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31 May 2016, 3:32 pm

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this is the tractor cab he sees the monitors and the buttons but not the handles if that helps or that's how I understand it does that make sense

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31 May 2016, 4:37 pm

Cheyenne.m wrote:

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this is the tractor cab he sees the monitors and the buttons but not the handles if that helps or that's how I understand it does that make sense

Maybe it is something as simple as he hasn't been taught about the handles.

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31 May 2016, 5:55 pm

its just hard to get how he sees things so different from me when we look at the same thing what is ToM in plain english I read some of the other stuff but it was over my head

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31 May 2016, 5:58 pm

In basic terms, Theory of Mind (ToM) is the ability to understand, on the part of one person, that another, separate person could have thoughts which are different from their own.

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31 May 2016, 6:08 pm

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In basic terms, Theory of Mind (ToM) is the ability to understand, on the part of one person, that another, separate person could have thoughts which are different from their own.

Ok makes sense we been looking at pictures from the weekend rodeo we look at them he writes what he sees and I write what I see it's kinda funny the differences Well there is six of us it's raining so we are bored LOL

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31 May 2016, 6:12 pm

I've been meaning to ask this?

Has he returned your boot?

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31 May 2016, 6:16 pm

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I've been meaning to ask this?

Has he returned your boot?

No he will not discusses that subject He gets so mad I'm still trying to figure that one out. Why it's such a big deal to him

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31 May 2016, 6:17 pm

Why not talk to his parents about your missing boot to get it back.

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31 May 2016, 6:19 pm

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its just hard to get how he sees things so different from me when we look at the same thing what is ToM in plain english I read some of the other stuff but it was over my head

Sorry, I keep forgetting that you aren't autistic or an autism researcher. We swim in alphabet soup names! Hehe.

According to Wikipedia.org: "Theory of Mind (ToM) is the ability to attribute mental states (beliefs, intents, desires, pretending, knowledge etc.) to oneself and others, and to understand that others have beliefs, desires, intentions and perspectives that are different from one's own. Deficits can occur in people with autism spectrum disorders...."

So, it is like guessing what your grandmother is thinking when you see her angry and you haven't yet cleaned your bedroom. If Jonathan's grandmother did the same things, he might wonder why she's angry unless she tells him why.

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31 May 2016, 6:21 pm

Eventually, your friend is going to have to learn about the concept of "mine" versus "somebody else's."

I guessing your friend considers the boot a link between you and him.

You stated that he's a big guy. How big is he?

No doubt: there are big 13-year-olds out there. There was once a 12-year-old Little Leaguer who was 6 foot 8!

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31 May 2016, 6:25 pm

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...I guessing your friend considers the boot a link between you and him....

Like a Harry Potter Portkey?

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31 May 2016, 6:29 pm

Who knows? Maybe the other kid has a great imagination.

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31 May 2016, 6:32 pm

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he out weights me by 70 lbs and is very strong .in his mind I gave it to him

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31 May 2016, 6:33 pm

AspieUtah wrote:

Cheyenne.m wrote:

its just hard to get how he sees things so different from me when we look at the same thing what is ToM in plain english I read some of the other stuff but it was over my head

that makes sense not easier just since

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31 May 2016, 6:37 pm

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Why not talk to his parents about your missing boot to get it back.

he lives with his grandparents and they don't have a clue I think they are scared of him they are in there 70's they take very good care of his physical needs but don't understand his mental needs I know I'm not explaining it well put they make things worse because they don't understand they try but it not helping

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31 May 2016, 6:40 pm

AspieUtah wrote:

kraftiekortie wrote:

...I guessing your friend considers the boot a link between you and him....

Like a Harry Potter Portkey?

you mean the boot

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