High intellect, how not to get annoyed?

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So as a highly intelligent person i try to stay off the subject when talking with average people because i don't want to be viewed as arrogant. However i have to accept the fact that i am more intelligent than the average fella, with that said i get very easily annoyed at people because of self-conflicting, repetitive and pointless arguments when talking with people. (I have ASD as well and thought it might be common so that's why i'm posting here.)

With all that said does anyone who experience the same have any tips as to how to avoid getting frustrated with people because of their lack of equal intelligence in a conversation?

what is "average" here?

I believe the average IQ at least is around 90 - 110

EDIT: And i'm just referring to most people a person would meet in 1 day.

I am still somewhat in awe of the social abilities a wasted intellect can support - there's a lot of EQ there that I lack. Historically, I first thought that illogical people were joking, and then I tended to give them the benefit of the doubt. Now I'm trying to achieve compassion, and ponder the ethics of manipulating people who can't reason to save themselves. Parents do it, but so do psychopaths. As for avoiding frustration with slow freight, if amusement is exhausted, avoidance is the obvious course. The problem is finding a forum of high average intelligence. Dunning-Kruger is terribly common wherever you go.
I've seen other people who multi-task when bored - there was a school principal who would keep track of multiple conversations, and a couple of nerds who gave everything a maximal examination for pun potential. Some people take their knitting to a meeting. Others go for secret research on the side. When trapped in a meeting, I meditate as much as I can, and have noticed that when I do, people are friendlier to me after adjournment.

"Small minds talk about people, and average minds talk about events, while superior minds consider ideas." ~ Eleanor Roosevelt

What are some examples could I ask?

Last edited by Shahunshah on 08 Jul 2017, 5:45 am, edited 1 time in total.

Just remember that a "less intelligent" person could be much better at saving your life than a person of high intellect, but poor common sense.

See the movie "Forrest Gump." In it, a person of seemingly "subnormal" intellect was able to save about 10 peoples' lives in the space of maybe 1/2 to 1 hour.

Also: read up on Gardner's notions of "multiple intelligences."

Willful ignorance aggravates me, too.

Also My friends call me Snow, what if you are wrong?

What if the people you are talking to are of the same level as you. That could well be the case.

The other reason for talking is human contact. If somebody has become that lonely, being right about anything won't matter. For some people, human contact is more important than pizza. They're not into information or facts at all. They might join an argument for the sake of social relief, and they're more to be pitied. If you find somebody who can carry good conversation/argument, let me know!

I still relish the pizza, even amid the social contact.

WP is a great place to find a suitable argument.

From what I've read high intellect usually comes at a price as you'll probably suffer a deficiency somewhere else , so while you'd might be the sort of person someone seeks out for an intellectual chat , you may not be the best wing man or drinking buddy.

I've just noticed your age and think it's quite a common thing in normal ( whatever that is ) teenagers to feel superior and find people with less intellect annoying. I think most people grow out of it when you discover that intellect is not important in a social setting and has nothing to do with kindness , loyalty ( far more important traits IMO )

Also, beware. Stupidity does not make a person safe to be around. If upset, however foolishly, they can ruin your life.

So can a person of very high intellect. This person arrives at a solution based on narrow logic, devoid of moral application. Logic might dictate that a punch in the nose is better than a reasoned debate, because the punch takes less time.

Maybe that's an American custom? Brawling in lecture halls more than in pubs?

That belies my hypothesis. There are many more fights in pubs; people of high intellect tend to be the most vociferous participants.

In South Korea, fights frequently break out in their "congress." Their overall society preaches restraint.

I used to be a member of Mensa, the high IQ society. I'd just got divorced and moved areas so I thought it would be a good way to meet people, even though it meant social meetings in pubs. So, the only thing everyone had in common was the fact they'd scored highly in an IQ test... and you can make your own conclusions what that means. In all other respects they were an average cross-section. Some were really boring, some were not. Probably a higher percentage of sci-fi nerds (good for me) but otherwise no common thread at all. If someone sparks your interest with a particular topic, then you're away.
By contrast, I was a martial artist for a few years and we had one big thing in common... karate. Got on better with them than I did with the Mensa guys... I suppose we were too busy beating the **** out if each other to talk much.
My conclusion... high intelligence alone (however you choose to define it) is not a common interest. What matters is the subject matter. If someone is interested enough in something they will express themselve well enough.