Do you hate people saying hi to you?

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Yeah, I generally dislike it when people say hi to me. I usually just stay silent and make a (rather odd) waving gesture, but sometimes I actually say "hello". It has also been pointed out to me that I sometimes don't react at all when people say hi to me.

When I was new to my school (after moving here) it was not too uncommon for somebody to go up and try to talk to the weird lonely guy in the corner. I did try to ask them questions and do small talk as well as I could, but despite my best efforts they usually give up on me or I accidentally start monologuing and they get bored. That happens a lot less now that I have a friend in that school, although we became friends because he came up and said hi to me so I guess it's not all bad.

i guess it depends on a certain personality type.

if one has a personality which is "affected" by other people's personalities, then one may feel more compulsion to comply with the social expectations of engagement.

if one has a personality which is not "affected" by other people's personalities, then one does not feel any social obligation or influence, and due to the resultant non-participation, is not morally accountable for whatever social dissatisfaction they may leave in their wake.

I cannot initiate or sustain conversations with other people - except my twin sister and my mom (I can verbalize any and all thoughts around them, at them, to them) - so I am dependent on other people to say "hi" to me if I want interaction.

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31st of July, 2013
Diagnosed: Autism Spectrum Disorder, Auditory-Verbal Processing Speed Disorder, and Visual-Motor Processing Speed Disorder.

Weak Emerging Social Communicator (The Social Thinking-­Social Communication Profile by Michelle Garcia Winner, Pamela Crooke and Stephanie Madrigal)

"I am silently correcting your grammar."

I don't mind "hi" but I start to get anxious when people ask "How are you?"

Hi theAP,

Some days I really like chatting to people & social interaction. Other days I just want to do my shopping, routine, ect. and quickly walk past people that I know that may want to chat.

If I don't want to chat, I usually say "It was good to see you today, but I really need to get home as I'm feeling overloaded. Maybe we can chat some other time".

I like it when people say "Hi" to me--but I get shy when this happens.

On the one hand, it's probably the only way I'll ever talk to someone, as I'll very rarely initiate contact with someone yet am pretty needy for interaction.

I hate the expectation that it's "just something you do"-- Well I don't. I hate doing things for that reason. I typically rebel against that concept. I don't want to be forced to be something I am not. And I am not friendly or outgoing. It's one thing to try, but if I'm not interested, please don't persist.

Once I've decided I don't like someone, which usually takes very little, I act as though that person does not exist. This is in any context. Work especially.

I am always confused by the greeting, "How are you?".

Many things are happening in my life at any given time, some great, some not. I can hardly think of them all at that moment, let alone add them all up to an overall mood.

Should I pick one and express my feelings on that? How do I pick one? Most recent? Most relevant? Most important? First one that comes to mind?

I usually cannot answer and just hope I do not have to answer.

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31st of July, 2013
Diagnosed: Autism Spectrum Disorder, Auditory-Verbal Processing Speed Disorder, and Visual-Motor Processing Speed Disorder.

Weak Emerging Social Communicator (The Social Thinking-­Social Communication Profile by Michelle Garcia Winner, Pamela Crooke and Stephanie Madrigal)

"I am silently correcting your grammar."

They mean: What is your emotional state RIGHT NOW when they ask "How are you?"

Sometimes, they want an answer and listen to it; other times, they don't bother listening for the answer.

I usually do not know my current emotional state though.

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31st of July, 2013
Diagnosed: Autism Spectrum Disorder, Auditory-Verbal Processing Speed Disorder, and Visual-Motor Processing Speed Disorder.

Weak Emerging Social Communicator (The Social Thinking-­Social Communication Profile by Michelle Garcia Winner, Pamela Crooke and Stephanie Madrigal)

"I am silently correcting your grammar."

I should have added "physical state" to what I said.

Are you in any physical pain? Do you have a headache? That is part of what people want to know if they ask "How are you?" Especially if they really care about "how you are doing."

I like it when people say hi. I just don't like being asked how I am.

When someone asks "how are you" I just respond with "I'm doing fine" unless it's someone that I know well and I'm actually not doing fine in which case I say how I'm feeling. It's echolalia and scripting really, I have that phrase ready so I can quickly respond whenever someone asks me that.