Does anyone else wish they could be normal for once?

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Just for once get to enjoy the beautiful world the way it was meant to be enjoyed instead of being a prisoner of your own mind? I would give anything for that,why does the world have to be so cruel? All i want is a normal life.......

Yeah, sometimes I wish I could just be a normal 21 year old and have a social life, work, etc. without having to work through the issues that Asperger's present.

Where did you find that test you have as your sig? I would like to take it myself to see how I score.

When i see other people going to school, having a good time at a dance and just being able to have connections with people i wish i could feel what they feel..

I never felt good being hugged, at least i thought i did until i read up on oxytocin and relaxation in physical contact, i thought about it and while cuddling with my boyfriend i listened to his heart... it was so slow and he said he was really relaxed, i asked him to feel my heart and it was the opposite, it was beating very very fast and i didnt even feel anxious; i just felt nothing.... I then tried having my labrador lay on me and i felt amazing, my heart beat slowed down and i felt very at peace. I wish i could feel that way when i hug people... Its exactly like what temple grandin says in the movie..

"I've always wanted to understand the gentleness that other people feel by being hugged by their mothers. And now I've made a machine that lets me do that. It feels like a wire gets reconnected. Like something gets repaired."

As someone with narcissistic personality disorder, why would you want to be normal? Isn't arrogance and a sense of superiority standard for you? If you believe that you are superior, why on earth would you want to be normal?

there are a lot of different online tests, I think this might be what you want http://www.rdos.net/eng/Aspie-quiz.php

I am self Dx'd I could very well be an Aspie,I don't know.All I know is that I need to figure out a way to cope with the world to make the best out of my existence. I don't think the world should accommodate to me so I have to figure out a way to get myself back on track to enjoy this life the way it was meant to be enjoyed.

This hit me right in the feels

I want to say no, as there's some aspects of being autistic I find that I enjoy in a way, like having my special interest as my happy place.

But then I have trouble with executive function, and with noise and all that jazz which makes it difficult to find a job that doesn't make me burn out. So it's extremely hard to make money to even dream of affording my special interest.

And then I wish I could hold a conversation about something other than my special interest, and stop coming across as creepy and weird and rude.

I also wish I didn't have angry outbursts, or issues with flat affect and posture that makes my mom yell at me at dinner and tell me all I do is ruin her fun by "pouting", even if I'd been happy up until then.

Then I also wish I could go out to eat and not be driven to near homicide because the sound of chewing causes me physical pain.

Yep, that's the one! idk why but I treat that test as super accurate, it seems like there is a lot of thought put behind it.

As a child who grew up in the 90's and had a secure home and family life, I had a lovely childhood, but the only thing that spoilt it was having AS. This was mostly affected at school.

I remember when I was 10 I had an operation and was off school for a week, then when I came back to school I felt tired during playtime, and told an adult. She was busy, but she took me indoors and sat me on a chair then asked one of my classmates to keep me company. The girl who sat with me asked me if I wanted one of the other girls to sit with me. I said no because I knew she was happy playing in the playground, but the girl insisted, probably because she didn't want to sit with me either, so she went and got the other girl, who then stormed in, sat next to me angrily and snapped something quite nasty to me. I understand that they wanted to play outside, but if I was one of the other kids I bet a few friends would WANT to sit inside with me while I felt unwell. It's because I was an Aspie nobody cared.

Honestly? I used to be quite proud of being a neurodiverse individual, but thinking about it now... it kinda bites. I mean, there's nothing wrong with being an individualist or a unique person, but I just think life would be so much easier for me if I were neurotypical, if I could instinctively read nonverbal social cues, and if I actually had executive functioning. I have a couple of minor talents, but to be completely honest, I feel like a useless person for the most part. I dunno. A number of people like me, though some of them do want me to put more effort into being a functional individual, and I'm not sure I have the capacity for it. Kind of a shame, because I wish I were more independent and functional too.

I don't think being "functional" is completely beyond me, but it's something that I'll probably have to work 1000x harder at than the average person, and that's a really hard thing to do when you're a lazy SOB like me. I have to work on not being lazy, so that I can not be lazy, but that requires me to not be lazy... it's a catch 22.

Eh, I dunno, there are some things in life that I do enjoy, simple pleasures like food and music, but I could be doing so much more to pursue these things and enjoy them. I'd like to know where people get their "drive" from, because I certainly don't have much, if any.

Who is saying we don't enjoy the world as it is meant to be? Personally I am not a prisoner in my own mind, even with the usual autistic hurdles it can be a wonderful world.

My thoughts daily. So very well put. Just one day I'd like to be a normal kid. Be able to jump on a bicycle and ride down to the local park and shoot hoops, or anything like that.

I don't think I'd ever want to be normal. In fact I actually wish I was more abnormal than I actually am... I'm bored of being human, living in a house, etc etc...

But there are a few things I do wish I could be rid of, even for just one day. Anxiety being the main contender.

A normal life? Sounds boring. I'd rather live in a fantasy world and fight dragons or pilot spacecraft.

But that's just me.

No, I'm Happy, being a Shiny, Quirky Natured, 6:31 IV Piplup. Nicknamed Pieplup!