somethings not right here....is it?

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i have aspergers....started a new job...managed to find out that a current manager and a guy that was hired a week after me both have aspergers. i should be like them right? then why do i feel so different even from them. they are socilizing so well......as though they didn't have it....and i still just feel so alone because i cant talk to anybody....i mean i can talk, but i cant really converse.....idk......rant

Everyone’s different. Aspergers isn’t a disorder it’s a difference in brain wiring, so there are as many different aspies as there are neurotypicals. There is no tick box diagnosis it’s far too big for that. The NTs have labelled it as a disorder and then everyone gets caught up in the signs and symptoms model.

You can get extroverted aspies as well as introverted aspies. Personality and life experiences also count towards how sociable and confident people are.

Don’t feel bad about yourself, you’re just more introverted than they are. Introverts get things done though

I agree, some people put up masks and pretend social interaction isn't hard. I see myself somewhere between low functioning and high functioning.

Aspies may be able to socialize without difficulty if they share a common special interest.

I have felt the same way. A lot of other Aspies seem much more outgoing and confident and good at socializing than me. Like when I went to a social group for autistics, many of the other kids were able to bond over shared interests and socialize well together and make friends, while I was left out and didn't say much. It made me wonder if there was something wrong with me, if I was worse at socializing than even other autistics.

As Arachnids said, we are all different. Our brains are atypically developed in one or a few points but then all the rest is one's individual personality.
There are aspies who are very social in some settings, most likely, a small group of people they know well. My Aspie boss makes a ritual of eating lunch together with our group. And there are ones who just don't feel the need to do such things. And ones who have so bad memories of previous social situations that they avoid them. And ones who would like to join but don't know how.
We are all different. Just like NTs are all different.