"He's like a big kid." Is this how people think of us?

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kraftiekortie
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16 Apr 2019, 5:32 pm

Thanks. I appreciate all the nice things you're saying.



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17 Apr 2019, 7:22 am

I dislike the term "cute" being used in such a condescending, naive manner



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17 Apr 2019, 11:23 am

Summer_Twilight wrote:
Hi:
I ran into a woman who works in another department which is two floors down below mine who works with another former friend of mine who is also on the spectrum. I asked her how he was doing and she proceeded to tell me about how he's "Like a big kid with his humor and his superheroes and that it's cute that he's writing a novel." When I talked to her, it sounded very phony.


Some people are being phony and some peoples mannerism and 'forced' smile makes them appear phony.

I agree that calling people cute or a big kid tends to be a mix of affection and condescension. I work with a lady on the spectrum who calls our boss cute for a number of reasons.

Some people are big kids and I'm one of them :-)



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17 Apr 2019, 5:56 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
I've made some stupid mistakes----and I'm still making them.

At least now I can see the mistakes, and try to rectify them.

My mother doesn't really think I'm "solid." She thinks I'm sort of the type that doesn't assert himself. And that I assert myself in the wrong places.


Mothers frequently never see their offspring as grown up. :D


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19 Apr 2019, 8:30 am

blazingstar wrote:
Mothers frequently never see their offspring as grown up. :D


Somehow this seems pretty true considering most parents generally always see their adult children as "children" and even more so if that adult child is autistic



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20 Apr 2019, 2:23 am

kraftiekortie wrote:
People often think that I'm a "big kid."

It's a combination of affection and condescension that I sense in their attitude.

I don't know-----I just don't like acting all "professional" or whatever. I like acting like me.


I read somewhere that a part of the brain that develops in NTs doesn't in auties...
We tend to remain childlike which makes it easy for NT predators...
I don't pretend either...



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21 Apr 2019, 2:09 pm

It is because many autists do have "childish" interests. Many autists seem to be quite immature too. Especially the lower functioning autists. Of course not all autists are childish.