Am I The Only One Who Never Felt The Need To Have Friends?

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15 Jul 2016, 6:50 pm

For 100% of the time when I was in school. I never felt the need to have friends like when a hand full of people try to become my friend. I never tried to be a friend back because I didn't have it in me. Of course now recently graduated from High School, I realized how much damage I cause to my life. Do you think I was like that because I didn't discovered I had Aspergers until I was 17? For like 98% of the time I didn't even knew I never had the need. I was just floating around with no knowledge of my reality.



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15 Jul 2016, 6:54 pm

It doesn't matter what happened in the past at school. Now, you realize that you want to make friends. So go make friends.



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15 Jul 2016, 6:59 pm

I don't have any friends, nor did I in high school (I did try). While I still don't want friendship on a personal level. I still see the need on a professional level; important for career advancement...



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15 Jul 2016, 11:37 pm

Good friendship is a protection against being exploited. As satisfying as it can be to do things on your own, humans are not designed to operate completely solo, especially when surrounded by other (potentially dangerous) humans. Plus there are more opportunities to gain wisdom through observation and avoid repeating the mistakes that other people have already made.



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16 Jul 2016, 12:14 am

I have friends and acquaintances, but I don't need them.

Because I don't need to have friends, I'm pretty much unattached. I just let them come to me if I see it fit. I will be loyal and be there for them if they need me, but also I can let them go.

:lol: And I do not mind if they introduce me to a gang or whatever, they won't gain anything from me. They will not convince me to waste my time if I choose to.
I don't do 'business friends' schemes. That's entirely up to them.

:| So yes, I know what I want. I even fulfilled popularity status, and know if that's what I need or want. Turns out I didn't. :lol:


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17 Jul 2016, 6:22 am

Personally I've never felt the need to be popular or have hundreds of friends, I've got one who lives just up the road from me who I hang out with occasionally and another who lives in america who I message and talk to daily and I feel like that's enough. I dont need any more.

A few close friends is better loads who are just acquaintances.


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17 Jul 2016, 7:14 am

Most people aren't true friends though. How do you find real friends? I find that most people will be nice to me to my face but talk badly about me behind my back. For this reason I don't feel the need for friends.

I think that being likable helps a lot with career advancement. Sadly, I'm not very likable either no matter how hard I try.



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17 Jul 2016, 2:53 pm

Not everyone craves companionship and its not bad. In Fact its a sign of confidence and self love.

I craved friendship a lot as a kid.i was so desperate for friendship i would do anything to get people to laugh and hangout with me. But i always just came off as strange and awkward or not all there. I was a bully target.


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18 Jul 2016, 12:19 pm

kaedatiger wrote:
Good friendship is a protection against being exploited.


If friendship is a protection against being exploited then aren't friends exploiting each other for protection?

kaedatiger wrote:
As satisfying as it can be to do things on your own, humans are not designed to operate completely solo, especially when surrounded by other (potentially dangerous) humans.


Who designed humans and why weren't we designed to be completely self sufficient?

kaedatiger wrote:
...there are more opportunities to gain wisdom through observation and avoid repeating the mistakes that other people have already made.


Isn't the opposite true as well - we can face peer pressure to do things we wouldn't normally do. Examples might include including smoking, drinking alcohol, drugs and joining gangs? Thoughts and opinions can be influenced or manipulated in a group situation just so that they are consistent with the other members rather than developing them independently and objectively.



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18 Jul 2016, 1:06 pm

I don't have, nor do I want friends. The friends I've had in the past have always manage to screw me over badly.



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18 Jul 2016, 1:46 pm

no thats the thing with me, i don't feel the need to make friends or have romantic relationships, but my mother thinks i should so has always insisted on me joining clubs and in uni she wants me to try to go for societies (i think id just say im joining them and then not really). but since she learned more about how i am and the whole aspergers thing she has pretty much started to leave me alone.

but yeah, never felt the need really


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18 Jul 2016, 6:16 pm

i get lonely sometimes, but most of the time i can't stand being around people/friends. the internet has been a blessing for me, it's the perfect way to communicate and bond


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19 Jul 2016, 1:10 am

Don't really have any need for a friend. I don't mind having one if someone wants to be friends and it is nice while it lasts. But I don't think I will ever initiate a friendship. And most of my friends, which come one at a time, have either been at school only or internet only. My last friend has stopped writing back and doesn't play mmo with me anymore.



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19 Jul 2016, 2:14 am

Neurotypicals need social interaction to function. Non-neurotypicals especially aspies do not need social interaction to function because aspies are not pack animals/pack hunters.



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21 Jul 2016, 12:04 am

I have maybe 3 people who may be considered as "friends." Never tried to make any, and wouldn't get the gist of it anyway.


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21 Jul 2016, 5:48 pm

I had a need for friends, kids actually came to me and played with me. That was how I made friends. I only maybe made a very few on my own.


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