Do We Seem Scary?

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I'm a small woman so I don't think anybody consider me scary. People actually seem to bother me a lot asking for money, asking directions, asking for a tissue. I do have a couple classmates who intentionally sit far away from me and ignore my small talks. I always thought that's because they're introverted and it's not my problem. They don't know I'm autistic of course and I really don't think it's relevant to tell them.

I've been told my "sad" expression looks more like "ready to kill someone," so the answer is yes in my case.

I too have been told that my expression looks angry a lot. My daughter said, "You do have some serious resting bitchface going on!" LOL!! ! I am used to being misunderstood. Although, I still get frustrated and paranoid about it. I would love it if all the NTs would just cut back on the feigning of emotions. That would be great. Maybe then I could understand wth is going on!

People in general don't seem to think I'm scary, but most of the time I don't know what they they think. If they think at all.

I like to think I am usually seen as friendly but I been repeatedly told (always by women around my own age) that I look like a serial killer or a pedophile. I suppose the former is a compliment since serial killers by nature look 'normal' and are usually well liked. I also had someone at work complain to a supervisor I made them "uncomfortable". How? I will never know as I was nothing but polite and professional.

As a general rule though I believe the answer is no.

Yeah, I heard several times from some women that they are scared of me.
And I am scared of them.

They say I'm unpredictable.
For me, they are unpredictable.

It's like they were dogs when I am a cat.

It is embarrassing for me when I forget to paste a fake smile on my face. I do get treated like I am looking for victims to prey on. I have made kids cry in the checkout line of a store, because I looked at them. I have had people repeatedly walk away from me when I got to close to them. Some of them even got the shakes. I am not large and did not mean to scare them.

I don't scare too many people....unless I howl like a wolf.

I'm a short, sort of husky man.

the people here do not see me as scary but as a motive for joke

I seem to scare women, when they don’t look simply disgusted, and maybe a few small men. Certainly nothing to be proud of.

I'm just a little pathetic ex-anorexic gal and I've been told that I'm "intimidating" by enormous, muscular male nurses. And when socializing on the internet I tend to freak people out. I'm "intense", or so I've been told. Once I zero-in on someone and try to make contact I say too much and it overwhelms them, I suppose. And even my mum and dad are scared of me when I haven't taken my meds. Heck, I'M SCARED OF ME when I haven't taken my meds.

I’ve often been told to visit you

I think I am not scary, although someone told me that women may be scared of me. I am not convinced. Most women ignore me (I think they are just not attracted to me, not that they would be scared of me). Other women and also children look at me for a long time, and sometimes they smile. I interpret a smiling woman differently (possible attraction) than a smiling child (find me not scary). Children sometimes ask me questions (I think they wouldn't if they would be scared of me).

Once I was standing about outside a McDonalds waiting for a friend, and these 2 kids were using me as a post to run in circles around chasing each other. That gives me the impression that kids are no way scared of me. I walked away in the end, feeling annoyed that kids even know how weak I look.

Also a couple of years ago, on the bus I was sitting in a seat at the front and it was a single seat. For some reason this seat amused this little kid who got on the bus with his mother, because as soon as he got on the bus he was crying and screaming because I was in the seat he wanted to sit in. The mother sat down and didn't seem to mind her kid standing near me crying to me that he wanted that seat. Of course this put me in an awkward situation because I felt too embarrassed to let myself get up in front of everyone to give a tantrumy kid his own way, a kid I didn't know, and his mother should be in charge of her son and sort him out, not me. But at least that proves that neither the kid nor the mother, thought I looked intimidating or scary.