Crushes

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I have only ever two crushes in my life( from what i can remember). One lasted from dam preschool and all of primary school(they left in the second last year of primary) and even into 2years or so of high school, which is where I became 'friends'? with my current crush( I'm not sure because du'h... autism, YAY).

Oh good lord, yes!!

And, it's not always for the obvious, like physical attraction.

I have to admit that he's physically attractive but that is worth nothing if he has a bad personality.

Well,I really liked a boy who was a friend of mine but I don't think that I could count that as a crush because I was about eight or nine years old. I had another one when I was 12/13 on a young man (I think he was around 16/17).Anyway, do crushes on fictional characters count? If yes then I've had some and I still have.

I try not to have them. It's mentally hard though.

The only person I developed a crush on is the iCarly star, Miranda Cosgrove. I became very obsessed with her but I became obsessed with both my ex girlfriends & I no longer get obsessed cuz I take a med for my OCD.

I have been on the receiving end of a few crushes, but I have never had one myself.

I have had 3 in my lifetime. One of which has evolved into true love.

Sometimes, I feel like Howard Walowitz:
"There's the future Mrs. Wolowitz...wait, there's the future Mrs. Wolowitz, oh...nope, there's the future Mrs. Wolowitz..."

Really sucks because I'm so visually oriented and NYC is a mecca of cool looking people of all types. Get caught staring quite a lot.

I have had a lot, hur I'm not sure if they count. It was more about the idea of the person than the actually person.

I've had quite a lot of crushes, including two people who I suspect were interested in me. I just blew my opportunities because social anxiety.

I had many crushes from the age of about 8. I would become quite obsessed about them, write (and embarrassingly send) love letters, I did stuff like make a necklace with the person's initials and wear it to school, carved someone's initials into my wrist. I would think about my crushes all the time, and I had a chance to kiss 2 of them and totally freaked out and ran away, literally. Then alcohol came along. I think I would have stayed a virgin until my 30s if it wasn't for alcohol!

I've had many crushes over the course of my life. Some of them fictional characters. My first love when I was a kid was Ariel from The Little Mermaid.

My first was Julie Andrews. 1968. Got hit with a rock in the eye when I lived in the Bahamas. Very rudimentary medical services there. So, I got laid up with an eye patch for a while. Mom played her albums on the old Hi-Fi. And would just stare at her picture.....sigh.......

I was thinking about this. The thing I like about crushes is that they are on people that are at a distance. I get to feel all gooey inside without dealing with the reality of another person.

All those things that people do, and have to do, that I really would rather not know about for the most part.

The crush = fantasy

reality = reality and all the things that people really do and the lack of distance/space....I need my space....very much so. If I don't have it, I can't get oriented and it overloads me.

Crushes are indeed better than reality as there is no chance of them ever coming to anything ergo they are safer.

To answer the question: I have a crush and have had it since March 1980 on a Swedish rock musician little known outside his own nation where he has God status.

I believe that there at different levels at which you can have a crush. I've had crushes before, but they were either romantic or heavily-platonic crushes. I never realised that I didn't have sexual crushes because I was not aware of the urges some people with crushes have since I'd never had them myself. I only discovered last year that I was Asexual. But I still call my obsessions with boys with long hair (Those are my type) crushes that are either romantic or very platonic.

What I'm trying to say is, whenever I get a crush, it invovles fantasising about being his friend and doing things that best friends do with him, maybe kiss sometimes if it is a romantic crush. I never look at someone and think about doing anything sexual with them.

Whenever I get a crush on someone I know in real life, I'll have urges to want to talk to them and become their friend. That's all I really want, to be friends with them, because I don't want another boyfriend after what happened last year. And sometimes wanting is better than having. It's easier for me to have crushes on fictional characters because they're not real so I don't have to worry about talking to them X)