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Prometheus18
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30 Sep 2018, 12:18 pm

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I wasn't diagnosed with Asperger's until the age of sixteen despite having told my doctors that I believed I had the condition several times before.

On top of that, I've seen about four or five psychologists over the years and not one of them was able to help with my anxiety, which I consider my real problem.


I think a lot of medical professionals can't help Aspies because anxiety is actually caused by issues they can't really fix, like getting you a job that doesn't suck or improving your living conditions. It may also be that you have very legitimate issues for being anxious, like wanting to have kids but can't even get a date. Or worrying about how you will live after your parents pass, given that you can't live independently.


Personally, my anxiety is primarily existential - I usually can't link it to any specific cause.

I've never wanted children and consider reproduction immoral. I've never met a woman I wanted to date and I've always been more or less living independently since I was a child (I realised at the age of about ten that other people couldn't be relied on).



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01 Oct 2018, 8:14 am

Prometheus18 wrote:
Personally, my anxiety is primarily existential - I usually can't link it to any specific cause.


Could it just be that you are an Aspie living in a neurotypical world? That you are forced to "mask" or conform to the norms of society which makes you uncomfortable. For instance, I've been criticized for dwelling on a topic right here, though the OP did apologize when I pointed out that was typical Aspie behavior. Sometimes it takes me a long time to make a point. Otherwise known as the "wall of text" you see here. I do try to break it up into bite sized pieces. I can run a line of thought for very long time. I usually try to hide the fact that I remember conversations made months or years ago, as that seems to creep some people out.



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01 Oct 2018, 1:41 pm

BTDT wrote:
Could it just be that you are an Aspie living in a neurotypical world? That you are forced to "mask" or conform to the norms of society which makes you uncomfortable. For instance, I've been criticized for dwelling on a topic right here, though the OP did apologize when I pointed out that was typical Aspie behavior. Sometimes it takes me a long time to make a point. Otherwise known as the "wall of text" you see here. I do try to break it up into bite sized pieces. I can run a line of thought for very long time. I usually try to hide the fact that I remember conversations made months or years ago, as that seems to creep some people out.


Typical Aspie behavior, BTDT. Typical.

Oh, that's not a criticism or a put-down. More of a reaffirmation if anything. I agree entirely.

Interestingly, I've noticed older Aspies (50+, no name calling, but half a century of living under their belt) tend to fall into two camps. One camp says Asperger's gets easier to manage with age as they live and learn. A second group says Asperger's gets harder. As a person ages, energy decreases, including the energy required to mask. I think I'm bound for the latter group.



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01 Oct 2018, 8:01 pm

The older I get, the more I learn. The more I learn, the more I know. The incremental gains mean that the better I know, the better I can do. I learn from a huge range of sources. Not the least of these are wonderful novels by very accomplished novelists.

At any age, when you know better, you can do better - I hope I never stop learning no matter how old I become. And I am already pretty old, though my mind is a sharp as ever.



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01 Oct 2018, 8:24 pm

There is a wealth and power gap that increases as Aspies get older. Some of us are lucky to have skills society considers valuable, so we are well compensated for what we do. This even extends to having friends. Which I define as people who will take time out their day to drive you somewhere.

I've been generous with my talents, sharing what I've done rather than trying to monetize it. Why? Because if I give it away, I get positive feedback that makes it easy for me to create even more, And I've been lucky to always have enough.

While power and wealth aren't exactly "magic bullets," some ammunition certainly helps in these uncertain times.



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02 Oct 2018, 8:13 pm

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Psychiatry is a joke


Yes, this is true. I explain:

Psychology is not about healing but more about controlling. It is not about giving an objective view of an individual, rather about how society looks at the individual.

Physiology or dentistry for example are the opposite. The subject is my fractured bone or a problem with my teeth. They solve the problem clearly.

Psychololy therefore is ridiculous for claiming a high status.


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04 Oct 2018, 11:17 am

Dear WP members
Alexander Plank has granted me permission to post a study on therapy experiences of people on the spectrum.
However I seem to not be able to post a new topic, I'm only able to post a reply within a thread.

When I write a new topic and hit Submit I get a blank white page (tried both Chrome/explorer).
Is it because I'm a new user maybe?

If someone could help me I'd appreciate it very much?

Thanks

PS. my apologies for interrupting the conversation



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04 Oct 2018, 1:00 pm

Sounds like site glitches , nothing to do with you being a new member. Try again.


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04 Oct 2018, 2:11 pm

Now it works.
Thank you :)