How bad is your social isolation?

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I am really interesting in social contact, but this contact is "one-sided", not so recpirocal. I rather "do not have" need of gaining social skills - it is in some way asocial. I have "severe cautiousness" about "alien" people - I have "concern" that they can harm, poison me - maybe it is one of causes of my diagnosis of schizotypal disorder. I have no friends and someone might say that I have never had a friend.

I wish I was more isolated some days. Not much alone time lately.

I prefer having people to interact with than being on my own, but I don't care to gather with other humans unless there is a really defined purpose or at least a plan for what we're really going to do, and I don't like to talk to people who just want to talk aimlessly. Individuals who ask me to socialize without specifying, or who contact me for no reason other than to say "what's up" and expect a discussion to evolve from there— I cannot deal with this. I also have a much broader sense of "interaction" than some people do. Like as long as we are having engaged conversations online, etc., that is totally fine, I don't feel lonely. I enjoy long-distance friendships as much as local ones.

And also I just don't care about having many casual social ties. If it's casual for me then that means there are various qualities about that person I don't actually like so much, and therefore, why would I bother to maintain that? I may want to interact with people but it's kind of a "go hard or go home" thing. If I'm not so close with someone that our attachment borders on the romantic or sexual (or is both/either), then... I don't have much energy left for people who fall outside that category. Anyone else gets to exist at a distance of professional cordiality/comradely solidarity/basic human decency/whatever, and they had best be content with that position.

How bad is it? I live with my wife. I work from home. I see no one but my wife and the people at the supermarket most weeks.

I dislike it but know that being in the office. Or doing more social stuff will wear me out and i will want to be alone.

It's weird because I want to have people play with me and stuff but it's also too much sometimes. Prior to being an adult and being taken care of by my keepers, it was assumed that because I didn't talk, I didn't know about anything going on around me. So generally I spent my life in the house or the fenced in yard. Now I have some words and get read to and played with when I want to.

I go to work or classes where I speak when I'm spoken to. Otherwise socialisation is very minimal, no friends, limited interactions with close family. Actually I'm trying to rebuild my social isolation at the moment, I've become too social (still not very by any normal standard, but too much for me) and I need it to stop for my own good. For the most part I enjoy being alone, but the prospect of being lonely forever depresses me. Even so I can't handle myself around other people. Alone I am pretty successful at life, with others I feel I become a disaster.

Other than my family the only other person I see on a semi regular basis is my doctor.

Last edited by Graywulf on 25 Sep 2016, 3:59 pm, edited 1 time in total.

I am the poster girl for social isolation and cannot get enough of it. I neither like nor trust people.

I have a friend near me, but I feel pretty isolated. Due to her busy schedule, we don't get to hang out a lot. I have another friend, but she doesn't live here. I text both of them to keep in touch, but I spend most of my time alone on the computer and watching TV.

I feel socially isolated, but I've been more isolated. Leading up to my diagnosis and after, I was in a deep depression and I was living with some toxic people. At the time, I was taking what they were saying about me to heart.

They're out of my life now, but I'm still recovering emotionally. Right now, I have people in my life, family friends, willing to listen to me and emotionally connect with, but I'm still having a hard time doing that.

It's pretty bad. I have friends online but none in the real world, somehow I have accepted the fact that I may never have any.

My job is pretty social, and that's plenty enough for me!! ! Maybe a friend would be good. But not too many meetings.

I am interested if other people are threatened by 'alien people', as nca14 is. I am! It's always been the case, but I wasn't really aware of it so much until recently. If someone new enters the picture, I assume they are there purely to humiliate me! I know this probably isn't true...so it's good that I'm aware of it now, so I can find a way to accept them into the group without making this assumption. I used to just give them the cold shoulder, which probably made them feel bad. But in my mind, I was protecting myself from a sure danger.

I was very isolated when I was younger btw. I would be in a room with other people, but feel I was locked inside myself, I couldn't break free. I felt that I wasn't "allowed" out.