Is it weird to go to restaurants with your parents at 19?

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True, but not true.
We can live however we want, but there are consequences to our choices.
If I kill someone because I want to and get caught, I will go to jail or be executed.
If I make social faux pas repeatedly, I will not have friends.

The OP asks a legitimate question. In *THIS* case, any complaints about being "weird" are unfounded.
But in other social situations, it may be better to NOT just do what one wants if it brings about consequences one does not want to face!

*MOST* of the time, however, I think people need to be more tolerant of ASD-related behavior and people on the spectrum should be more free to just do what they want. Unfortunately, society has not caught up with this idea and will still ostracize those who exhibit odd behaviors and speech.

My point is, most people don't have a clue what life is about.

If people judge you as weird, well then, they're not the kind of people you should be listening to, not the sort you'd even want to associate with and especially not the sort who should dictate how you should live your life.

They're not the sort of people I'd want as friends and NO ONE should be prepared to jeopardise their morals, beliefs or way of being to suit anyone else's incorrect opinion on how YOUR life should be lived.

As I said earlier, Grow A Backbone. Show a little gumption!
Don't miss out on doing the things you want to do IN THE SHORT TIME you have to do them, simply because you're too scared to stand up and be who you are!

It's your life. Not theirs.


When you get older kid, you'll (hopefully) understand what I'm saying.

If not, then happily live your life to how "you think" others think about how you should live your life.

Be a person. Be a bloody individual! Think for yourself! Grow up!

Can you please stop acting so condescending toward me? I asked this question because I didn't know how common it was because I never saw anyone else do it, so I didn't know if I was violating some sort of "unwritten rule." I was curious to know what others thought about it. I did not post this for a person to insult me about feeling self-conscious.

Now you're learning!

How ironic when this a Autism and Asperger's website.

As long as you have a good time with your parents, it's cool.

GG - yeah I'm sorry that ended up happening. Glancing over the replies in general, it seems fine to go out to dinner with your folks, at any age. Hope you have a good time!

And I do not think anyone needed to be yelling at you on the matter.

Then I would tell everyone to say yes.

In my opinion, it is not weird to go to restaurants with your parents at 19.

You just gave me an idea, try to get my mom, my kids, and maybe some siblings and their kids to a restaurant before all grandchildren head back to college.

Free food, man! I've never stopped dining out with my parents.

If someone thinks this is weird then they're just going through a phase where they're trying to look cool by not hanging with parents in general.

I just thought of it from the parent's perspective. I always enjoy my time with my children. My son is 38 and the oldest grandchild is 13......so....no weirdness there...well, other than being in the restaurant. Fortunately, it was not noisy and very sedate. Helped a great deal.

I was un/underemployed until my mid-20's, so I pretty much was with mine at restaurants until I could actually afford to go anywhere on my own.

I did have an incident when I was 20/21: my dad and I, and my friend and her dad were at a restaurant; somehow I said something about "my dad" in front of the waitress, and she started insisting that it wasn't my dad, but my boyfriend. We kinda said yes, it was (my dad was actually 40 when I was born, so it's not even a similar-age mistake), and she eventually dropped it. But it was such a weird singling out of me when my friend was there in the same situation! This was at a 24-hour restaurant that closed some years ago (was cheap, so we went there often enough).

Boneheads abound everywhere. I think you got the waitress 0.95 model that was rolled out two weeks before getting that stupid chip removed at the factory.
I can't figure people who depend on tips, but are still the most surly people around. And, not the funny, 'please be acerbic' kinda surly either.

HAHAHAHAHA. If you're being serious, then I apologize for laughing. If you're not and being ironic, then, thanks for the laugh.

You know, I've often felt uncomfortable going anywhere with my parents, so it's not a problem exclusive to being nineteen years old. For me, the problem stems for a desire to have greater independence, and, well, being around my folks twenty-four-seven, even though I love them, just seems like a reminder that I'm not as self-reliant as I'd hope to be. So, don't fret, it's just life.