I'm only at peace when I'm by myself and its quiet

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When I'm in public and theres noises around me and lots of people I don't feel right. I feel slightly on edge. Sometimes at school I will just sit in the bathroom stalls as a way for me to escape noise and people. I'm happiest when I'm in nature, all alone.

I feel the same way and I'd dare say most people on this site do.

If I lived in Alaska I'd build a log cabin in the wilderness and live as a hermit for the rest of my life.

Haha yes! The hermit idea is my ultimate plan. There is a small town in Alaska with around 300 people called "Seldovia". I've been there only a few times but I consider it the most beautiful place on earth. I want to have a cabin there when I'm older. My mom said "You're gonna live all alone like a hermit, with nobody near you? What an awful life."

Not to disturb your revelry, but me too. I have a theory that this trait is natural to cultures who are indigenous to Earth and not to cultures who have been genetically altered by aliens to create plastic.

You're not alone. You will probably feel that way all of your life and have to learn to adapt as you see fit depending on the number of and kind of relationships you wish to have in life.

The only time I can truly at peace is alone. Close family causes me the least amount of stress but any other human being gives off an energy (for lack of a better description) of varying degrees depending on the person the second they walk in the room. Humans are intense, they are not neutral to me.

I assume you're younger since you mention school. If so, you're worlds ahead of me coming to such a realization of what "makes you tick". I was oblivious to this fact for most of my life.

Just responding because I actually do live in Alaska and this is definitely the best place to hermit. Also, lots of quiet spaces out in the wilderness for those who can't afford to build a cabin.

You're all incredibly lucky; I live in Europe where land is super expensive and the population is extremely dense. I can't remember a time in my life when I couldn't at least hear cars in the distance, even in the middle of what passes for the countryside over here.

Well not so lucky anymore. I just moved to the netherlands and I cant seem to find nature anywhere!

I am the same way! Nature is so calming, but only on my own. I have tried hiking/walking with friends but only once.

There are many just like you in the world! I've survived 63 years so far and seem to be doing OK.

Me too. Even with a close friend I am a little on edge always trying to pay attention to everything they say etc. plus social anxiety making me constantly self concious about every word I say, how I say it and how I move when walking - everything... When I still went to school I had to take aspirin everyday from the headache of being tense around other people all day. Could get so bad I couldn't even wear my headphones because they only increased the feeling of pressure around the head.

Nah I am definietely most at peace by myself as well. I often feel relieved after i'm done hanging out with a friend which feels horrible but I can't help it because finally I get to be alone again. I love my friends but that's how I function.

Me, too, and I have always known that, but it took me decades to act on it. I now live in the woods in a small cabin. I have a husband, but he is a lot like me in that he doesn't need interaction. Plus, he works outside the home and goes away on weekends for the kinds of things most other people do on weekends. I am welcome to accompany him, but I really don't like to go where there are big crowds (read: more than 2 other people.)

I just got back from 12 days in the wilderness, in a canoe, in Canada. By myself, It is amazingly refreshing. I feel like my soul opens up again and I can breathe.

I spent a lot of my life not following what I knew inside was where I needed to be. There is that maxim about how changing where you live will not fix your problems because they come with you. That always shamed me into not acting on my dream. I wish I had listened to my inner voice sooner.

I'm the same way; I've been wanting to live in the woods since 9th grade. I was thinking about Vermont for a while, but I feel like a lot of the laws make it difficult up there. I think I'd need someone to live with, though, to talk the logistical things through with and to avoid getting lonely. I am glad that some of you guys on this and other threads have figured it out

Same. Always want to be alone, I'm most comfortable, happy and at peace that way with my dogs.
When I used to have an office job, I attended a few business conventions. I actually took my lunch into a bathroom stall and ate it there because I just needed to decompress from all the noise, lights and activity. I needed a break so bad and that was the only place I could think of to go.

Ah, The Alaskan Dream. I've thought about it often.

I'd also say that, aside from being in quiet and solitude, peace also comes on overcast days. When it's overcast, my muscles/body are less tense, and I feel more like myself.



For years I've had dreams where I'm trying to find the bathroom in a very crowded place, or even trying to eat in a crowded bathroom. A desperate search for the relaxation others take for granted.

I'm comfortable around friendly people and friendly conversational noise. I have come to like being social. Quiet is comforting for me, too, up to a point. Then I begin thinking of things I did wrong or failed to do right and it isn't so peaceful anymore.

I'm bloody sick of having to wear earplugs permanently, to be honest.