How does having Aspergers give you a hard time?

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Was that directed at me? If so, thanks. But how we act online can be different from how we are in the real world. Basically, when I'm communicating online I'm in calm sensory environment, often alone. When it comes to talking face to face with people I'm bombarded by very basic everyday senses. I have strengths but those can be affected by my moods, my anxiety, even my hypoglycemia. Social situations seem to speed by me. There's not much time to prepare. I am a rather impulsive person though so sometimes that's enough to get me through it. I have skills but my very poorly treated ADHD symptoms (I at least take fish oil and exercise about 3 times a month) often create this huge barrier to achieving anything with them.

My own views on myself could possibly be incorrect with how I actually am, which is why they have me on medication.

Total and complete frustration to the point of meltdown at the inability to perform simple, mundane tasks.

Yes, we may think that getting a key to go on a keyring looks easy enough and we have seen other people do it in like 2 seconds, but here we are, half an hour later....

Then, people tell me 'just have patience, you'll get there' as if putting a key on a keyring is a huge life achievement, ya know? yeah, some help would be bloody nice, ever stop to consider that people?

This, so much. I'm a debater and a negotiator, and my practical skills are not all that hot, plus I have the tendency to get slowed down by my perfectionism. I haven't had a single job where this doesn't eventually places me in difficult situations.

its hard for me to make, keep and manage friends.

I wish I had the skillz to function as a normal person with others, I want to date and find love and experience good times and with aspergers I feel Im missing out on alot of social activities and generally being accepted.

For me, it's just loneliness. Feeling like there's no one who understands who you are or who sees things the way you do. I have had friendships in my life, but they're usually high maintenance and unstable. Sometimes I swear that all the friends I've had in my life have had mental health problems. Lately it's been worse, my core group of friends has just been drifting apart and I seem to be the one everyone's drifting away from. Sometimes I wish it felt like there was someone there for me. But a lot of the time, I seem to be able to manage things on my own.

For me its the fact that I'll never be able to have a career and I'll never be able to hold down a relationship for long enough to start a family.

Its a tie between being lonely all the time because I can't make friends and having trouble keeping jobs.

I guess adjusting to change is one of the biggest issues because its part of what caused me to drop out of school. Identifying and responding to emotions is another big struggle for me because i end up bottling up my emotions or just thinking everything is a panic attack. Personal hygiene is another i couldnt take care of my hair and had to cut it off and people ridicule me for wearing the same clothes for days. Controling my anger is another and i end up becoming violent when frustrated and angry. Socailizing was more of a problem when i wanted to make friends because i would get so frustrated with myself when someone wouldnt want to hang out with me because im too awkward and loud. Reading comprehension was a big problem in school.sensory issues make going out in public extremely difficult if the facility has flourecent lights and too much people i will go through sensory overload and not beable to function without any help and talking becomes extremely difficult.

The list goes on...

I'm dumb, insipid, perpetually stiff and obsess over lame things.