HistoryGal wrote:
The idea of church seems to me to be built around NT social rituals. Sometimes a competition to see who is the holiest. Since the autistic doesn't naturally get included, she or he starts to wonder if this God cares about everyone and in some cases doubts His existence.
I don't question His existence. I just don't believe He is as concerned about rituals and popularity as some think. Reading the Gospels doesn't show Jesus as a prideful arrogant man. He is the Son of God and yet He never neglected society's marginalized classes of people.
I think this confuses God with church. Many people use church for the reasons you state, and they may consider that their relationship toward God. One could argue that God really has nothing to do with churches, though. Didn't Spinoza say something like we should love God without expecting Him to love us back? I think in theology, philosophy, and art you'll find many ideas of God that are much more nuanced and not people-centric.
One other important point in the Gospels is that Jesus also tells the disciples that they never really understood his teachings. You could read that as a metaphor for Christians and their relationship with the Bible.
I wouldn't take too many churchgoers seriously since most have probably not read the Bible, anyway. Church is a symbolic act that means different things to different people, kind of like weddings. Weddings are not necessary for commitment or love, though.