Feeling Like You Don't Belong

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It's bad enough I feel like I don't belong in my family, like I'm an outsider or an outcast, whatever the word is. I wish I wasn't different than my whole family. When we all get together, I can't talk to them, I have to force myself to talk. When I'm with my family, most of the time, I feel so out of place, like I want to runaway, I feel bad that I can't open my mouth & talk to them. I can talk if it one on one, I don't do good with group of people. I wish I wasn't different. I can feel like I don't belong in my town, I just wish I can be like the other people that live in my town.

Do people here feel like this?

Yeah I feel the same way. I went to a social group for Aspies for the 4th or 5th time and halfway through I got up and walked out without saying anything. I couldn't talk to the others. Most group situations make me feel weird. I can't keep up with people's humour.

I am different. I don't belong. I accept that. I don't need to.
I certainly don't belong with my relatives. I can't even force myself to use the associated "F" word. We have to stick to purely superficial conversation about food or movies or chores, because everything else is off limits. I wouldn't mind if I never saw them again.
As for the town, where I am staying at the moment, even the elderly local doctor had never met another transgender person in his life.
I too have lost interest in autism therapies and social groups because I could not make any connection with the people there. I would watch people breaking off in pairs or groups, but never one that involved me.
But I don't wish I was like any of them. There's nothing wrong with being different.

I feel like I don't belong often, lately. However, I remember times and places where I did belong, so I believe I can belong again. I just have to find the right people doing the right activity for me to participate or even excel.

I often experience difficulties making small talk, but having a shared project helps get past that social barrier.

Yeah, I don't really feel like I belong with my family for a number of reasons. I don't feel close to them anymore and it's difficult for me to be myself without annoying them in some way. I don't get any kind of emotional support or affection from them. Yet they're really all I have and I can't survive on my own, so I'm stuck with them. This situation has made me very lonely and deeply unhappy. It wouldn't be so bad if I had one or two close friends, but making friends is very hard, and even if we get on well for awhile, it always falls apart.

I don't feel as though I would belong in an AS group, because many of these people had far greater obstacles to overcome than I did. AS or not, I want to find someone who can inspire me, not make me sad. A lot of people in these groups have issues that go far beyond Asperger's and many were not fortunate to have as much support from their families as I had.

I feel exactly like you. So similar that I don't have any word of advice because I suffer from the exact same problems, haha.

I totally feel this way. My family is very understanding of my autism and they are good to me and loving. But I still feel like a complete outsider.

Every day, it's why I avoid people if possible... Even when I explain my self, in what I feel is clear. The other person doesn't understand or listen, never sure.

In my case?

I just don't have someone to sync with.
Even if people around me accepts who I'm, tries to understand me, loves me, respects me, looks up to me, and looks out for me...
It doesn't fill belongingness no matter how open I've been to others, and no matter how others are open to me all the same.

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Yes, I have always felt like an outsider and different, and I am different and an outsider. I have reached an age where I can live with that. People don't really want me around unless I can behave like a "normal" person. I can manage to do that for short periods, so I am able to sometimes be with relatives, and run errands, but I prefer being alone now, as I became a hermit type of person as I grew up. I don't expect others to conform to my way of being, and I am bothered that others expect, and try to force me to conform to their ways. No thanks. I'd rather be a hermit.

It's bad when people want you to act more normal, when I was going to therapy, one day, the therapist got me so angry & my face was red, she told me to act like an adult, I did the only thing I could, I got up & walked out of her office. I need to be myself, if people don't like it & my family don't like it then I don't need them in my life, my health is more important, but it's hard with family.

I've spend most of my life living in Cities & Neighborhoods for the weird. It was a deliberate decision, NT's can really kill an autistics dreams. The Neighborhoods I dwell in allow for dreams to happen, NT's rarely go there which helps lots.