I think I may have aspergers

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Hello I am over 30 and even tho I have never been diagnosed with having aspergers I had been told in the past by professionals that I show the signs of having aspergers. Lately it is starting to make sense because I find it hard to handle social situations always having mood swings not knowing why and always feels isolated which as I did research are common signs especially the struggle in social situations. Can anyone on here give me any advice. Thanks guys

Welcome to Wrongplanet.

Could you be more specific as to what you struggle with? Have you many friends? Do you have any "special interests?"

How have your difficulties affected your adult life?

While social difficulties are probably the most significant trait for Asperger's, there are other significant traits as well.

Have you tried the Autism Quotient (AQ) test? You can find it here:
https://www.wired.com/2001/12/aqtest/

You can also find details about how to interpret the results here:
http://aspergerstest.net/interpreting-aq-test-results/

It's important to note that this test isn't a diagnosis; it's checking whether you have traits that are common among Aspies. It's entirely possible to have these traits but not have Asperger's, or to not have these traits but still have Asperger's.

I'd actually say it's far more significant that professionals have suggested that you show signs of it to be far more significant than anything the test can tell you.

http://www.adultaspergerschat.com/2013/ ... ctrum.html

I do have friends but I struggle a lot when things and situations change it's like something in me goes off and I feel completely out of my comfort zone to the point of panicking and become rude and very offish which I can never explain which has pushed people away I also feel isolated. For example I go to soccer games and I'm in a stadium with over 30000 other fans but still feel so very lonely like there is a barrier which prevents me from interacting does this make sense like I say when I was told I'm showing the signs I completely dismissed the possibility but it is making more sense

There are many things which can cause the things you experience.

I understand, in New Zealand, that it's free to get an autism assessment. Why not put yourself on a waiting list, and obtain the assessment. I guess you would go to your GP first, then the GP might refer you to a psychologist. Try to get one who specializes in autism, because many psychologists do not have updated knowledge of autism.

You're not in terrible shape, by any means.

Quite frankly, stadiums aren't the best place to interact with people---unless they are drunk LOL

I have just completed the autism test or the AQ test online and got 36 out of 50 so I reckon I will have to go to the docs the only reason I don't so far is I'm travelling in New Zealand can anyone also recommend advice such as stopping drinking healthy eating working out etc because sometimes I do feel like crap

It sounds as if you are giving yourself great advice. I never tried drinking much, but lack of exercise or bad food can put me in a depressive spiral. For more specific advice, I'd have to know more about how AS presents in your case. We are not like peas in a pod, more like the prizes grouped by being in an arcade. How are you at following good advice?

Pursue a diagnosis so you can get supports and services for those problems.

Last edited by livingwithautism on 03 Jan 2018, 10:40 pm, edited 1 time in total.

For me, the possibility that I might be on the spectrum came up for me a bit more than a week before work sent me traveling for a month.

It was quite the shock for me to find out I might be on the spectrum just before being sent traveling, but given that I was already 36 years old at the time and had survived to that point without any kind of assessment, one month more wasn't really going to make much of a difference. I decided to just wait until I got back before talking to my doctor about the possibility.

Remember, regardless of whether you're on the spectrum, you're the same person as you have been all your life - nothing has changed. When are you going to be going home? Can you survive until then before looking into this?

Then ask yourself are you actually impaired, or do you simply have the traits of AS/ASD?

Wow. So you think that just because my life didn't end because I didn't talk to a doctor about whether I have ASD until a month after the possibility came to my attention, that I'm not impaired?

I do have an diagnosis as per my signature - it's a formal diagnosis, not a self assessment. My ASD absolutely positively does affect my life. I was very glad to have received the assessment because it explains a lot about the difficulties that I've had all my life.

In no way was I suggesting that the OP doesn't need a diagnosis. He said he's traveling in New Zealand now. It's pretty hard to get a diagnosis while traveling. I was simply suggesting that he's survived 34 years without an assessment; waiting until he gets home before perusing a diagnosis (assuming he is going home within a reasonable time frame) will likely be easier than trying to get one while traveling.

Thank you for your advice. I have always struggled in social situations it's been going on for years.

I never actually said he doesn’t have it. Just it’s probably more difficult to establish an accurate diagnosis at his age. However, your signature doesn’t prove you have it. Not that you don’t.

I am traveling and won't be goin home until June 2019 so that's why I need advice how to cope with all of this. Any advice will do

I get that but you’re being too vague. Try asking for help about something specific.