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03 Nov 2018, 2:58 pm

I'm curious as a client my granddaughter cares for who is autistic with learning problems went to a funeral on Friday and said he'd show her photos.



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03 Nov 2018, 3:10 pm

Nooooo. I've never heard of doing that. It would be regarded here in the UK as utterly insensitive.



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03 Nov 2018, 3:18 pm

No! It's both morbid and disrespectful!

I've given instructions to my wife and relatives to not allow any photographs of my dead body. I believe that if people missed the opportunity to take pictures of me while I was alive, then it's too bad for them.

I tell them to take pictures of me only while I'm alive.

Maybe I should just request a closed-casket funeral, and have them post a collage of pictures of me doing things I like to do.



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03 Nov 2018, 3:21 pm

I know from a genealogy group (on Facebook, I think) that in specific places of the US, this is commonplace, including pictures of the deceased in the casket.

I've never seen it done, though. It does seem both morbid and insensitive.

It might be a holdover from the early days of photography, coinciding with the Victorian era. Many people were too poor for routine personal photographs, but a "souvenir" photo of the dead person was a way of memorializing them.


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03 Nov 2018, 3:33 pm

hire a courtroom sketch artist instead.


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03 Nov 2018, 3:34 pm

firemonkey wrote:
I'm curious as a client my granddaughter cares for who is autistic with learning problems went to a funeral on Friday and said he'd show her photos.


My family takes family photos at funerals because it's the only time most people are in one place.



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03 Nov 2018, 3:36 pm

I'm literally going to display my head on a stake on my tomb stone because I think it would look cool to see when people are revived in revelation. The dead won't care if you take pictures, it's just a final way to remember them. Maybe you didn't have many from their life, and want some kind of keepsake.


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03 Nov 2018, 8:44 pm

I've never heard of that before and no, I wouldn't do it.


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03 Nov 2018, 8:50 pm

I heard of goth people & people who are very dark & into morbid things(like one of the girls on The Loud House) doing stuff like that.


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03 Nov 2018, 8:56 pm

Taking photos of the attendees might be okay -- IF the deceased's family approves.

But taking photos of the deceased -- especially "selfies" with the deceased -- is just plain sick, sick, sick!



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03 Nov 2018, 9:06 pm

People hire professional photographers here and even have a video made of the event.
It's a lovely keepsake, and usually done very tastefully.
I myself have never taken photos at a funeral though.


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03 Nov 2018, 9:11 pm

EWWW!! ! That's creepy! 8O



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03 Nov 2018, 9:21 pm

BeaArthur wrote:
I know from a genealogy group (on Facebook, I think) that in specific places of the US, this is commonplace, including pictures of the deceased in the casket.

I've never seen it done, though. It does seem both morbid and insensitive.

It might be a holdover from the early days of photography, coinciding with the Victorian era. Many people were too poor for routine personal photographs, but a "souvenir" photo of the dead person was a way of memorializing them.


I re-checked the OP, and I didn't read it as saying that photos of the deceased in an open casket were involved. I sounded to me as if it was photos of the event, the mourners, and so on, was what was being spoken of. I don't see there is anything necessarily disrespectful about that. State funerals are generally televised, and I don't think anyone regards that as morbid, creepy or inappropriate.



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03 Nov 2018, 9:33 pm

I wouldn't, but I'm not much for taking pictures anyway.

I do know that streaming funerals is a thing though.


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03 Nov 2018, 9:57 pm

It was hard to tell what the person my granddaughter was talking about was intending to do. She did say he was not very good when it came to displaying emotions. He might just have been intent on taking pictures of the mourners and the church.



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03 Nov 2018, 10:48 pm

Death makes people act strangely. When my grandfather died last year, my stepgrandmother wanted a family picture standing in front of his casket. My mom said she was out of her mind, but took the photo anyway just to make her happy. She also wanted photos of all the flower arrangements and the church.

I personally wouldn’t just photograph a funeral, but death makes everyone act differently.


(My stepgrandmother btw, as far as we are aware, is NT)