Telling my mom I think I have Aspergers

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Hello, I Really think I have Aspergers or Autism spectrum disorder I have done almost three months of research and when I read some things like systoms I automatically think somebody followed me around and took notes on me. Some of the behaviors that I have are: some things I touch especially carpet hurt my skin , I'm extremely awkward In social things , etc . It's starting to effect me I'm getting made of fun and constantly people say that the things I say are rude , even sometimes I feel like my family is. I just need a way to tell my mom without my siblings making fun of me ( i have 7 people in my house) I'm just really scared she will say I'm "attention seeking" help !

Unless you have heard her speak about Autism you gave no way of knowing how she will react. It can range from
You are making excuses, denial, to the idea of labeling people is bad you are you and that is fine, to "duh of course"

The question is do you want to stay "in the closet" or take the risk and share something very important to you with somebody you love?. My opinion is that right now ASD or whatever it is, is causing you distress and needs to be dealt with. Mom needs to know that the social ackwardness is causing you to be bullied.

Whatever you decide, I hope things work out well for you.

You might find it easier to see if you can talk to a school counsellor and get them on your side first, then if your mother has an adverse reaction to your revelation, you can see if the counsellor will talk to her; she'll probably be more likely to believe someone "in authority" if she doesn't believe you. How old are you? If you're close to moving out, or are eighteen already, you can see about getting an assessment (if that's something you're interested in) without needing her consent, then if you get a diagnosis, you'll be able to tell her about it with the medical proof to back your statement up.

How well do you get along with your mother?

If you do get along with her, tell her that you have something important that you want to discuss. Tell her that you've been reading up on Asperger's Syndrome, and that you might have some of the symptoms. Tell her this could be the reason for your social difficulties. Tell her that you don't want to be put in Special Ed....but that you might be able to get certain accommodations should you be officially diagnosed (with Autism Spectrum Disorder Level I, not Asperger's, since Asperger's is not longer officially diagnosed in the US).

Tell her it's not a death sentence---many people with Asperger's succeed in life. Give her some basic information about Asperger's. Ask her if she has any questions or thoughts.

If you don't get along with your mother too well, I'd probably wouldn't add fuel to the fire by mentioning Asperger's.

Maybe you can start with your concerns and issues with your mom, start by saying that your having a lot of trouble socializing, sensory issues and so on. try and get her to understand that these issues you are having are consistant with a aspergers symptoms

For a future advice, starting with specific issues is the easiest way to bring up a diagnoses or even during a diagnoses. Start by explaining YOUR personal problems, not the label itself.