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Hello guys,

I am getting married in may (lesbian couple) and my cousin who I get along with and speak to, we see each other at Christmas and family gatherings etc, turned down my invite and decided to go to friend's wedding abroad which is on the same day. This rejection has made me feel like s**t and disliked. My cousin said the reason she turned it down is because her friend asked her first, but I am her cousin, I will always be her cousin for life, people aren't always friends forever. It is going to be weird because her parents and sister will be there.

When I see my cousin next time it will be awkward for us and I will have to be civil when I am awful at hiding my feelings and emotions. I always wanted her at my wedding, she knows I wanted her to be my maid of honour (I don't have many friends) but it shows she prefers her friends to me.

Her and my sister have always been best friends their whole lives and my sister said it shouldn't matter that she isn't coming to my wedding as me and my cousin aren't that close, the reason we aren't close is because I wasn't allowed to be part of their "click" and they shunned me from playing with them as kids and played pranks on me, even now as adults it has not changed that much.

My cousin invited me to her NYE party knowing she was going to reject my wedding invite. She knew how much this would hurt me. Her parents said they weren't going to try and convince her to come and she has now booked her flights so there is no going back.

I have always been the black sheep of the family but now it really does show I am not liked and loved by some of my family members.

Has this happened to any of you guys or something similar? I know I should be happy I am getting married which I am but it does feel like a slap in the face and this isn't just someone I can cut off as she is family.

Thank you guys in advance for your thoughts and advice

I am sorry you feel this way it feels bad when someone doesnt give back as much affection as you give them. I think the wedding will be great even though your cousin wont be there, and im veey happy for you that you are getting married. Good luck, and feel better soon!

I'm sorry that happened to you. I wish you and your fiancee the very best.

I redacted some of this post because a little bird told me some of my information was wrong. I just hate to see people turn their expectations into a reason to have a fight with family. There's this phrase in 12 step groups - Expectations are pre-meditated resentments. The truth is that we just don't control anyone. We can't understand everything that is going on inside of their heads. And I just hate to see families torn apart because one person doesn't respond to the expectations of another.

It's possible that your cousin feels very sad to miss your wedding, too, and maybe she even feels a little angry that you didn't check with her about the date if you had discussed her being your made of honor.

It just seems like your resentment is going to ruin both your wedding and your relationship with your cousin if you let it.

I hope this message is more on point. Good luck with everything. And thank you for the opportunity to work on crafting my words so that they are more accurate and less cutting.

i hate the feeling like you think your close to someone, but then they do something that proves that your not as close as as you thought you were.

This was sad. I foten dele love for proppe that just has me as a somebody.mor flode friend. But for me, Thea are cloe. I does not have other friendships than through the Internett. Anfekter og them visit me at hospital. Good luck with wedding. You arebrave an beaatyfull.

You really should try to get over your hurt and angry feelings. Clearly, you misunderstood the loyalty you thought you could command from this friend. You were wrong about how well she would honor you. It always hurts when people do not reciprocate the same level of feeling we have for them. But do not let this ruin your wedding day.

Pick someone else for your maid of honor. Why not your sister? (If she is already married, you would call it matron of honor.)

Congratulations on your wedding. I hope you can be radiant on that special day.