Everything goes wrong

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Hi,
Very briefly, I have always known I was different. That I had a difficult time in life. Over the years, it has become obvious that I have Aspergers.

Recently, everything that could go wrong has. My worst nightmares have come true. Broke up with my long term boyfriend (were suppose to get married last Summer), situation at work has become difficult and now my living arrangements have become very sketchy. On top of all that, my mother has had a terminal illness, that is genetic, over the last few years.

Just a few years ago, things were looking way up. Had started dated alot, work and family were great. How quickly things can fall apart.

It seems like all my worst fears have come true.

Has anyone gone through something like this? How do you cope? Especially with anxiety/ depression issues?

Great job ended
Last pay check bounced
Just started payments on new car
Baby died
Pneumonia

Small things helped
One was reading the book
Velveteen Rabbit

I still don't know why it helped
but it did.

Did this all just happen? So, sorry about your loss.

Well that sucks.
I figure if you want things to get better you're just gonna have to force a resolution for yourself.

I know the depression and anxiety will make things very hard but, people do get through these things you just have to believe in yourself and push through it with willpower.

Perhaps move in with your mother so you can look after her a bit better, have more stable living arrangements, it might be crap but it's better than worrying and driving yourself into a mental mess. Maybe try to find another job as finding work while you're already working is much easier.

Make sure you're eating healthy, doing a bit of exercise. Treat yourself now and then too. Hope it gets better, good luck.

Thank you
I'm currently living with my parents. It is hard for me to make transitions, getting use to change. I also have a difficult time somewhat accurately determining how situations will turn out. Basically how to react. Tend to over plan, over do. When it doesn't work out well, I fall apart.

How are you now?

Very, very stressed. Honestly, don't know what to do or how to relax.

I've had this happen twice in my life.

kicked out of a cult
lost all of my "friends"
lost my job
caught pneumonia and nearly died
Even my cat gave up on me. She just up and walked out one day.

Second time

Moved across country to join a business
Had my partner decide to pull out at the last minute leaving me jobless
had to move in with my parents at 34 years old
developed severe vertigo which turned into chronic migraine
gained weight to almost 300#
Got fired from my temporary job as a result of whistle blowing abuse of disabled people
My dog died
My girlfriend left me. Said she just wasn't feeling it, but she became engaged to another woman two WEEKS after breaking up with me.

Yes - in every life, the s**t does hit the fan from time to time.

How did I deal? Both times I was caught without good medical care. I used self-help books. Like for real. I studied them and gave myself assignments from them. I just kind of trudged on. I do have TV shows that I use to help myself through hardship. I used St. John's Wort to help with the depression symptoms. I just kind of put one foot in front of the other. In the case of the second great personal disaster, it was actually the start of something wonderful. I started my own business and that's been going great. So, you never know. You can't predict where you're life will be in a week or a year. You can't know that it will always suck or it will always be great.

Legend has a smart person asking for 4 words that will apply to any situation.

This too shall pass

are the words.

Thank you so much.
Good to know I am not alone.
I've been having a bit of a feeling that this will either blow over or the start of something better. A small feeling, of course, have a big pessimistic side.

Take your passions and absorb yourself in them to find an escape and any peace that you can. Write down a list with 2 columns. one column listing everything that is wrong in your life right now, and the other column with a baby step that will start to fix it. Start crossing off those baby steps and take as much time as you need.

I been through this when I was 20. I had anxiety issues in my 1st relationship that caused me to become very controlling which lead to me & my girlfriend breaking up. My parents had been on my back about me not having a job even thou I was applying for most any job I thought I might could do & they were threatening to kick me out for being lazy & demanding. I fell into a bad depression & lost some good friends & got in trouble with some online forums I used cuz I kept making depressive post. I had a mental breakdown & slashed my arm 9x. I started seeing a psych & taking meds. I eventually got a job & after 5 years I decided to wean myself off the psych meds because I thought they may be making me worse & I had lost my 3rd job & my health insurance that I was continuing under COBRA was ready to run out. I felt better being off the meds than I did the entire time I was on them. I do think I needed the meds when I had the breakdown but I felt they had run their coarse & I was a better person than when I had started.

My sincerest condolences to everyone for all of their losses.

This year has been pretty good, for the most part, but I did suffer a major loss when my 18 year old cat passed away. He was the last survivor of three brothers.

Presently, I'm sick, but I'm starting to feel better.

Things took another dive. My mother is now in hospice. She's taken a big turn for the worst. Don't think she will make it past Summer. Another pet is sick, stressed or both.

I still have my job and a place to live. So, a few things are going for me.

I'm tired of bad things happening. Would love just 6 months or more of peace.

Right now, I'm really sad and anxious. Any positive thoughts would be greatly appreciated.