therapist told me to "wait for the period," but I forget or get so impulsive that I do it even as I'm yelling at myself for doing it.

Are you kidding? This is like story of my life. There are countless moments where I'm accidentally cutting into a conversation and someone will get mad at me (mostly my mom). The one thing that's really frustrating though is that, when I'm in the middle of a conversation with someone, my mom will just barge in to say what she wants to say and it ruins my concentration.

All the time. My sister was the first one to tell me I do it when I was about 19, since then lecturers, bosses, friends have all told me to stop doing it. So now I know I do it, but have no idea how to stop. If I pay careful attention to whether the other person has finished, I never get a chance and end up saying nothing, and it's such hard work, especially in a group.

Has anyone figured this out? Can someone teach me how to have a conversation without annoying people with interrupting?