I feel very lonely

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I don't know if people want to talk with me or not. So i am afraid of starting a conversation. And i cant make friends. Even on facebook i have 85 friends and on instagram i have 18 followers and 11 following. In real world i have only my family and no close friends. What can i do

My life is pretty lonely too, I live on my own in a place where I don't know anybody.
The only way to sort that out is to push yourself to go out and do things you enjoy with likeminded people. You're only 18, I was well into my 20s before I pushed myself out there.

Hopefully we can make friends on this forum!

Your 18 I can see. What are you currently doing now, just asking?

I'm writing this on my phone right now.

Now I mean are you going to college, university etc?

No, I finished high school now i'm studying for university at home. University entrance exam is on march 2017. Then i will go to university.

I feel very lonely too sometimes. I don't really have any friends, but I do have some great family members.

Cool then you have an opportunity ahead of you. For me the most lonely times of the year is during the holidays. I am at home most of the time and I have very few friends. But the thing is once you go to University or school that can all change. You have a chance to interact with peope around you and from what I hear it is an enjoyable experience.

My friend's dad had almost no friends in High School. But that changed once he went to university he met people with similar interests who were accepting of him and eventually his wife. The thing is about University is that you meet so many people their and their wil be many learning similar topics to you that have similar interests.

What ever could be your problem, when you see all people on this forum, you know that your not alone.

I strongly advise you study university in real-life and don't do online study.

Online study is very isolating socially and better suited for middle-aged people who already work a job and need to study on the side without having to spend massive amounts of money commuting.

A young person who likely only has a part-time job is far better suited to real-life study.

The social opportunities at university are also very important as there'll never be a time you're a young adult and surrounded by so many people your age ever again (high school is different as you're teens, not adults.

If you're already doing this, good stuff.

As for me?

*Sigh* due to me constantly moving, friends constantly moving, and such, I have no nearby friends and am completely and totally socially isolated.

I'm not sure what I want to study.

Working a job is too hard and I'm on disability payment.

I do volunteer sometimes, as many hours as I can do a week, but haven't done this in a long time and due to injuring my wrist I can't do it anyway.

I also can't lift weights or really do most forms of exercise for a few months now and exercise is one of the few things that makes me happy anymore in this miserably lonely, depressive life.

At least I'm over-time aquiring money from being on disability and using it to attain more items and things over time.

I am also an electronic musician and my personal home studio and equipment is almost full set-up.

When was your birthday? Happy Birthday, Sir!

As do I. I just play 90s music to cheer me up. (I'm blue).

I wish you luck in finding what you need in terms of helping your loneliness. I guess in looking at it, my world is kind of lonely too. I have a wife and two kids. Other than that, I am pretty much by myself when it comes to close people. I really have no friends that I hang out with. My father passed away last year and my mother is in a nursing home with severe dementia. Hanging out with people can wear me out and cause me anxiety. I prefer the companionship of my close family as to the social scene. Socializing has never been my thing.

Just have to say, for 200,000 years people wandered about in groups. They lived and worked and ate and played together. People were never alone. Suddenly, now, we're in this weird culture that fractures everyone into pieces. It isn't just our difference that keeps us alone - it's this freaky world!

I wish you all connection and friends. I can so completely relate...