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22 Apr 2016, 11:59 pm

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I'm doing well. The confirmation of my intact sanity has been the most soothing of the experience.

It is a difficult thing knowing you neither fit in nor belong anywhere. Even your family. It led to my distance here, because the idea that I could find such (lacking the word here... but similar experience/thinking/etc), and yet not beling was becoming physically painful.

I'm ecstatic that this is an official diagnosis. I still feel like the new kid, but at least it's the new kid on a block of people like me. We may all be different, but we share enough in common to make me not be an oddity or stand out where I have thus been an abberation and even a burden on those around me.
It was liberating for me because I finally had corroboration that made sense to me after an entire life. Now, I can mentally raise the one finger salute to all the wienies that made life hard and will make life hard. I know the truth and so do you.....

Screw the haters if they be hanging about.


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23 Apr 2016, 12:17 am

I have told a large handful.of people. My confidants in real life have experience in this area, and have supported my journey here.
I told my sisters, both were supportive. One shares my traits but doesn't want to get a diagnosis because where I want to know why I have trouble so I to find a way to fix it, she says she would use it as an excuse not to. The other initially warned me not to use it as an excuse, which is indicative of our normal interactions. But later (long talk), showed that she knows MUCH more on the situation than I had previously given her credit for. She immediately understood many of the ramifications of my diagnosis, how it could help, and how not knowing has made things harder. It was nice to have her supportive when usually our conversations seem to end with us fighting or me angry with her.

It has been illuminating. Today has been exhilerating. I don't knownhow I will ever sleep, which is bizarre for me since Instarted the day with a migraine, which usually makes me sleep long and deep the next night.


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23 Apr 2016, 12:30 am

Well, I suggest that you put on a track suit and hoodie....run up and down stairs and smack some slabs of near frozen beef. Make sure you hear the music in your head.

Kinda feels like sorta energy, yes? Yer Rocky and you just won the first round.

I am happy your sisters understand. At least you have someone in the family supportive. Especially if they knew more about than you thought.

I know what you mean about the sleep. I think I actually slept that night a little better than normal. Just not longer. But it's still fubar'd all to hell and back. I've only had 3.5 hours in the last 42 hours. And it just keeps going on like that.

Even smoking is not making me get to sleep sooner. Just better sleep when I get there.


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23 Apr 2016, 1:36 am

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Just realized my reply was deleted.

I have been researching for about two years. So as far as ASD/Aspergers applies to myself and my family, I have already adjusted, you could say. This diagnosis basically lent weight behind my seeming paranoia/hypocondria.
The fact that I was right is the hardest thing to sink in so far. THAT feels surreal.

As for having a tribe, it feels like the first day of Junior year high school at a new school. I feel like the new kid, even having hung here for a while.

If that makes sense.


It does, but don't worry, no one here will shove you into a locker or steal your lunch money! The worst that might happen is you get cornered by someone with a special interest in deep fat fryers or washing machines and are forced to listen to a monologue on the subject :D


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23 Apr 2016, 7:08 am

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It does, but don't worry, no one here will shove you into a locker or steal your lunch money!
Well, no, but a group of us went around the girls bathroom's this morning and put saran wrap over each seat opening :mrgreen: :bounce:


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23 Apr 2016, 1:54 pm

zkydz wrote:
StarTrekker wrote:
It does, but don't worry, no one here will shove you into a locker or steal your lunch money!
Well, no, but a group of us went around the girls bathroom's this morning and put saran wrap over each seat opening :mrgreen: :bounce:


You are totally trouble!! !!


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23 Apr 2016, 2:05 pm

Brittniejoy1983 wrote:
zkydz wrote:
StarTrekker wrote:
It does, but don't worry, no one here will shove you into a locker or steal your lunch money!
Well, no, but a group of us went around the girls bathroom's this morning and put saran wrap over each seat opening :mrgreen: :bounce:


You are totally trouble!! ! !
Oh god, you have no idea. Water filled condoms, cherry bombs in the toilets....no pranks on individuals though. But, yeah....kinda makes it easy to believe I found out I had a 38 year old son 3 years ago.....I was the rebel without a clue.


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23 Apr 2016, 2:28 pm

Snort.

I was eating lunch in the bathrooms, and doing everything right. Such fun.


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23 Apr 2016, 2:38 pm

Brittniejoy1983 wrote:
Snort.

I was eating lunch in the bathrooms, and doing everything right. Such fun.
I was the oddball growing up in a fairly real version of 'Porky's'.

I had real problems with boundaries. All boundaries. What was worse was seeing the negative results of something and just having it tear me up inside. I still carry those idiotic moments with me every day.


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25 Apr 2016, 7:13 am

Brittniejoy1983 wrote:
I'm doing well.


Give yourself credit. Sounds like you're coping with plenty of stuff.

In the last 18 months, I've been diagnosed with both ADHD and ASD (autism spectrum disorder). And it all started with an appointment with a specialist to talk about some ADHD symptoms. At the end of the appointments, assessment and diagnosis meetings, I asked doctors how I'd managed to get to my 40s and not be diagnosed so far. They said it was about coping mechanisms.

On reflection, the ADHD and ASD explains quite a lot.

So now you know what you are dealing with.


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25 Apr 2016, 7:29 am

I don't tend to agree with the ADHD. Unless I have the kids, I'm always early, by 10-15 minutes or more, I tend to finish what I start (problem lies in that I have trouble starting). I only tend not to complete something if I'm not interested in it. I hyperfocus, but for days, and on a topic. I am easily distracted, but I have kids, and loud noises upset me. I fidget, but when I'm anxious, and only in one of three main ways. I check my phone allllllllllll the time, bit it breaks eye contact (so I've noticed).

So I can see why he THOUGHT ADHD, but I disagree.

Not if he said ODD, I would have totally bought that. :lol:


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25 Apr 2016, 7:52 am

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I only tend not to complete something if I'm not interested in it. I hyperfocus, but for days, and on a topic. I am easily distracted,:


All of that with me. Like you, I can focus on an interesting subject for days or longer.

The UK National Health Service published this report about the ADHD and autism.
http://www.rcpsych.ac.uk/pdf/Whitwell%2 ... pdates.pdf
Pages 13-15 are interesting because they talk about the symptoms and where they overlap or are different.

With ADHD, I think it's about being impatience, getting bored and easily distracted.
With ASD, I think it's about social skills and routines.

I take ADHD medication which helps provide some calm and focus. I now have a theory that when on the ADHD pills, my ASD side comes through. With ADHD pills, tend to feel more socially withdrawn.


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25 Apr 2016, 8:02 am

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With ADHD, I think it's about being impatience, getting bored and easily distracted.
With ASD, I think it's about social skills and routines.

I take ADHD medication which helps provide some calm and focus. I now have a theory that when on the ADHD pills, my ASD side comes through. With ADHD pills, tend to feel more socially withdrawn.


I think this holds true. I'm not impatient as a rule, but I have an 11 year old who will take an hour or two getting ready to go play soccer. And a three year old who likes to, uh, explore? (Run in the opposite direction).
I'm not generally easily distracted, but I volunteer with moms and young kids/babies, so when toddler play actively, they tend to shriek. Which is good, they are having fun, but loud noises and I don't get along well. So distraction there. But outside of that, not really easily distracted. But I know how I look like it.

At the same time, if the ADHD is allowing me to be out more, leave it.


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25 Apr 2016, 8:10 am

Brittniejoy1983 wrote:
I think this holds true. I'm not impatient as a rule, but I have an 11 year old who will take an hour or two getting ready to go play soccer. And a three year old who likes to, uh, explore?

At the same time, if the ADHD is allowing me to be out more, leave it.


I've no idea how you cope with bringing up children. And that's as well as what you have to deal with yourself.

ADHD can mask some of the symptoms of the autism spectrum. I've often been told that I'm chatty and enthusiastic, which may be explained by the ADHD.

What do you think you'll do with your diagnoses ? How will you use them ? Have you thought about medication for the ADHD ?


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25 Apr 2016, 8:23 am

Right now I'm using it to get my husband to consider learning a different way of managing our family. The house is completely dysfunctional, and there are so many things that I have trouble.coping with that he/they ignore because they thought I was just being ridiculous. This proves I'm not.
I have to go get the full report tonight, so we will see what is recommended.


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25 Apr 2016, 8:27 am

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I have to go get the full report tonight, so we will see what is recommended.


All part of the learning experience ?

For ADHD, I do take medication.


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