Employment
14 Jan 2017, 9:34 pm
I have been struggling with employment for the past year. I worked at a company for 15 yrs that was very understanding of my high functioning autism and then I was laid off last January. Since then I have had 3 jobs.
The first one lasted from March to May and I was terminated because they said they no longer needed me. I was not fired and was eligible for unemployment. It seems like I was fired, though. They said I lacked the skills they needed and there had been some modifications to my job title.
The 2nd one I quite because I could not deal with customers at the front desk of the hotel. My last day ended in my calling the police because a guest was yelling at me because he took a yogurt that was only available for guest at breakfast time. He refused to give it back.
My last job as a Digital Pro I'm sure I lost because of my constant meltdowns. Their machines were old and the owner was constantly micro managing me. They said my services were no longer needed and that they were no longer doing mailings and that was that.
I excepted a job 3 days later and I'm waiting for my background check to come back. It has been 4 days since I signed the papers and I still have not heard anything back from them. I think one of my previous employers may have said bad things about me.
I'm afraid my working days are coming to an end and I just can't seem to get my meltdowns under control. I will lose my house, car and everything if I can't work anymore. I have no one to help me.
I think my autism has gotten worse the older I get.
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15 Jan 2017, 4:28 am
I always struggled looking for work. I haven't worked since 2011. There have been times where it looked like I was going to get the the job, but I think maybe bringing up having Aspergers scares the employer and they reconsider and the jobs I did get only lasted a couple days before they say its not going to work out. I am on disability so I technically I could live off that, but I want to work, just not with people because I'm not a people person.
Maybe try and find someone who specializes in helping people with Autism/Aspergers. I've tried it and it may not have worked out for me, but everyone is different.
15 Jan 2017, 6:08 am
I've been made redundant six times in a row and have had around twenty jobs in my life. I'm lucky that I now seem to have a job that ideally suits my strengths and takes into account my weaknesses. I do understand how debilitating losing so many jobs is (I felt truly worthless) but all I can say is to keep plugging away and try to find a job that suits your needs rather than just taking a job because it's available and you, superficially at least, fill its requirements.
Remember, the interview is just as much you interviewing the company as them interviewing you. Don't be afraid to turn down a job.
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15 Jan 2017, 7:33 am
Deb1970 wrote:
I have been struggling with employment for the past year. I worked at a company for 15 yrs that was very understanding of my high functioning autism and then I was laid off last January. Since then I have had 3 jobs.
The first one lasted from March to May and I was terminated because they said they no longer needed me. I was not fired and was eligible for unemployment. It seems like I was fired, though. They said I lacked the skills they needed and there had been some modifications to my job title.
The 2nd one I quite because I could not deal with customers at the front desk of the hotel. My last day ended in my calling the police because a guest was yelling at me because he took a yogurt that was only available for guest at breakfast time. He refused to give it back.
My last job as a Digital Pro I'm sure I lost because of my constant meltdowns. Their machines were old and the owner was constantly micro managing me. They said my services were no longer needed and that they were no longer doing mailings and that was that.
I excepted a job 3 days later and I'm waiting for my background check to come back. It has been 4 days since I signed the papers and I still have not heard anything back from them. I think one of my previous employers may have said bad things about me.
I'm afraid my working days are coming to an end and I just can't seem to get my meltdowns under control. I will lose my house, car and everything if I can't work anymore. I have no one to help me.
I think my autism has gotten worse the older I get.
The first one lasted from March to May and I was terminated because they said they no longer needed me. I was not fired and was eligible for unemployment. It seems like I was fired, though. They said I lacked the skills they needed and there had been some modifications to my job title.
The 2nd one I quite because I could not deal with customers at the front desk of the hotel. My last day ended in my calling the police because a guest was yelling at me because he took a yogurt that was only available for guest at breakfast time. He refused to give it back.
My last job as a Digital Pro I'm sure I lost because of my constant meltdowns. Their machines were old and the owner was constantly micro managing me. They said my services were no longer needed and that they were no longer doing mailings and that was that.
I excepted a job 3 days later and I'm waiting for my background check to come back. It has been 4 days since I signed the papers and I still have not heard anything back from them. I think one of my previous employers may have said bad things about me.
I'm afraid my working days are coming to an end and I just can't seem to get my meltdowns under control. I will lose my house, car and everything if I can't work anymore. I have no one to help me.
I think my autism has gotten worse the older I get.
Been there, done that. I'm sorry to say this, but it will only get worse. I strongly suggest you start looking into getting on SSDI. Life is too short to waste it drifting from one crappy job to the next. You have worked long enough. You should devote the rest of your life to your happiness and your interests. Hopefully your disability benefits will be enough to cover your house and car expenses. I think you will feel a lot better, when you know you will have a steady income from SSDI.
15 Jan 2017, 10:48 am
liveandrew wrote:
I've been made redundant six times in a row and have had around twenty jobs in my life. I'm lucky that I now seem to have a job that ideally suits my strengths and takes into account my weaknesses. I do understand how debilitating losing so many jobs is (I felt truly worthless) but all I can say is to keep plugging away and try to find a job that suits your needs rather than just taking a job because it's available and you, superficially at least, fill its requirements.
Remember, the interview is just as much you interviewing the company as them interviewing you. Don't be afraid to turn down a job.
Remember, the interview is just as much you interviewing the company as them interviewing you. Don't be afraid to turn down a job.
I have to take care of myself and I have exhausted my unemployment benefits. I have to take whatever is offered to me or live with my mom and that does not pay my $85,000 debt.
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15 Jan 2017, 11:21 am
Deb1970 wrote:
liveandrew wrote:
I've been made redundant six times in a row and have had around twenty jobs in my life. I'm lucky that I now seem to have a job that ideally suits my strengths and takes into account my weaknesses. I do understand how debilitating losing so many jobs is (I felt truly worthless) but all I can say is to keep plugging away and try to find a job that suits your needs rather than just taking a job because it's available and you, superficially at least, fill its requirements.
Remember, the interview is just as much you interviewing the company as them interviewing you. Don't be afraid to turn down a job.
Remember, the interview is just as much you interviewing the company as them interviewing you. Don't be afraid to turn down a job.
I have to take care of myself and I have exhausted my unemployment benefits. I have to take whatever is offered to me or live with my mom and that does not pay my $85,000 debt.
s**t! I had no idea that benefits were limited like this in the US. Over here, they're reduced after a period but they are (or at least they were when I was unemployed for 3 years) enough to live on. I that case, I'd take any crappy job and keep applying for a decent one at the same time. Other than that, I have nothing. I'm so sorry!
[Edit] As for the debt. In the UK, you can declare personal bankruptcy which would cancel your debts but also make it impossible to take out any loans, including mortgages, for a certain period. Is there anything similar in the US? Other than that, we have Citizens Advice Bureaux who offer free advice for situations like this. Again, I have no idea if you have similar in the US.
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Self-Diagnosed: Aphantasia
Your neurodiverse (Aspie) score: 152 of 200
Your neurotypical (non-autistic) score: 46 of 200
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15 Jan 2017, 11:59 am
liveandrew wrote:
Deb1970 wrote:
liveandrew wrote:
I've been made redundant six times in a row and have had around twenty jobs in my life. I'm lucky that I now seem to have a job that ideally suits my strengths and takes into account my weaknesses. I do understand how debilitating losing so many jobs is (I felt truly worthless) but all I can say is to keep plugging away and try to find a job that suits your needs rather than just taking a job because it's available and you, superficially at least, fill its requirements.
Remember, the interview is just as much you interviewing the company as them interviewing you. Don't be afraid to turn down a job.
Remember, the interview is just as much you interviewing the company as them interviewing you. Don't be afraid to turn down a job.
I have to take care of myself and I have exhausted my unemployment benefits. I have to take whatever is offered to me or live with my mom and that does not pay my $85,000 debt.
s**t! I had no idea that benefits were limited like this in the US. Over here, they're reduced after a period but they are (or at least they were when I was unemployed for 3 years) enough to live on. I that case, I'd take any crappy job and keep applying for a decent one at the same time. Other than that, I have nothing. I'm so sorry!
[Edit] As for the debt. In the UK, you can declare personal bankruptcy which would cancel your debts but also make it impossible to take out any loans, including mortgages, for a certain period. Is there anything similar in the US? Other than that, we have Citizens Advice Bureaux who offer free advice for situations like this. Again, I have no idea if you have similar in the US.
I could sell my house and pay off most of my mortgage debt.I could file Bankruptcy on my medical and credit card debt. But I can not have my student loans written off. They are government loans and the government will garnish wages and come after me until I'm approved for disability. They will also make me sell my car and anything that is of any assets. I will become very poor and forced to live in Government low-income housing in areas of the city that have high crime rates. I will be made to get rid of my animals because they would not be allowed. I would only receive about $1000 dollars a month in disability payments. I was on disability in my 20's and it was terrible. People have no respect for you and treat you poorly. You become an outcast. I might as well die if all of that were to happen. The government really does not help people with disability by impoverishing them in the US. The labor laws really don't protect them and most jobs that do help the disabled are very low paying and still put an individual at the poverty level.
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15 Jan 2017, 12:21 pm
Deb1970 wrote:
I could sell my house and pay off most of my mortgage debt.I could file Bankruptcy on my medical and credit card debt. But I can not have my student loans written off. They are government loans and the government will garnish wages and come after me until I'm approved for disability. They will also make me sell my car and anything that is of any assets. I will become very poor and forced to live in Government low-income housing in areas of the city that have high crime rates. I will be made to get rid of my animals because they would not be allowed. I would only receive about $1000 dollars a month in disability payments. I was on disability in my 20's and it was terrible. People have no respect for you and treat you poorly. You become an outcast. I might as well die if all of that were to happen. The government really does not help people with disability by impoverishing them in the US. The labor laws really don't protect them and most jobs that do help the disabled are very low paying and still put an individual at the poverty level.
I'm sorry I can't help. Hopefully, someone better versed in the way it is in the US will be along. One thing I will say is that becoming an "outcast" is not a bad thing. Just because other people judge you and what you do and does not necessarily mean that you need to treat yourself as such. I've lived off dumplings and gravy for months on end so I had enough to feed my baby son, I've also lived off a bag of potatoes for a month and have worn second-hand clothes for years. If people judge for this, it does not lessen you, it lessens them. Good luck.
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Self-Diagnosed: Aphantasia
Your neurodiverse (Aspie) score: 152 of 200
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15 Jan 2017, 12:27 pm
0regonGuy wrote:
I'm sorry to say this, but it will only get worse...
You have worked long enough. You should devote the rest of your life to your happiness and your interests. Hopefully your disability benefits will be enough to cover your house and car expenses. I think you will feel a lot better, when you know you will have a steady income from SSDI.
You have worked long enough. You should devote the rest of your life to your happiness and your interests. Hopefully your disability benefits will be enough to cover your house and car expenses. I think you will feel a lot better, when you know you will have a steady income from SSDI.
That is my own situation today, and I still spend a lot of time thinking about all of this. I had only ever worked in my father's factory until near the end of my senior year in High School, and I had just assumed that was where I would always be until my father sold that business and I shockingly discovered the new owner had silently pulled my time card from the rack. Within just a few years I had become known as a job hopper, and today I realize I had been continually looking for the security I had previously known as a trusted son in a family business. The last job I ultimately had almost 40 years later and prior to SSDI turned out to be exactly that with a different family than my own...and I made certain they knew my appreciation!
My point: I think we Aspies tend to get stuck in the ways things were in this world when we first got started, and over the years I eventually sensed a need to pace myself carefully lest "Asperger Burnout" (I later discovered) might take me too far down too early while trying to fit into confusing, ever-changing situations and circumstances. There is more I would like to say about that and how the next person might survive better than I did, but that is as much as I presently know how to express.
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15 Jan 2017, 9:47 pm
Deb1970 wrote:
liveandrew wrote:
Deb1970 wrote:
liveandrew wrote:
I've been made redundant six times in a row and have had around twenty jobs in my life. I'm lucky that I now seem to have a job that ideally suits my strengths and takes into account my weaknesses. I do understand how debilitating losing so many jobs is (I felt truly worthless) but all I can say is to keep plugging away and try to find a job that suits your needs rather than just taking a job because it's available and you, superficially at least, fill its requirements.
Remember, the interview is just as much you interviewing the company as them interviewing you. Don't be afraid to turn down a job.
Remember, the interview is just as much you interviewing the company as them interviewing you. Don't be afraid to turn down a job.
I have to take care of myself and I have exhausted my unemployment benefits. I have to take whatever is offered to me or live with my mom and that does not pay my $85,000 debt.
s**t! I had no idea that benefits were limited like this in the US. Over here, they're reduced after a period but they are (or at least they were when I was unemployed for 3 years) enough to live on. I that case, I'd take any crappy job and keep applying for a decent one at the same time. Other than that, I have nothing. I'm so sorry!
[Edit] As for the debt. In the UK, you can declare personal bankruptcy which would cancel your debts but also make it impossible to take out any loans, including mortgages, for a certain period. Is there anything similar in the US? Other than that, we have Citizens Advice Bureaux who offer free advice for situations like this. Again, I have no idea if you have similar in the US.
I could sell my house and pay off most of my mortgage debt.I could file Bankruptcy on my medical and credit card debt. But I can not have my student loans written off. They are government loans and the government will garnish wages and come after me until I'm approved for disability. They will also make me sell my car and anything that is of any assets. I will become very poor and forced to live in Government low-income housing in areas of the city that have high crime rates. I will be made to get rid of my animals because they would not be allowed. I would only receive about $1000 dollars a month in disability payments. I was on disability in my 20's and it was terrible. People have no respect for you and treat you poorly. You become an outcast. I might as well die if all of that were to happen. The government really does not help people with disability by impoverishing them in the US. The labor laws really don't protect them and most jobs that do help the disabled are very low paying and still put an individual at the poverty level.
If you are on disability, I believe it is possible to have your student loans written off.
Total and Permanent Disability (TPD) Discharge
You do not need to sell your house or car, if you are on disability. One house and one car are exempt from any income requirements. You just need to decide if it might be better to sell your house to get rid of the mortgage debt, and then move to public housing. If you can cover the mortgage payments from your disability income and still have enough to live on, I wouldn't recommend selling your house. If you can't afford it, then pay off the mortgage and move to public housing. Your rent will be one-third of your income. Medical and credit card debt, you don't need to do anything about. They can't garnish social security income. So you can just ignore that debt.
Honestly it doesn't really sound like you have much to lose by going on SSDI.
16 Jan 2017, 10:04 am
0regonGuy wrote:
Deb1970 wrote:
I have been struggling with employment for the past year. I worked at a company for 15 yrs that was very understanding of my high functioning autism and then I was laid off last January. Since then I have had 3 jobs.
The first one lasted from March to May and I was terminated because they said they no longer needed me. I was not fired and was eligible for unemployment. It seems like I was fired, though. They said I lacked the skills they needed and there had been some modifications to my job title.
The 2nd one I quite because I could not deal with customers at the front desk of the hotel. My last day ended in my calling the police because a guest was yelling at me because he took a yogurt that was only available for guest at breakfast time. He refused to give it back.
My last job as a Digital Pro I'm sure I lost because of my constant meltdowns. Their machines were old and the owner was constantly micro managing me. They said my services were no longer needed and that they were no longer doing mailings and that was that.
I excepted a job 3 days later and I'm waiting for my background check to come back. It has been 4 days since I signed the papers and I still have not heard anything back from them. I think one of my previous employers may have said bad things about me.
I'm afraid my working days are coming to an end and I just can't seem to get my meltdowns under control. I will lose my house, car and everything if I can't work anymore. I have no one to help me.
I think my autism has gotten worse the older I get.
The first one lasted from March to May and I was terminated because they said they no longer needed me. I was not fired and was eligible for unemployment. It seems like I was fired, though. They said I lacked the skills they needed and there had been some modifications to my job title.
The 2nd one I quite because I could not deal with customers at the front desk of the hotel. My last day ended in my calling the police because a guest was yelling at me because he took a yogurt that was only available for guest at breakfast time. He refused to give it back.
My last job as a Digital Pro I'm sure I lost because of my constant meltdowns. Their machines were old and the owner was constantly micro managing me. They said my services were no longer needed and that they were no longer doing mailings and that was that.
I excepted a job 3 days later and I'm waiting for my background check to come back. It has been 4 days since I signed the papers and I still have not heard anything back from them. I think one of my previous employers may have said bad things about me.
I'm afraid my working days are coming to an end and I just can't seem to get my meltdowns under control. I will lose my house, car and everything if I can't work anymore. I have no one to help me.
I think my autism has gotten worse the older I get.
Been there, done that. I'm sorry to say this, but it will only get worse. I strongly suggest you start looking into getting on SSDI. Life is too short to waste it drifting from one crappy job to the next. You have worked long enough. You should devote the rest of your life to your happiness and your interests. Hopefully your disability benefits will be enough to cover your house and car expenses. I think you will feel a lot better, when you know you will have a steady income from SSDI.
Good luck getting it at this point considering the fact that you've not only worked before but you've worked for 15 whole years. I'm sure once they realize that you're actually capable of working they probably won't give it to you.
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16 Jan 2017, 10:42 am
I've bounced around from job to job and had some good ones at times, but they all involved customer service and I can't handle that like I used to. I tried cleaning, but I have degenerative disc disease, so I couldn't do it. I am on ODSP and a local charity paid the tuition for me to take a Medical Transcription Editing course, which I will complete in the next few months. There are a lot of work-at-home jobs for transcription editors, so I am hoping to get employment in this field.
Could retraining work for you? I think work-at-home jobs are becoming more common.
16 Jan 2017, 11:01 am
Deb1970 wrote:
I have to take care of myself and I have exhausted my unemployment benefits. I have to take whatever is offered to me or live with my mom and that does not pay my $85,000 debt.
I have noticed a pattern in employment stories here. Most job hunters focus on the job. But, the job is often secondary. What Aspies need to focus on is the company culture.
Can you wear comfortable clothes?
Can you work by yourself?
Do you need to attend meetings?
Can you turn down the bright lights?
That sort of stuff that often has nothing to do with your job/title yet will determine whether or not you will succeed.
16 Jan 2017, 1:34 pm
green0star wrote:
0regonGuy wrote:
Deb1970 wrote:
I have been struggling with employment for the past year. I worked at a company for 15 yrs that was very understanding of my high functioning autism and then I was laid off last January. Since then I have had 3 jobs.
The first one lasted from March to May and I was terminated because they said they no longer needed me. I was not fired and was eligible for unemployment. It seems like I was fired, though. They said I lacked the skills they needed and there had been some modifications to my job title.
The 2nd one I quite because I could not deal with customers at the front desk of the hotel. My last day ended in my calling the police because a guest was yelling at me because he took a yogurt that was only available for guest at breakfast time. He refused to give it back.
My last job as a Digital Pro I'm sure I lost because of my constant meltdowns. Their machines were old and the owner was constantly micro managing me. They said my services were no longer needed and that they were no longer doing mailings and that was that.
I excepted a job 3 days later and I'm waiting for my background check to come back. It has been 4 days since I signed the papers and I still have not heard anything back from them. I think one of my previous employers may have said bad things about me.
I'm afraid my working days are coming to an end and I just can't seem to get my meltdowns under control. I will lose my house, car and everything if I can't work anymore. I have no one to help me.
I think my autism has gotten worse the older I get.
The first one lasted from March to May and I was terminated because they said they no longer needed me. I was not fired and was eligible for unemployment. It seems like I was fired, though. They said I lacked the skills they needed and there had been some modifications to my job title.
The 2nd one I quite because I could not deal with customers at the front desk of the hotel. My last day ended in my calling the police because a guest was yelling at me because he took a yogurt that was only available for guest at breakfast time. He refused to give it back.
My last job as a Digital Pro I'm sure I lost because of my constant meltdowns. Their machines were old and the owner was constantly micro managing me. They said my services were no longer needed and that they were no longer doing mailings and that was that.
I excepted a job 3 days later and I'm waiting for my background check to come back. It has been 4 days since I signed the papers and I still have not heard anything back from them. I think one of my previous employers may have said bad things about me.
I'm afraid my working days are coming to an end and I just can't seem to get my meltdowns under control. I will lose my house, car and everything if I can't work anymore. I have no one to help me.
I think my autism has gotten worse the older I get.
Been there, done that. I'm sorry to say this, but it will only get worse. I strongly suggest you start looking into getting on SSDI. Life is too short to waste it drifting from one crappy job to the next. You have worked long enough. You should devote the rest of your life to your happiness and your interests. Hopefully your disability benefits will be enough to cover your house and car expenses. I think you will feel a lot better, when you know you will have a steady income from SSDI.
Good luck getting it at this point considering the fact that you've not only worked before but you've worked for 15 whole years. I'm sure once they realize that you're actually capable of working they probably won't give it to you.
I worked on and off for 30 years and had no problem getting SSDI. Social Security determined that before I stopped working, I was partially disabled. Then I became completely disabled.
My only regret is that I didn't get my diagnoses sooner, so I could have applied for SSDI sooner.
17 Jan 2017, 4:55 pm
tick wrote:
I noticed it says to the side that you are female and 46. I've heard that autism can get worse perimenopause so that might explain any increase in meltdowns.
In my case, my employment picture got weaker perimenopausally to the extent that I was no longer willing to take crap off of inept bosses.
Fortunately for me, I had so many physical disabilities that I had no trouble getting SSDI.
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