Do you hate being asked questions?

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Yes, depends on the question.

If it's about myself...YES.

I don't like revealing things about myself unless the person asking the question is in a position where they can really understand where I'm coming from. I have major qualms about revealing certain parts of myself around the majority of people, because I every time I've done so, I have been ostracized, bullied, snubbed, and generally avoided by people. For instance, I am comfortable talking about my autism-related endeavors with professionals I meet in the field, families of those with ASD and with others with ASD, but not around my peers unless I am convinced that they are that open-minded to accept me completely and not patronize or pigeonhole me.

I also hate being put on the spot or being the center of attention unless people are respecting me for it... for instance, when I speak about ASD I am completely comfortable because it's a special interest, but I am anxious in general social situations where you are expected to be reciprocal in conversations and the topics involved are more fast-paced and spontaneous.

The one thing worse than folks asking you questions is folks NOT asking you questions, and just assuming things about you that arent true.

I was raised to believe that "you (should) never ask someone a personal question unless you are fairly certain of the answer." This is to save them undue embarrassment or distress.

For instance,

"How is Emily?"

could result in

"She died."

"Do you have children?"

could result in

"I did have...one died, the other is in hospital with an incurable illness."

"What do you do for a living?"

"I clean toilets. Thanks for bringing that up at a dinner party."

"What do you think of (politician name here)?"

"I can't stand them!" (they then rant for ten minutes, or get angry)

"Are you going to church this Sunday/Where do you go to church?"

"I'm an atheist!" or "Christians stole my ferret!"

I mean...you just never know. So, if you don't know a person, best to keep things vague or talk about neutral topics.

Most people don't, though. Inside of ten seconds they want to know what you drive, if you are married, where you went to school, what you do for a living, do you have any family....on and on and on.

I also think the Dad might be just trying to engage in conversation, especially considering he's in a different country. It's actually kinda cute some of the stupid questions he asked you.
My brother would begin to tell him how to make a burrito then conclude in 'and that is how you make a burrito, and now for your question' then summarise with something unhelpful.

I dislike open ended questions personally.
I often get asked random questions and I just tell them what I know and think, being sure to explain which parts are the thoughts and which are the facts. I have more of a problem with over-explaining my answers because I feel the need to word it right. I'm fine with questions even if my answer is 'I don't know' generally though.

I have a very hard time being asked certain types of questions, mainly very broad ones. Figuring this out made me understand why therapy wasn't working for me as they would always ask very broad questions such as "What's going on?" "How do you feel?", etc. Being asked very direct questions makes things a lot easier because I can understand exactly what the questioner want's to know and I'm not forced to filter down such a large amount of information trying to figure out the answer to a broad question.

If I have trouble expressing the answer to a question in understandable terms, I hate to be questioned.

If I have the ability to answer clearly I don't mind being asked questions.

I usually really enjoy answering questions or explaining things because I am basically a walking encyclopedia. But there are a few missing here and there, so if someone asked a question I don't know how to answer, it can be hard. Of course, admitting you just don't know, or that no one really knows makes you look less stupid then pretending you know the answer.

But then again, whenever Calvin's father in Calvin and Hobbes came up with a crazy made-up answer to Calvin's questions even when he knew the true answer, it was pretty hilarious.