Were you overall shy/reserved as a kid?

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Nope. I was a rather pampered little 'oujosama' when not in therapies.
Convinced I was meant for greatness, confident in my abilities, nurtured and petted by nuclear family (except my mom who was more like a crazy teen uncle).
Though I did not like being crowded I did not mind performing for the positive feedback. I loved the camera, the camera loved me.
I just need breathers between performances to stay balanced and stable.



I do surprisingly well in service positions (waitress, cashier, customer service, hotel staff) though less face time is preferred type of employment with little exception (fav jobs after army is loss prevention and working in postal distribution center. And working as an event hostess. And the least lucrative was as a mgr at toys r us- who can't like having resume title of triple world leader?!)

I also am surprisingly tolerant noise and mistakes of young things, children of course included in this. But I am very strict and even aggressive if same things are caused by adults. I liked babysitting and find children fascinating. My tolerance for noise is low in all other aspects I have to decompress if my job requires a noisy and busy environment (like at a club, machinery, driving

I wasn't reserved ENOUGH as a kid. I called out most of the answers in class, and got thrown out all the time.

I was awkward socially, and took everything literally, and was entertainment for all the other kids (through my throwing of temper tantrums). But I wasn't shy.

I was shy with girls, though, until my late teen years.

I was selectively mute unless I was asking for something or talking about my special interest.

I was extremely shy in some ways, and in others incredibly loud and off-putting; I was the "class clown" until I was about 14, after which time I matured and, I suppose, became the "quiet boy".

I was extremely shy. I have always called it being fear based. My mom says this did not start until I was about 3 years old. I would freak out if I did not know where she was even if she just stepped out to the garage to do laundry. When I started school I was afraid to speak up. I even failed year 4 geography because the teacher for that class did all her exams orally and simply called on each student to stand up beside their class and answer questions out loud. I knew the answers but was so freaked out I could only mumble "I don't know" and then sit back down. It was much the same with things I might want to do as a child. Other kids might be playing something and I could not work up the courage to join in even if they asked me to. I was too afraid if I was not good at it they would make fun of me. I was very clumsy. I missed out on a lot of things just because I would not take the risk. I sat and read a lot.

Deegie

Yes, I was very shy, preferred to be alone and was afraid to speak my mind.

I was, and I think developing Bipolar Disorder in addition to Aspergers has caused me to become somewhat mouthy. Especially if I feel like somebody is threatening me or provoking me. I can't keep a lid on my anger or hurt feelings anymore like I used to.

Yes, especially at ages 6-7. I would barely speak to anyone other than my family and the couple friends that I had. I came out of my shell a bit after that, but I still was overall shy.

between 6 and 12 i was a bit shy and reserved, but when i turned 13, it got a lot worse. right now i am bordering on agoraphobia, hermit.

Social Anxiety Disorder, age 25 diagnosed
autism, 21 diagnosed

Just out of curiosity, did you have selective mutism because it sounds like more than just being shy.

I was reserved but not shy. I spent the large majority of my childhood wanting to be accepted but also looking down on the other kids because they weren't as smart as me. Arrogance, as it turns out, is not a pro social quality to cultivate.

It does seem like I might have, but I'm not sure. I didn't totally refuse to speak to people, I just avoided it as much as possible. But if someone asked me a question that required more than nodding/shaking my head, I'd answer them. But it was definitely very rare for me to initiate conversations with people. I wouldn't even ask my teachers for help in kindergarten/1st grade even if I was really stuck or didn't know what to do on whatever I was working on. Even as an adult, there are certain people I feel way more comfortable around and will talk to a lot, and others that I'll pretty much barely speak to unless it's really necessary or I'm just in an unusually talkative mood.