Can anyone handle screams?

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I seem to be cursed, I grew up with a screaming mother, and after decades of that nonsense I happen to move to a place which, and only after I moved did they build structures that attract children (after six months of hell on earth, and I moved here for the hypothetical quiet, someone told me "I hope it's not too quiet for you" before I get infernal jackhammers... to put tiles on grass, as if this ever made sense). So, after that hell for which I needed to abandon my housing an immeasurable amount of screaming children sometimes flood the front here, like it's some damn crèche. I'm so cursed, every time I move something happens, I'm expecting a council-mandated Godzilla next time...

I am with you. My wife is a screamer. She is pretty accommodating with most things, but not this. I wish she would understand what it does to me.

Hate any sort of Screaming or load noise, it's physically painful.

I used to scream a lot when I was little.

I yelled at my parents a lot when I was having meltdowns related to them. We live in a townhouse apartment & there's lots of kids around that hang out outside around our place & they would yell & screech or bang basketballs against our door. This time of year they don't go outside much cuz of the cold & snow. What's really annoying thou is the neighbor's heavy bass he usually puts on in the afternoon & last throughout the evening. We don't want to be downstairs then because we'll get headaches. Property management doesn't give a sh!t about our place. We're trying to move but are on waiting list for places. We tried & hoped we could get a certain place but that fell through.

I'm with you on the screaming kids part. I can't tolerate it...that's why I don't want any kids of my own.

We hear our neighbors yelling a lot. The 1s on one side are an older couple & at least one of them is half death literally. They yell at each other & others who are over a lot but it's kinda funny. The guy on the other side(guy who plays the heavy bass) yells at his daughter a lot cursing her out & she's like 10. It's sad but I'd much rather hear him yelling at her than hear his damned heavy bass.

No.

I can tolerate it but not for very long. Can't tolerate with kids though.

When an infant screams, the child is telling their parents something is wrong. It is an inherited natural reaction. As an infant transitions to childhood, screaming takes on another role. It helps to vent the stress energy that build up in the neck and vocal cords. Aspies encounter an extreme amount of stress. It is almost our middle name.

So you may not be able to tolerate others screaming especially if you are hypersensitive to sound. But on the other hand it would be beneficial for you to scream every now and then. But do it in a socially acceptable manner. This will release some of your stored stress energy.

I live in the country and my dog is a free range dog. When it is meal time, I call my dog, very loudly. My voice carries about a mile. It gives me a sense of great strength, like I could split a mountain in two just with my voice alone. You might try howling like a wolf at the moon. There is a person on this site that howls at the subway cars as they pass by deep down in the subway stations in New York City. But there are other ways to scream in a socially acceptable manner. A singer can do this if it is a very powerful song. A barker in the county fair can do this. Or find yourself a soundproof room.

So I will offer one suggestion. It might not make a lot of sense but you might try it.
Go out in your yard and call your dog. It doesn't matter that you don't have a dog. But let us say that you have an imaginary dog called Rusty. Scream at the top of you lungs "RUSTY, come here puppy, RUSTY. Where are you puppy? RUSTY." Do this in a slow, very loud voice, a couple times about once per day. Pretend that you are calling your dog for a meal.

This will accomplish the following. 1. It will help you vent stress energy stored in your neck. 2. It will give the neighbors the impression that you have a lost dog or that you are a little crazy. In the end after several weeks, the parents in the neighborhood will deduce that you are a little off and will tell their children to avoid you and stay away. You might be dangerous.

Who knows but maybe one of the kids in the neighborhood might even show up one day with a puppy and say "Mister, Is this your dog?"